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Hi metaphysical guru's i wish to ask I had always been hated by others for reason i dont know I always do good thing for them but they always catch my -ve things 1st. Internally i feel frustated. I am always suffering a lot in all aspects of life. I am an ardent believer of LOA. But the from the moment i started practicing LOA from few years i get more of -ve things in my life why ? Hence forth i though of keeping mum not to talk too much and not to feel anybodys problems rather than to be self caring first. I always quickly land into all sort of problems. please suggest some remedy i wish Mr. Eddie to be reply to this particularly...
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Hello marathisend, thanks for the request, I feel honored :) Some good answers here already, so I recommend looking at those first to see if any of them resonate with you, and if so, to act upon them, particularly those to do with the idea of self-worth and loving yourself. To go deeper, I’ll simply point out that the entire Universe is holographic in nature and that you are in the center of your personal Uni-verse. If you didn’t exist, then neither would your Universe. If you really contemplate the fact that you do exist, that shows you how special and how loved you actually are by the totality of creation or All That Is. No one outside of you can deny that All That Is loves you so unconditionally; that it even allows you to create an experiential reality in which you believe and perceive that you’re hated or unloved. No one outside of you can deny this fact, because there is no one outside of you in your Universe. All others who you perceive to be external to you are actually reflections of your vibrational state of being. Remember that your vibrational state is comprised of your thoughts and your definitional belief systems, and is activated by your positive or negative emotions. And your response or behavior towards the reflections you experience is what sustains and perpetuates them in your world. These reflections are brought into your conscious awareness by the LOA, but your state of being offers the vibration and is the catalyst which then attracts unto itself, like attracts like. When someone says that people hate you because you hate yourself; it’s because they know that we can’t experience anything unless we’re a vibrational match to it. If it’s true that the Universe is holographic in nature, and that it’s personal to you, then it means that although you perceive that I’m answering your question, really, I’m a reflection of that which you already know, at some level of your being, because really, there’s only you in your world. You have asked and a reflection of you is answering, through me, in a way that can benefit you.
However, are you in a place where you can receive the answers which are always coming to you? Is your attention and awareness focused in the Present Moment or are you habitually lost in the past or the future within your mind? All answers and solutions to challenges are right in front of you, in the present, but if your conscious awareness is not focused in the present, how will you be able to find them? You say that people hate you, but who are these people? Are they in your world right now, in this moment, as you read this or are they merely ghosts from the past or phantoms from the future? In other words, are those who hate you, here right now in front of you or are they simply projections of your mind, caused by repetitive thought, that you expect will show up in the future? If you can start from right here, in this moment, and understand that all others are reflections of you, of your state of being, be it positive or negative. Then you’re on neutral ground and you can begin to change the reflection you’re seeing in Universal mirror of your life experience, into one you prefer. The place to start is to realize that the past is gone; it’s over and done with. And that your future experience doesn’t have to be filled will those who hate you. By knowing that you are the absolute creator of your experience of reality, you’ll know that you do control the reflections you see in the Universal mirror, 100%. However, it’s important to be aware that until you’ve fully and completely released your attention to your idea that others hate you, you’ll still see hate reflections in the mirror, through your life experience, for a while. So the trick is to ignore these by refusing to pay attention to them. Spend your time by paying attention to the positive aspects of your experience and ignoring the negative aspects. So your work is to know that the people who hate you are reflections and that, over time, as more of your attention is placed upon self-worth, self-appreciation, self-love and any and every positive reflection you’re seeing, then they (the hate reflections) will fade out of your experience, guaranteed ♥ 3
This is a FANTASTIC Analysis and an EXCELLENT answer. I'm glad that marathisend specifically mentioned you in requesting responses to this question.
