Well, White Tiger, first you have to change yourself. Let’s see if this perspective sheds any light on your reality and how you can change it into something that serves you better. You’ve posted a couple of these kinds of posts, so it seems as though a part of you wants to change. Are you willing to change?

we live in a world of lie and deceit...

Actually, you live in that kind of world, whereas I do not. I choose to live on a small tropical island surrounded by happy people. That’s not to say that everyone who lives here is happy, it simply means that, in general, the people I interact with are happy and so am I :)

Your current ideas are obviously not serving you; otherwise you wouldn’t be caught in a reality you don’t prefer, neither would you be asking these kinds of questions. Are you ready to look into other ideas? And are you willing to drop certain ideas and thoughts concerning how your reality is created and change them into ideas that will serve you better?

...how do we change that?

It isn’t necessary to go into any of the details because those details only concern you. And once you get to the root of reality creation you’ll become self-empowered and you’ll cause any and all of the details you don’t prefer to change.

Your reality is merely a reflection of how you’ve defined reality to be. There is no reality other than your definition of reality. Your Universe is impartial and impersonal; it only has the ability to reflect your definition of reality back to you. Therefore, whatever reality you’re getting and experiencing IS how you’ve defined reality to be for you.

Now, for you, this may be the hard part. Although reality IS always a reflection of how you’ve defined it to be, any reality can only manifest once you truly believe that it can manifest in that way. If you don’t really, truly, believe that reality can be as you imagine it, then it can’t.

You, through your beliefs are the operant power that controls and determines your reality. In other words your belief in any reality that you’ve defined to be reality IS the cause of your experience of reality and not the other way around. Relax into the idea and check it out…

Once you’re living and experiencing any particular reality, then you say: see this is my reality and you focus on that and you get more of that to experience and it’s all good. You could say that the experience causes more similar experience for you to experience. Unless you don’t like your current reality because it’s not serving you and then you want to change it into something better.

So now you must redefine how you want reality to be and then believe in your new definition and have faith (believe beyond doubt) that it will manifest and BE your new reality and then it will be; it’s that simple, unless we make it more complicated.

Please understand that I’m not trying to convince you of anything, I’m not trying at all; I’m merely passing on what works for me and thus what I know to be true. I love writing about metaphysical subjects and if someone gets something from it, all the better :)

Your challenge lies in changing your belief that you only experience and you don’t believe because that’s not how your reality (all reality) is created. It doesn’t matter how many times you say: “I only experience” because you can’t prove a point by constant repetition, especially since that’s not how reality works. If you want to see positive results, you must do it!

Many people on this forum have pointed this out to you. Maybe because they understand that our Universe is driven by our beliefs or at least they haven’t removed ‘belief’ from their vocabulary. Without belief nothing happens, belief is the driving engine that causes the change. Are you willing to change?

And once a person really gets the ideas outlined above…

Realize that on a deeper level changing your belief will cause a change in your vibration. We live in a universe of vibrational attraction and due to the present moment being all there really is; all realities co-exist simultaneously. Therefore, to change your reality into a preferred reality, it’s necessary to change your vibration to BE the same or very close to the vibration of the reality you want to perceive and then you’ll attract, perceive and experience it.

If your reality is filled with unfriendly, unhappy or deceitful people, it’s because you are vibrating somewhere in the vicinity of unfriendly, unhappy or deceit (inc. self-deceit or self-denial). Remember, this is not a judgment; the only judge is you. There is only unconditional love, so that’s what we are all made of as well, logical? Thus, the only way judgment can occur is from an unclear mind; a mind that has not ventured to the root of how reality is created.

Anyway, to change your vibration you have to change your beliefs and definitions; it really is that simple. Look in the mirror, your current reality, and realize that to change the reflection you must change your vibration. Step Up to the vibration you prefer by redefining and believing in any preferred reality. All choices, definitions and beliefs concerning reality are equal because there’s no reality for you to experience, other than what you prefer.

This is what is meant by self empowerment my friends. Understanding that you have the power to live the life you prefer and the power to change anything you no longer prefer into something you now prefer. Make complaining a thing of the past and move into your idealized preference ♥

Maybe that is why I am single and don't have any friends. I don't gossip, I don't drink, I try to not lie, I don't play head games, I don't cuss or tell dirty jokes, or appreciate dirty jokes, I don't call my kid names and say mean things to him, I don't get involved in all that 'worldly' garbage. It would be nice to have friends, but whe I get out there and hear all the lying, gossip, meanness, etc... I don't want to be around that, or raise my son around that. I even tried going to some churches for about five years each, but I couldn't find anybody that I wanted to yolk up with. (Not just romantically, but friends at all) I found some acquaintances that I interact with once in a while, mostly on facebook, but then they will say something that just repulses me. So with that lying, comes a whole package of negative aspects and behaviors. I wish I knew how to fix it. The closest I know, is just to continue to be a light to the world. When I get sucked in to their negative mindsets, it brings me down, not them up. I was all alone in this for so long. I am so glad that I found this site of some like minded people. It has helped me to see the bigger picture and what I have known all along. Now that I know about how all this works (sort of) I can protect myself from getting sucked in. So, now I can be me, and if people don't like, that's their problem, not mine.

Always telling the truth is not always a sign of good health.

The picture you have painted with your words, in your question, is very sad to me.

This is not a true and realistic picture of what you have tagged as reality. Nonetheless, I honor you for being honest about what you perceive. I honor your reality.

This whole site, Inward Quest, is all about changing your reality for the better. Have you actually tried any of the methods suggested here to change your reality into something happier for you? I wonder.

I also am glad that you were honest with us. We cannot help you until honesty appears. Perhaps now you will see where you really are, and decide to shift your reality, and manifest something better. I hope so. I will pray, despite what you believe!

Blessings, Jai

a way to change is by recognizing that all of our thoughts and actions taken come back to us,
in other words, we are morally responsible for our choices.
this at times can be worked out on our mental plane,
but as noted by white tiger often falls down to personal concerns in our material/human nature.
so, taking full responsibility for thoughts, choices and actions is a place to start

Hi there,

I have recently stumbled upon a video of RSA on youtube about the subject "Necessary Lies". It clarifies quite some about lies in general. I suggest you watch the video and share your thoughts about it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3eNxxoLByS4

Hope you find use in this answer :)

r00t

Don't forget, White Tiger, you have said to me that the things I don't like in others are a reflection of what I don't like in myself. I agree with this partly, but not fully, because it really bugs me when a person takes another person's life, however, that is not in me, so there has to be a line somewhere. However, it is definitely worth considering looking at the reflection to see if there is anything in you that you need to work out. I know, I really hate it when people throw my own words back at me, so, sorry, but I felt I needed to share. Experience and enjoy