Is there no-one else you can trust to help you with this? Someone you could maybe hire and introduce gradually to your Mom, with you present, until there is some sort of bond of trust formed between them.

Most seniors are very set in their ways and do not like change so besides the dementia, your Mom is probably also suffering from fear and maybe panics when you're not there. Instead of just asking for the situation to improve, maybe you could put it as asking for help to take care of your Mom.

I know it's not easy but I think the more you can stay focused on feeling good yourself, the quicker a solution will present itself. Good luck and keep smiling, it will work out :-)

Hey I think.I googled "Tolle on guilt" and got this page http://talentdevelop.com/articles/OGAE.html It is a discussion from the Oprah show with a mother that has a child that has autism and must work 9-5 and leave child with a nanny and her guilt about that: I personally like a lot that Eckhart Tolle says.Peace

You write that "There is no cure for her and I'm afraid if I ask for this situation to improve it might result in her death as that is the only solution to this situation." I take it that you would feel guilty if she were to pass on?

My Grandfather was lingering near death years ago, and it went on for really quite a long time. He did have his mind, so I can't know exactly how you feel, but it was his body which was long gone. This was difficult for everyone: so many trips to the hospital, the worry, seeing him in that state, constantly making decisions and so forth. The deterioration was not something reversible and he was very old. As you said about your Mom, there was only one possible outcome by that point.

I remember leaving his side one of the days, and praying on my way home that he would feel able to move on from his sick body and go to the other side where he would be OK again. I prayed that his loved ones would come for him in due time. When I got home, I visualized him with other relatives on the other side, happy, relieved and healthy.

A couple of evenings later, I came home from a class, and my brother in law broke the news to me that my Grandfather had passed on.

To be honest, I didn't feel at all guilty about the prayer. I wanted him to be healthy and happy again, not to live as he was living---sick and in pain with no control over his life and no hope of getting better. And yes, I wanted the family to have some relief from the long ordeal, but I made sure the prayer included the phrase, "In due time, when he is ready to let go and his loved ones are ready to greet him."---something like that.

If you were to pray and hope that the "situation improves", and she were to pass on, isn't that going to be the outcome anyway? I wish I could say this more gently, but am unsure of how to! It can't be that she is happy. It sounds as if she is not well and not herself anymore. Of course this is hard on you to shoulder it all, but I'm sure that isn't even your motivation. It is not selfish of you to want the best for her and to see her move on from this "in due time".

I would like to put forward a different perspective in relation to your situation. One is that the law of attraction is also working for your mother. Think about that. I dont wish to sound cold or cruel but you do not know why she may have attracted this situation in her life. The second thing is that you still have a lot of control here. You need to decide what is it that you would really like to happen. Do you want people who can give you support to help take care of her, people that she will be comfortable with? Do you want a home to put her in? After you decide what you want then that is what you must try to manifest. You can manifest this by affirming it and visualizing it. You have choices and should exercise them.

The next consideration is whether there is something going on between the relationship between you and your mother that makes you feel guilty or some sense of responsibility. If this is the case then you need to explore that and come to some resolution. I hope you find something that works for you becuase it does seem like a very stressfull situation.

...although for the past few days since I have started working on EFT, my belief systems and LOA my outlook has become much happier and cheerful. My question is how can I make this situation better?

You already are making the situation better by improving your outlook. Keep working at it. Stay focused on what it is that you want, which is peace of mind. That is under your control.