(17 Mar '12, 07:30)
The Traveller
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To expand on what Benjamin and The Traveller said above, it really is all in you. If you believe that people will act a certain way towards you, then they will. It's a good idea to be self-caring first. You've got to ask yourself, when you are doing things for other people, are you doing them because you really feel good being nice to people? Or is it because on some level you believe that you do not deserve to be loved or liked unless you sacrifice yourself? I know I struggle with this too, and it can be frustrating to be kind to people and then not get anything in return. But if you do kind things for others without expecting any kindness in return, you will not only be happier, but I'm sure that you will find that you are MORE likely to receive kindness from others. LOA is a frustrating paradox, which is why so many people struggle with it. You don't get what you 'want' (want = feel the lack of) until you don't 'want' (feel the lack of) it any more. Even though I have been regularly practising law of attraction techniques for a long time now, and have manifested enough to make me firmly convinced that it works without exception, I still get caught up in lack mentality sometimes. So here's what I like to do. It may sound easy, but it's not. It takes practise and patience, but I assure you it works if you stick with it: Try to really, really imagine what it would feel like if the people around you loved you and expressed this love to you. Put aside your doubts, tell yourself that you're going to step into a parallel universe for a bit, if that helps. In the beginning, you might not be able to feel what it feels like. You may get frustrated because you may start feeling the lack of love even stronger. But keep trying, little by little, to conjure that feeling. Use memories if it helps - I'm sure you have some memories of being loved and liked, you just need to make them bigger in your mind. It really is that simple. It makes perfect sense too from a scientific point of view, when you look at neural pathways. Your brain may be wired right now to feel that people hate you. It's sort of the path of least resistance, because you've thought it so many times that it has become the default pathway in your brain. But you can create new pathways. It's kind of like making a physical path in a forest - if many people walk a certain way through the forest, over time it will become a path. It'll get easier and easier for you to conjure the feeling of being liked. That's the simple way that I prefer. Of course there are other ways to go about it that may be easier - EFT, focus blocks, affirmations - there are a lot of cool tools out there, and a lot of threads on IQ that can help you with this. I log on to IQ several times a day because it helps remind me that I am in charge of my own life, and that the LOA works without any exceptions, always. But the most important thing to keep in mind is that what you see in other people's behaviour is just a reflection of your own thoughts and beliefs. It can change. And as long as you know that it can change, you've already done 50% of the work. Believe it can and will change, and you will attract the right tools and circumstances to help you change it. |
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Dear marathisend,
Why do you hate yourself? 3
That's the first answer that came to my mind as well. But then it later expanded to "That's because he is hated by others within himself" (I'm assuming marathisend's gender here), which comes back to the same thing.
(16 Mar '12, 07:17)
The Traveller
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So I guess the clarification to marathisend regarding your advice should be "Stop hating yourself through others within yourself"
(16 Mar '12, 07:22)
The Traveller
Spot on, both of you. It's interesting once you really start noticing how other people respond to (a) your thoughts about yourself and (b) what you believe they think about you. Changing it is easier said than done, but it definitely CAN be done, and the first step is noticing it happening!
(16 Mar '12, 10:00)
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While I understand what you guys are trying to convey, don't you think that someone who is feeling like they are hated is probably in a vulnerable emotional state and could probably use a bit more than a single line quip? If someone is asking this question in the first place they likely don't have the same understanding you do, or they wouldn't be asking in the first place. Giving an answer that operates on the assumption of your understanding when you KNOW they don't have it seems.. odd to me.
(16 Mar '12, 10:31)
Snow
Snow - I understand what you're saying, and there is truth in that. However, sometimes I feel that the person who asked the question would benefit more from investigating his own experience, rather than anyone feeding "the right answer" to him with a spoon. By the way, I think what you just wrote is an excellent question to ask here on IQ... I suggest you do that so we can have a nice discussion about it.
(16 Mar '12, 11:15)
Benjamin
I agree that it is often more beneficial to teach a man to fish, a very wise and true statement. However in this situation it seems like the question gave an opportunity to provide someone with a fishing pole and some quick pointers to get them started on the process, and instead he was met with a "You don't know how to fish. Learn how to fish." If the person is here asking then that is action on their behalf looking to solve their problems. They aren't being inactive, they're asking for help.
(17 Mar '12, 05:14)
Snow
I do agree this topic could serve as a good foundation for a question. If you decide to start one there's a strong chance I'll join you in said discussion. Unfortunately I lack the inspiration to do so myself. After all it was your idea, not my own.
