My research has shown strong support for EFT, but more recently, there are more numerous reports favoring the release technique. Which do you feel is more effective? asked 02 Jan '11, 12:09 The Prophet Barry Allen ♦♦ |
The Release Technique is one of a family of methods that are variations of The Sedona Method. I studied and used all those methods for a few years before stumbling across EFT. Is there value in those Sedona Method approaches? Absolutely, there is. Is there value in EFT? Absolutely, there is. Which is better? Well, to me, that's a bit like saying "which color is the best one?" Everyone will have their own preference based upon their unique personality characteristics and the life experiences they have encountered. I would just go with whichever method you feel most comfortable using, if any, regardless of whatever others say (including me!) I know this might not be the absolute "right or wrong" answer you are looking for, but I don't think there is one. When consciousness is involved, whatever you think is right is usually right (at that moment). Personally, I find EFT highly effective but I probably do it slightly differently to others. I think where many stumble and fail with EFT is in misunderstanding what EFT achieves. Basically, when you are tapping, whatever negative emotions you are focused upon in your consciousness at the time of the tapping are neutralized/harmonized. Where I think people go wrong with EFT is that they have an emotional disconnect between the words they are using to elicit the negative state and the actual negative state. For example, let's say that I'm trying to feel better about someone I dislike. With EFT, many people might tap on the statement "I hate Joe" and thereby hope to neutralize it. However, just reciting those words are not enough. Those words must elicit the state of hatred towards Joe. If you are not feeling that hatred at the time of the tapping, nothing will change. So a shortcut to using EFT is not to use any statements whatsoever but just to take some time and conjure up the feeling of hatred towards Joe in whatever way you can. Then when you have made your hatred as strong as you possibly can, just tap on it using EFT with the intent to release it (instead of using tapping statements)...and then, almost magically, that hatred will simply and permanently melt away. Doing it this way is a highly effective way to use EFT. I recently stumbled across Robert Smith's Faster EFT approach which does exactly this idea of forgetting about the tapping statements and just focusing instead on eliciting the state to neutralize...I find that often those verbal tapping statements just get in the way and give people the mistaken impression that the method doesn't work when, in fact, it's simply that they haven't tasted the belief they want to change. The other major mistake I think people make with EFT is in not dealing with the actual problem but a symptom of it. For example, someone may be upset about their spouse criticizing them and think that is the problem to tackle with EFT when, in fact, the real problem is that they have a general sense of unworthiness within themselves. Tackling this issue is probably beyond the scope of this (already long) answer but, again, Robert Smith has some nice systematic ideas for dealing with it, in case anyone is interested. answered 02 Jan '11, 18:25 Stingray Thats what ive been waiting for...some decent links.
(02 Jan '11, 19:10)
Monty Riviera
So if lets say youe were really concerned abou an upcoming invoice you had to pay,would you wait until the feelings were at a very high level? When they had got to this THEN you would tap whilst the feeling was strong. BUT when you started tapping would you then affirm against the feeling OR almost embrace it. What would be the mindset once tapping has started. Im with you on the first bit i think. To neutralise the feeling we must start with having the feeling.Second bits the one i need to clarify. Thanks
(02 Jan '11, 19:31)
Monty Riviera
Bearing in mind that what I am describing is not "textbook EFT", then, yes, amp up the feeling yourself (you don't have to wait - you can force it up) until you feel it strongly, then tap. You can say a statement such as "Release and let it go" as you tap on each spot. It's really as simple as that
(03 Jan '11, 12:37)
Stingray
I just wanted a small clarification on this. When you are actually tapping the points, what to feel, the negative feeling/emotion or the feeling of releasing it?
(04 Feb '11, 09:14)
Sourabh
I saw a few videos of David Childerly on youtube where he uses EFT with positive affirmations. So can EFT be used both for neutralizing negative emotions and for strengthening positive beliefs too?
(04 Feb '11, 09:16)
Sourabh
@Sourabh - when tapping you feel the emotion that is bothering you...the releasing will happen naturally. And yes, you can use EFT for strengthening positive beliefs too but I personally don't find it as powerful as methods like Abraham's Positive Aspects or Rampages of Appreciation. For me, the act of focusing on written words (whether on paper or on-screen) seems to work better. But try it with EFT too if you want and see what happens. I'm constantly experimenting and I don't see anything wrong with that.
(05 Feb '11, 07:52)
Stingray
@ Stingray - Thank you, that was really helpful :)
(05 Feb '11, 08:12)
Sourabh
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Ive been on u tube and learned a LITTLE about this method.Im not sure what the rationale is behind it. I would be very grateful for any decent links regarding this as its something ive been looking into. Good question Neil, i hope you get plenty of replys.I will watch this post with interest. Graham answered 02 Jan '11, 12:44 Monty Riviera |
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