hi, 1st n the most important pre-requisite to grow, is by having n aim. have a dream, a goal, whether physical, mental, intellectual, psychic, spiritual, financial, sosial, or any kinda goal. think of the greatest desire or urs. think of wht u really wna b if given an opportunity. and dream and dream and dream. it cn be anything, from an ascetic's desire to liberation, to a tantrik's desire to fly in the air n walk on water, to a businessman's desire to become a bill gates, to a casanova's desire to have one night stands every night (its ok if the feeling r pure), to a lover's desire to bring bak the love of his life to anything/aeverything u desire. make a list. and dwell on it. think of them. dream doing thhem (i m not toking abt manifestation here), just dream, enjoy, derive pleasure from those wishes, feel them, play with them. and go on doing this till eternity. one day u will fell that there has been enuf of dreaming, now u really need to have it. thhis will be ur greatest inspiration. it is this that made a no1 into krishna, a no one into jesus, an ordinary guy into ur fav superstar, and will work for u the same way. coz a burning desire to gt what u wnt is most important.

Hi Jai, I know I sound like a broken record, but EFT helps to get rid of the fears that are preventing your growth. Karen Naumen posted a link to the clean sweep method. I had read somewhere that if you start tapping on one thing, not to switch it around, so I didn't think you could combine issues. Well in the clean sweep, you do a few related set ups and then some related reminder phrases, but you get several issues at once. To be honest, my list is so long of things to tap on that I had stopped for awhile, as I was overwhelmed. This clean sweep helped me to group some things and take them down at once. I took her example and made my own. When I first went to tap on it, after writing it all down, I was too upset to even say the words, all I could do was sob. So, I tapped while reading it in my mind. Then I blew my nose, and started again from the top, but this time I could say it outloud, but still sobbing. It took a couple of rounds of tapping for the list, so I did the list 2 times outloud. I stopped when I could do it without feeling all emotional any more. I often forget to do the SUDs.

I would be glad to create a script for you, but would need more specific info. There is an example on the link though.

you have taken the first step, recognition of your need to change and grow.
call on the same will power that led you to that step whenever the thought of sinking back arises.
recognize your weaknesses and use your strenghts to keep them in check,
it is a constant struggle and does work out when you will yourself to grow

Your clearness of thought, even though new-found, will be a big aid to you. Don't pressure yourself about this. As you go along, you will make changes as you need to and want to. You have had many changes in your life in just a short period of time, so pat yourself on the back for coming through the crucible....many can't or don't.....and I think you will find plenty of inspiration as you go along! Maybe you wanted a more definite answer, but be gentle on yourself for now!

by learning from your fault and error to not do them again. you have free will and can do and experience what ever you want have faith. experience and enjoy.