(17 Mar '12, 05:17)
Snow
Snow - then we are in disagreement. Anyway, What's great about IQ is that if you feel someone else has not provided a good enough answer, you can share your different point of view. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about this.
(17 Mar '12, 10:24)
Benjamin
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@Benjamin and Snow, both of you are right indeed. And if I may add to it. People who are asking questions related to their own lives, are usually desperately hungry for answers. It's better to feed the man with a fish first, before you try to teach him how to fish, so that he can focus on learning and possibly understand.
(17 Mar '12, 17:55)
CalonLan
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Or.. while one is showing a man how to fish, another is feeding him some fish... and another is giving him some tips on fishing, while another is showing him great fishing spots...
(17 Mar '12, 22:47)
LapisLazuli
in truth it is very good you will become fisher of men. experience and enjoy.
(21 Mar '12, 15:20)
white tiger
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To chip into the marked comments as "don't hate yourself", meaning "love yourself", I'll give a real life example of one person I know who loves themselves. I don't think it matters who it is, or how I know them. What I do know, is that no-body hates this person at all.....Quite the opposite in fact. To even give negative thought about this person in any way would perhaps be totally unheard or even un thought of. EVERYONE loves this person, keeps complimenting this person, keeps thanking this person......And this person does absolutely nothing different except love themselves completely and entirely. Just to amplify my story even more, there is zero negativity or 'badness' surrounding my experience when this person is around as well. You can even have it spot on that it's only the times when I myself am in high vibrations that I'll even get the chance to interact with them. You'll know when you love yourself when you come to the stage where you don't have to ask, "do I love myself?" any longer. |
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I too have felt hated my whole life. I have always been friendly, outgoing, sincere, helpful, caring, etc... But that was not coming back around. I heard people say that what comes around goes around, so I kept asking, "Why isn't all this good stuff coming back to me?" Not that nobody ever did good things for me, it just didn't seem like I was getting back what I was giving. And no, I wasn't giving just to get back, but I expected it because I believed that what we put out is what we get back. Along the way, I learned that it is important to ask the right questions to get the answer you want. I hadn't quite figured out how to ask the right questions, but I found a few helpful sites. The afformations articles I read and explained in this answer really helped a lot. It put everything I understand about the law of attraction, prayer and asking questions into a form for asking questions that get you what you want. In this case you asked why you are hated. Asking this question will bring you answers in all forms showing you why you are hated. So if you want the opposite, which is to be loved, then asking the question, "Why am I loved by others?" will bring you answers in all forms showing you why you are loved. I think Albert Einstein wrote, “The single most important decision any of us will ever make is whether or not to believe the universe is friendly.” This creates the lense through which you see the world. They can be rose colored or grey. So start asking yourself why you are loved by others, and then see how long it takes to turn things around. not bad Fairy princess but duality exist in this world some are dowers of inequity and are still trap in judgement and sin from their own choice. respect their free will has they should respect yours. use your free will to save your self.
(16 Mar '12, 11:59)
white tiger
help your brother and sister if you can. but first save your self because how can you help them if you can't help your self.
(28 Mar '12, 03:30)
white tiger
See the world as you would love it to be and it will be for you.
(31 Mar '12, 05:37)
Paulina 1
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We all experience the discomfort of hatred. You must not exaggerate your experiences. To use words like always, are complete words and do not define your experiences of hatred correctly. Instances of emotional encounters are experienced more or less, but not always. By doing this you may be causing yourself more harm then the hatred imposed upon you. Our first defense mechanism is self-defense. The second is selfless defense which may provide you with a better reaction than the first since the first seems to be to your dissatisfaction. Return hatred with love. Last but not least is to know the undermining truth of the opposing hatred. Knowledge of this can allow you to overcome your opposition. This is the art of emotional warfare. 1
Hatred = darkness Love = light Where there is light the darkness is reduced
(20 Mar '12, 04:37)
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It feels like others hate you for who you are, because you define yourself by standards and measurements of others. