It took me a couple hours and a nap to have the insight to ask this question. I never identified with someone who could hold a grudge. On the flip side, I never saw myself as someone who needed to forgive. It was so hard to pinpoint the cause to a lot of my anger, but once I did it stuck out like a sore thumb.

To be honest, it took me over 5 years to even be open to forgiveness, which is crazy for me, knowing how much vibrations really does reflect back on you. Anyway, I actually began to look at my life and realize that nearly everyone in my life had trouble forgiving. It's crazy how consistent this whole "like attracts like" is. Realizing that was enough for me to realize the grudges I've been holding for years.

I do not want these past scars to stop me from opening my heart again. I pretty much have no friends because I'm deathly afraid of getting hurt. I don't put myself out there like I used to for fear of being ridiculed.And the most unforgivable of them all is the lack of forgiveness for myself.

I can feel my heart vibrating just from consciously choosing to let go of the wrong I felt was done to me, but I was wondering if any one here new of an extremely effective way/method to forgive others and yourself?

I'm finally willing to do what it takes. I'm done hurting myself.