Terrifying. Incredibly freeing and empowering. Worth it.

When all is said and done, for me anyway, it is about trust and self respect. You trust that you will be fine if you respect yourself enough to let go of something that is not right for you. Then you just light yourself on fire and walk out on that wire.

I had this kind of experience a couple of months ago, and it has been life changing on so many levels, all of it very positive. After the dust settled, I found it so much easier to take good care of myself - to say no to things and to people when I need to, and not feel bad. That is part of why it is so freeing - once you make that decision to put the care of yourself first, everything changes. I much more easily say yes to what is good in life, so life is getting better and better.

I have much less struggle with figuring out what is the "right" thing to do. I see now that if it is right for me, it is right, period. So much good stems from that, it's hard to describe. It all works out - I know it can sound incredibly selfish, but it works out because when you are fully you, your vibration is so high you create more of what is good around you, for yourself and for others. It also makes life much easier for anyone who loves you and hates to see you struggle, or to see your light dimmed in any way.

It has given me new perspective and insight that I couldn't have predicted. It turned out that there were facets of this same situation all over my life. Easy to see and deal with now, so more changes and goodness are flowing from many different sources, into these areas, too. Of course, when you feel so free and happy, you will just attract more reasons to feel free and happy. I have never looked back. Not once.

I let go. I lived. I'm living happily ever after. I have no doubt at all that you will too. Good decision. Good for you!

Sending you lots of encouraging strength and love,

Grace.

:)

Well, Lapis, I have to admit that I am not very good at surrendering...So perhaps I should not be writing at all. But I can so relate to your situation that I just had to say something....

I guess I bought into my dear old Dad's All-American "Do it or Die" way of facing life, even when in my heart, I knew I was doing the wrong thing for myself. I've even used the Bible to justify some pretty foolish decisions. When my ex-husband wanted to leave Illinois and move to Mississippi to start a business, I knew it was wrong. Not necessarily for him, but definitely for me! I prayed over it, and that Bible verse about "Whither thou goest" popped into my head, and I convinced myself that I was doing the Will of God Himself by tearing up our family's roots and leaving our home. I just couldn't admit, even to myself, that I was not up to doing what he wanted. I was afraid of losing him. I was afraid, period.

I guess that is what us at the heart of it- FEAR. We get afraid that if we change, other people may not approve of us. Disapproval hurts. But I tell you, that move was the beginning of total disaster for me, and my ex-husband, and my family. For me, it was especially bad. I lacked the courage of my convictions. I lacked trust in my own heart. Most of all, I did not think that John would consider giving up the idea at all, and was afraid that he would leave me behind with our four children to raise alone.

If only I had just surrendered to this fact: I did not want to accept that I was afraid to say, "No!"

It all is still a muddle, but I think that it is gradually sorting itself out. What I see now is that I lacked acceptance- of myself, of what I knew to be real and true, and I failed even to stand up for what I knew deep down to be God's Will for me.

God has blessed me with a new life here in Pennsylvania, and with a man with whom I can truly be myself. I knew that my life was on the line when I left Mississippi, and I finally, finally surrendered to the fact that I had made a mess of things, and I needed to get back up North where I could perhaps change myself for the better.

Wade is a wonderful man and a dear and accepting person. I have followed my heart, and my gut, and it feels good to have given up on Mississippi.

I have a long, long way to go yet, but I know that I will get there if I keep listening to that Voice in my heart and and doing the true will of God.

Your question could not have come at a more pivotal time for me, LapisLazuli. It has made clear for me that sometimes you have to surrender to win!

I am so happy for you. Trust in your heart, and raise up your soul to a new level. You will feel great!

Lots of Love and Luck,

Jai ♥

Out of the worlds hundred richest people today, 73 are self-made. Of the self-made,18 have no college degree and 36 are children of poor parents, but some billionaires had neither a degree nor wealthy parents. In other words,super-achievers are not born, they are self-made people. There is no point where one can say: this is my rock-bottom. Not realizing one's own worth (being the exact representation of God's very being (Mathew 23:9) causes some to give up!

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To surrender to the situation is to see the futility of continuation of the confrontation.

You see that there is a fork in the road. You have chosen the right fork and the other the left fork. You see that the more you fight the wider the fork gets, until you realize that there is no convincing this person of your point of view because you are on the right fork and the other is on the left fork.

So when you see that, you have to turn your back and walk away. The hardest part is walking away from someone actively trying the ruin you because you know the damage is done and as you walk away you will still be getting damaged.

It hurts a lot but you see no point in continuing the correction and rebuttal. In this case you walk away a destroyed person apparently defeated because you gave up defending yourself.

There is nothing but emptiness in this but it is better than the anger. It is a depression but you go because it is pointless to continue.

Slowly you pick up the shattered pieces of what you once believed in about yourself and go away to start over someplace else, you feel the loss but leave it to bury itself.

There are others that understand you, there are other places to go. Eventually hope raises again and the seasons of mood change for the better as you leave behind the old hurt for new found happiness.

Essentially, it could be engaged by accepting the way we face anything properly.

