Attracting is a natural response to the vibration you're emitting...when you're feeling good what you attract from others will be completely in alignment with that and those who aren't will clatter (a term Stingray used, I think) out of your life.

Trying to control another's behavior,on the other hand, goes totally against all the natural laws of the universe and will never produce the result that is desired. There is way more power in accepting and allowing everyone to be just exactly who they are. If they're meant to be part of your life experience it will happen naturally without any form of control being enforced. True relationships can only endure when there is a complete allowance and acceptance of the other person, just as they are, without a need to control or change them, trying to do so is futile :)

What I understand is that when we say we are expecting a certain behavior from somebody else, we are actually expecting a certain feeling - we want to feel a certain emotion. Therefore, we actually want to manifest "to be felt in a certain way" and this then gets manifested through any individual around us. If the certain individual we are expecting from cannot give the feeling, they stay away and it is quite possible that some other individual delivers the package from universe that we had ordered!

To know and to not know is the difference. Equality is the fundamentals of society and control is the order of our work. Between the two lies the morals of manipulation.