I wrote earlier that I no longer wish to continue this discussion (you don't read?). Since questions can't be closed here I'm not going to reply to anymore comments. I write in other comment here I got answers from elsewhere that helped.

thanks @Marin and @ingrid :)

@ele, appreciate the reply, and the information about placebos. However, my comment wasn't about placebos. I just used it as an example to illustrate my point to Ingrid, which was that she has difficulty selfhealing because of her beliefs about it. It seems to me that external authority that comes in the form of hired prefessionals or youtube videos are Ingrid's placebos.

She believes (or trusts, if you like that more) that a hired professional will help her in the same way a patient believes a drug (a placebo or the real thing) will help him.

That is all that I was saying. I wasn't making any other assertions about placebos or their history.

I did understand that @Marin

My example using cancer wasn't the best example of the use of placebos. Often times patients demanded a pill and when given one, they got better. Usually these meds were dispensed in the office. No pharmacy needed.

Several members mentioned placebos recently and wondered why. It's not standard medical practice.

Yes, trust plus belief.

Some ppl do need help and there is nothing wrong with that either.

"external power" @Marin not much different than faith healing. One relies on trust and belief; the other faith and belief.

@ele correct. Both revolve around trust and belief

Like you said, they are trusting an external power.

There is also nothing wrong with that. I wish placebos were used more often in medicine. Not for serious conditions where you need modern medicine. I see too many rx's written. Those meds have side effects. I would never discount the power of the placebo effect.

I'm not watching EFT for self-esteem whatever, I want the things and results I want. I suppose you never heard of someone never getting what they want, well um now you have. Has nothing to do with logic either.

Wow, you don't think I tried THAT? This is going nowhere.

I am asking the WHY I'm having difficulty... not about YT. I give examples to fill up the 1,000 character requirement. I guess I came to the wrong place to ask.

It is crystal clear from the get-go. This proves that a) people don't pay attention and b) don't actually answer the question and talk about something else.

Yes I dont, for I am not answering your question, I am asking you another question to your question, just for karma points.

@ingridstjerne257 feelings feelings feelings that's what steers us all ... focus on high vibes "life itself is an empty canvas, it becomes whatsoever you paint on it, you can paint misery you can paint bliss. this freedom is your glory" quote Osho ... have a great day :)

I don't believe in "law of attraction" stuff.

yes @ingridstjerne257 when i think about it i don't believe in the "law of attraction" either ... but it certainly seems to come in handy lol

For me @ingridstjerne the "law of attraction" is a tool, for example when i use an axe (a tool) to cut wood i don't need to believe in the axe i just use it and it works ... have a great day :)

It's an ideology.

yes @ingrid it's an ideology or in other words a way of seeing things ... may i ask "what is your ideology?"

I no longer want to continue this discussion. I got answers to my ORIGINAL question elsewhere.

What is "law of attraction stuff" ?

... such as - the more you complain, the more you find to complain about? If you don't like the word attract, you can choose other words like I just did.

"relaxing". . . have you tried internal massage? A term coined by Norman Cousins. It's physiologically impossible to genuinely laugh and be anxious at the same time. It relaxes the diaphragm, exercises the lungs, increases oxygen levels. It's good for the entire cardio system. Releases all kinds of healthy chemicals. All the muscles in the face unless you are a Brit :)), the chest, abdomen all get a little workout. Lowers BP also. Also relieves pain.

I see @Ingrid responds to tenderness *jaz

We won't have to get out that pronged metal meat mallet with this one :)

When you are complaining or criticizing you aren't appreciating. I'm sure I wrote something about this somewhere. I have a friend who completely transformed her life nearly instantly almost 20 years ago by doing just one thing. She stopped complaining. Focus on the good things in your life.

Speaking of appreciation, a friend just did a favor for me earlier today, one I really appreciated. 5 minutes after leaving my phone rang. He was rewarded for his kindness nearly immediately & couldn't

wait to tell me.

Practice random acts of kindness with no expectation of a reward or help others. It costs nothing and it also makes you feel better.

Qi energy and sound frequencies. One of my Spiritual Guides showed me the power of this lifeforce energy that we as Humans take for granted that is in us and all around us. Every culture on this planet talks about this beautiful energy and I see it everywhere in everything. I can feel it, see it, hear its frequencies, dance with it lol, manipulate it, it's beautiful and it's real and it doesn't cost a thing. When you are listening to that YT video you are feeling the energy of the person and ...

... their intentions when they created that particular video. You can feel its energy and it feels great in that moment while you are listening to it. So feel it, hear its frequencies, and shut down that brain of yours and really listen ... you will hear a high pitch sound. That is the frequency of the energy sent from the person who created that video in that moment when they created that video for you to feel and experience. Now take that sound and energy you feel and let it flow through ...

... you and all around you. Omg let the house feel its beautiful energy. Share that energy as far as you can so that others who need that energy can experience it too even though they are unaware. That is the power of lifeforce energy. You can use it to heal yourself, manifest things, find that love you soooo desire, and so on ... as Bruce Lee said "Use no limitations as limitations." Life can be so unfair on this planet and we are all victims of our individual environment no matter where we ...

... live on this planet. Most times what creates self-doubt within us are the tragedies of our past and its negative energies we became a part of knowingly or unknowingly therefore creating doubt within our being. And throughout our lives we sure pick up a lot of these negative energies no matter how subtle they are. It becomes a part of us and it defines us as an individual. That is why I judge no-one and never have. We are all born beautiful beings in all of it's form and still are no ...

... no matter the circumstances of our past and who we think we are. It's time for you to have the life you have always desired. You owe it to yourself. So now when you wake up the following day and every day after that remember the feeling of that particular energy and hear its frequencies and embrace it make it a part of the new you. I always purify myself with White Light Energy before I meditate and I eliminate all negative energies from the day by simply transmuting it into this amazing ...

... and pure Light Energy. So when I meditate my experiences will be as pure as it can be for me. Remember everything is energy and everything has its own sound frequency. At first the frequencies may sound the same but as you get used to it you will hear the variations. For example money has it's own sound frequency and if you want to attract it into your life simply grab some money and feel it's energy and listen to it's frequency then visualize it your life.

You know can use this energy secret and begin to transform your life as you desire as long as your intentions are pure and brings no harm to anyone else including yourself. Sorry for the long comment but your question is very hard to answer in so many words. Thanks for reading this and I do hope it helps you! Peace, Love n Light

I never perceived anything like what you describe... I don't think I asked a hard question either.

It seems like if I think about "energy" or "frequency" it doesn't help. If I just think of what I want, that is better.

That's perfectly fine! It's your Journey and there are no wrong choices. It's all about what you feel comfortable doing. I was merely trying to show you the true secret to LOA in which not too many people know about and it does require a little self-discipline through meditation to experience the desired outcome. Thinking about doing something is usually not enough unless we take action to feel and experience it's full effect. Take care and I do hope you find what you seeking for in life.