You really cannot make someone more lenient, even if they are apparently above you (father to child). The best answer is to continue on YOURSELF. Write out what freedom means, and each definition extrapolate on that. Like "freedom means good friendships, good friendships mean calm & trust, calm & trust is who I am," etc. Do this for other terms like what secure, safe, support, joy really mean. Also gratitude & appreciation lists... you can also pray for your father's happiness too. You do have power, you see. I like general affirmations for success, abundance, divine order, etc., without thinking of someone or something. Hope this helps.

Just do what you want to do. I would lie to daddy in order to get out and just have a life. If he gets upset thats his issue.

If you do what you wish to do, and have a blast doing it eventually your vibes will easily raise and may even rub off on your dad for him to be more adventurous and trusting. He will respect you in some manner in the end.

My parents were really strict- very controlling, very critical. The upshot of it was a disaster. Show him my answer. Maybe it will make him think.

I had very strict parents. I became desperate to get out, and ended up at a college most unsuited for me.I was free, though...But after all the years of my parents running my life, I learned absolutely nothing about controlling myself. It was like a power vacuum. I partied, I drank, and went from being a student of High Honors to losing my scholarships and flunking out of school. I then hung out with a guy from high school who also flunked out. I got pregnant. We married, and just two years after I was buried in accolades in high school, I was buried instead in diapers and confusion and a deep, abiding grief over what I had lost.

You must earn your parents' trust, and they need to let you fly. This way, you will learn to discipline yourself, and to know your limits. Despite your parents' denial, time is going to pass. You are going to grow up and you are going to leave them.

Their strictness comes from fear. Be sure not to add to their fears by acting out. Show them that you will stick to their curfews and rules. But they need to see that you need to practice being adult while still in their care. This way, when you are on your own, you will know how to handle your freedom.

Blessings!

Jaianniah ♡

When I read your question, what touched me most was when you stated your father wouldn't even allow you to talk to your friends on the phone. I then looked at your previous questions and read the comments.

You did have your own phone and your father took that privilege away. You did not say why.

I recall the summer between my freshman and sophomore year. I lost all my privileges with the exception of swimming for the entire summer. Had I had a phone, it would have changed my fate. I didn't think it was any big deal but my parents were worried when I didn't show up at an event. My parents wanted to make sure I understood as a young teen there would be consequences if I didn't keep my word. I think that was the reason why the punishment was so harsh.

I got busy that summer. I had lots of fun that summer laying in the sun, reading books. I found many ways to amuse myself. I also got my first paying job doing something I had fun doing. Minimum wage was a fraction of what it is now but I earned nearly $300 which was enough to buy something I really wanted and my parents weren't just going to give me.

You are off to a good start. You know your dad only wants the best for you. You also realize that until you are of legal age, your parents are responsible for you.

You can't change other people and trying to control other people never works out.

What you are really trying to manifest is freedom. The simplest definition of manifesting is like attracts like.

You are a teen and most teens have to follow their parents rules.

With freedom comes responsibility and accountability which is also truth.

Shine your light @charity. Stop moping. Enjoy your summer like @Nikulas said. Have fun ! Your happiness does not require anything outside yourself. Your friends will be there when school starts.

Show your father how responsible you are and accountable. Once your father knows that you will always act in loving and kind ways as my parents showed me by example, never try to harm yourself or others; I'm sure you will have all the "freedom* you desire.

If you make mistakes as I did, which is normal and as @jai stated, it's part of the learning process .... if your parents find out and disapprove there will be consequences. if rules are broke, privileges will be taken. It's preparation for being an adult. As you know, adults have to follow laws too.

As for my summer. Restrictions ended a couple weeks before school started.