AT FIRST: HAVING TRUST

As the beginner, formerly, we need to build our beliefs system whether through logical or experience, at least gain a little bit trust. So that we could develop it further to rely the feeling of our dependencies mostly on Supreme Being more than the others.

• You can simulate this concept by replacing the idea of Supreme Being with your parents, your boss and so forth, and if you follow it tightly, you will sense a little bit of peacefulness because of your small surrender (because you rely on LESS POWERFUL being).

• Now try to turn your surrender to the most credible one or more powerful thing, instead of depending on less powerful as previously engaged, and by comparing in between them, you will have an idea of putting higher trust than before to currently more powerful thing. Soon, you will see that surrender have relation with belief system that you know mostly you are at the right path and you know mostly you can trust on your faith.

• At first, it's about our trial

FINALLY: WIDENING

It's not as easy as we thought. There are two kind of trust on this level.

Firstly, we trust with our result, with our experiences that in line with our logical thought or our wishes. Or we trust because we are always mostly at the right condition because of trusting thing. At this level, we trust something because something is good or we trust something because we are an expert with something. In a short, we can synchronize ourselves with something. So we can work together with something as something will reveal goodness for ourselves.

Lastly, it's the same as the first one but with slightest additional thing that would make entire "surrender" having huge different comparing to the first level above. It's our awareness that something we rely on it, or more powerful that rely on it, or thing with highest powerful that we rely on it, it has consciousness that could aware to our existence, rather than just communicating through vision. That we can communicate with this highest Being interactively. This would give huge different. Because we will be guided directly rather than making our own initiative. We will always be guided by Conscious Being, where for all of that we face, The Conscious Being will tell us, so we will see anything from wider perspective directly, so it will make their heart not only peacefully since they know the reason behind all of these, and since they know their own place among current situations, but including contently because of direct experience and interactively.

Both levels will give us feeling more secure or less worries, more relax. That's why you think that "this person is different than anyone I've ever met" (but i am not sure at what level), it's because you perceive their attitudes and their feeling transmitted automatically in line with their comfortable conditions. But at the second level, the result on condition and on our feelings will be lifted up tremendously.

The more we can maintain our total surrender, the more it indicates that most of your life fulfilled with correctness where you are mostly on the right moment with proper adjustment. The result? Your heart will be more comfortable with your faith and you become more calm, peace, you have less worries, because you will always know anything exactly from wider perspective, then, .. you continue surrender, because you can count on it!

• "If you have faith, you must count on your faith and make your faith as the first consideration and in return, sooner or later, you testify that your faith is true and therefore you believe it more and more and with no prejudice and without a doubt! It's not easy, that's why you will find this kind of person, rarely.

At first, there is trial and error, and if you have strong faith to struggle, finally you are on God's hand where there is no confusion on yourselves about anything, and continuing it. At first, it's your effort with pain, but at last ... you will always be helped easily.

What is like to finally give up and surrender? At first, it's our trial to believe in our faith without prejudice and without a doubt!. Secondly, it's the result of proven guidance that would make ourselves having wider perspective, more tolerance and feeling more secure. And at last (as the highest level), it's the result of having more trust because all of trusts are build through direct and interactive guidance.

• The first level is always there for all of us that having correct "give up" and "correct surrender", the second level is the result as indication that we are always within correct "give up" and correct "surrender". but the last one is rarely, since it's hard to be proved to others, unless through logical explanation :-)

what if I tell you that you cannot surrender? what if I tell you that you cannot let it go? what if I tell you that what you find pleasing might not be pleasing? what if I tell you that what you find unpleasing might be pleasing? what if I tell you that the problem is that you do not seek enough the truth? and you remain in error? in this world of duality everything is a mix of everything else. then can it be only yes or no? or is it a mix of yes and no? this complex thing that make you unpleased is made of very simple things or maybe that you do not see it yet? do you need to judge someone else? do you also need to be judge?

some are seeing only one part and decide this is the most important part. some see the other part and decide this is the most important part. they stay in division and judge each other. if I tell you both of those 2 people are in truth and in error. then there is a third way to see things. to see the truth and the error on both side and how they work together and against each other. to do this you need to lift that stone and to properly split that pieces of wood. this will happen when you clean the inside of the cup.

if you are telling the truth and seeking no division experiencing and enjoying. some that are in truth and error will still do you some bad be merciful you have been there also. also you will know before hand that they are going to do that, because you have solved something that they did not solve yet. knowing that you have free will and they have free will, you will know that you cannot change them they are the only one that can make that decision you can only show them the way. if you tried to help them more then once and they have refuse you they will keep refusing you so it serve no per pace to put oil on the fire you will only get burn. and will need to wash the inside of the cup again with water to remove that little darkness.

you should love the neighbor as your self and seek to help them, if they do not accept you deny and reject you, block their ears speak all sort of evil about you to praise them self. Give them what they want, let them to their own free will and faith and go your way they will learn to cry. and when they are ready to progress they will seek the truth.

Let there be light, be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy.

Complete relaxation. No more worries. You will intend to do "nothing" but life will always continue. You'll just be more at ease in the process.