Nothing ever goes as planned
It's a hell of a notion
Even Pharaohs turn to sand
Like a drop in the ocean

Sorry, couldn't resist the Styx reference.

Seriously, God laughs while we make plans. Life is more about choosing to be happy in each moment aand learning from our experiences, than it is about things going exactly as planned.

Think about it. Wouldn't you rather enjoy the entire journey, instead of a few fleeting moments of satisfaction when everything goes right?

I'm not going to say anything about why? I would recommend this however, What has happened in the last three years that you are happy about? What are you grateful for? What do you want? Change your mental scenery about the last three years make it small and black and white, then remember a time everything went great and get to that place and feeling when you were feeling at your peak emotion of happiness, victory, etc.

Now switch the mental sceneries. Everytime you catch yourself thinking about the negative, make the mental scenery small and black&white, and then switch it with the positive, colorful, big mental scenery.

In The Spirit Of Happiness, I Am RPuls, Make it a Great Day

I am the most optimistic person you could meet, yet my life has been an absolute disaster for about 15 years. Every year it gets way beyond worse. Every day I believe something good will happen and it just keeps getting worse. There seems no rhyme or reason. I'm happy in my heart but my life is the biggest uphill battle just to put food on the table. I keep losing work, my car breaks down, my child is unwell and can't even attend school, I got divorced 2 years after marrying - he is abusive and won't financially support my child, I went bankrupt, we've moved 10 times in 8 years. Been driven out of our home area due to skyrocketing rents. Don't have any family support. I never go out because I have nobody to look after my child and I can't afford a sitter. We never go to see shows, we don't have holidays, my child has never been on a plane. She has massive anxiety and now depression. 3 years ago I got an amazing job but I was severely bullied and I'm as tough as nails. I was pushed out and made redundant. Started a business, the 4 th one I've started. They all failed and so is this one. We are about to have to move again to cheaper accommodation. Child has had to move schools 6 times. I have an IQ of a genius and 3 university degrees. I've applied for about 100 jobs and no luck. I believe your life is mapped out for you and if you are destined to have a crap life that is what you will have. It makes no difference how hard you work, how smart you are or how optimistic you are or how high your values are or how much you love and care for others. I have no more lessons to learn. I truly believe that. Life is just ridiculous just for the sake of it. The movie Forrest Gump is a great portrayal of this philosophy.

Hello Ana

Yes, there is a hidden lesson ... Trust.

Here is what Jafree Ozwald says about trust;

When you are grateful for this very moment of your life, you fall into having a natural trust for your future. When you are trusting in the future of existence, great blessings will flow your way. The world around you may turn upside down, yet with trust you'll see that it is simply an entertaining play instead of a frightening nightmare. With trust you become so deeply rooted in existence that nothing can shake you. This trust allows you to leave your house, adventure out into the world and have new experiences with people that open your heart and fertilize your soul. It is only with trust that you can have enriching intimate relationships that open your heart to a higher purpose, mission and love. The more grateful you can be for what is here now, the easier trust rises within you. It is through trusting your future that you can see how devoted you are to your spiritual path and a master at practicing the art of letting go of control and going with the flow.

http://www.trans4mind.com/counterpoint/index-spiritual/ozwald13.shtml

"Remember the emphasis on the heart, the mind lives in doubt and the heart lives in trust. When you trust, suddenly you become centered" - Osho

First off I am sorry to hear that you are in the midst of a perceived bad run. I think you can take at least two routes with this.

1. You can take the perspective route, you can look at it from another view and its not so bad at all. Lets take the wedding. Was it just the wedding that was bad? Are you still married? If so thats great. As far as the birth, great to hear she's ok, that could have been way worse (but it was not). As you change perspectives you see also how bad things could have been and not how good they should have been.

2. You can use this as a way to investigate what brought on these events so maybe in the future you can avoid them. When you decided to marry and have the wedding, were you ever feeling cohesion to do it a way you were not happy with. When 'things' went wrong was there a part of you that was not surprised because this whole thing did not feel natural? When I look back on events that did not fare well, I often see that the universe was giving me signs (usually physical by how my body feels) and signals as to which way to go. And when I fought it "stuff" went wrong. We all have guides that we can learn to tune into. These guides are also in the form of vibrations and energies. Listen to your body about how it feels of a thought pattern, it will lead you the way.

And congratulations! You asking what the meaning of this IS the meaning of this, enjoy your new adventure :)

Look to see if there is/was a pattern of events or ideas before these things happened.

I cannot gave you the answer but I can give you the tool.

We all know what is the purpose of good things in life. It is to let us feel happiness and the beauty of life. But do you know what is the purpose of all the bad things that happen to us? The same! But the happiness and beauty will not come unless the lessons are learned. The bad that teaches us often is very harsh, but ultimately wishes the best for us. The more lessons we learn, the more stable our happiness becomes. Sometimes the trials are very hard to pass and require us to undergo "spiritual death" - suffer and lose something old, like an old life, to gain something new, be reborn in a way. In the end, when there are no more lessons to be learned, there will be only happiness, pure bliss. For everyone, every single person on this planet. When I am sad, I often reflect on this thought - in the end, everyone will be happy beyond limits.

Crap just happens, sometimes it is our own doing other times it is much beyond our control. I would say my best advice is to keep as centered as you can so that no matter what is going on outside of you internally you can still feel that peace, try not to loose that as much as possible. Also, at least now you know you tried your best at some things so at least you have no regrets!

Hello Ana, seems to me your experiencing poverty consciousness, here are the symptoms;

i don't have any money, i'm broke, the only luck i have is bad, nothing good ever happens to me ... for more info take a look at this

http://www.sherryransom.com/are-you-living-in-poverty-consciousness/

i feel sure it will assist you

Yes, everything is going wrong because of your own personal attachment to making these things go wrong when in fact it is the right things to happen to you at the time, because you choose it for yourself!

Change your mind set, and you change the way you look at the world within and without, and the things in your life. You should choose to turn negative into positive, and see how the world around you will look so different to you. The choice is yours, so go ahead and choose your dream, and live your dream!

Every wrong things you believe happens to you is not in your control. But how you face or react to it is in your hand. The belief in self and optimist approach to your challenges will surely change you feelings to it. Feel good to any situation. It will surely minimize your negative happening.

Learn to enjoy this minor chaos; your visions of creation are not the only acceptable ways of nature. Thank God your daughter is okay!