You have taken yourself out of the equation. You treat the pendulum as if it has a mind of its own. It is an extension of you. The conflict is within.

Difficult to answer this without knowing how and when you use it - and how much previous experience you have with it.

If you are not already doing so, try asking questions in the third person to keep yourself more emotionally-detached from it.

it's a situation of feeling and becoming aware not using the five senses : the pendulum is just a physical support to magnify your feelings .

I can't get pendulums to work at all for me, and it was suggested that my energy was too jumbled and unsettled last time I tried; you need to be clear and as Stingray says unattached to the outcome.

As a method for finding an answer though isn't it just an extension of your intuition, which if you are really connected to it you can use without needing a pendulum? I find the feeling in my stomach more reliable than which way the pendulum swings.

The Pendulum of it self has no power it only has the power that you give to it! Therefore, it is a fool proof aid to boast your moral into believing that it has some kind of power that you do not have, but in essence it is mind games.

Man was created to create whatever it is that he desires in his life, and if you desire to use the Pendulum to manifest for you, then, so it shall be with proper manipulations, and commands from you; the power is within you to command!