hi,

when we feel bad, we're in a momentum of feeling bad , so trying to feel good in this momentum will create a resistance and we feel even worse. because we chose the experience of feeling bad!!, and now we dont accept our choosing !. by trying to feel good we actually gudge ourselves, our choises, our judgment and our intuition. we unconsciously are filled with shame and judgment and creat alot of resistance and more anger.

it is better to allow your self to feel bad or angry when you do and just go with that momentum.

it is easier to stop this momentum before its starts, meaning to predict it or more accurate - accept that its going to be there and change percpective about it. and that is by start the day feeling good. we start every day with a freash momentum, so we can deside how we're going to feel. so slowly we learn how to control our feelings or reactions to things.

We are programmed to seek a better feeling all the time. Even the serial killer is trying to feel better, and the best way of feeling better he knows is to seek and kill his next victim.

What you are describing in your question is two possible ways to feel better:

a) Neutralise / replace / reprogram the current bad feeling with a better feeling thought.

b) Feel the current bad feeling fully, till it burns itself out.

Even in (b), you are hoping that you'll be left with a better feeling. You are not aiming to keep the current bad feeling burning forever. Why would you?

So you are always aiming to feel better, consciously or unconsciously. If one is consciously aiming to feel worse, then there is really no point of living.

There is another key aspect to feeling better consciously. It is this: as you practise feeling better consciously, the quality of your life improves over time. There is no argument about this in my mind because I have seen this in my life beyond doubt.

This is not to say that consciously feeling good will always get you what you want within a particular timeframe, because manifestation is tricky business, especially for things you have wanted for a long time. And deliberate creation takes a serious amount of skill contrary to popular belief. But what I can say categorically is that the conscious practice of feeling better will take to a stage where the absence of the things you want will cause you much less pain than before, and your life will in general be peaceful and easy. This may be good enough for most people. It's certainly good enough for me most of the time. I notice from time to time that something that used to really bother me five years ago is either a) still there but doesn't bother me or b) Has vanished altogether.

With all that out of the way, the summary is: Feel better any way you can. Whatever way suits you is fine, as long as you can feel better reasonably quickly.

Good question.

Very recently it has dawned on me that for at least some of us, life experiences have left us unable to really feel our feelings in a way that actually allows us to move up the emotional scale. I do think that "just feel better" is always the answer. I believe that this is pretty pure biology: even very basic life moves away from a painful stimulus and toward a pleasurable one, I think it's the organization of most beings. But many humans have grown up in families and cultures that caused us to radically suppress our emotions, so now we can't always accurately tell how we feel, or what feels better. If you use Abraham's GPS analogy, I think many of us believe we're starting in a place we're nowhere near, so then the directions aren't accurate, and they don't "work".

I think @Stingray above is absolutely correct that when you're on average vibrating in any of the powerless emotions (despair, depression, shame) then temporary anger is the path to more empowerment and better feeling. But if you come out of an environment that caused you to suppress anger to survive, anger might not "feel better". The mildest flicker of life-giving anger might cause you to panic and shut down and feel awful. So you logically (but mistakenly) believe, well, that doesn't feel better, that doesn't work. So you try to make big huge jumps from feeling some kind of powerlessness to something sunny and optimistic, which you can kinda fake for a little while, but I don't think it's real movement for most.

It sounds like you're realizing that fuly feeling negative emotions rather than shying away from them produces some kind of positive result for you? To me that makes complete sense. When you can stop resisting how you actually feel, and fully feel it, or move those emotions through and out of the body (whatever your metaphor is), THEN you can move to a better feeling emotion.

Trust yourself!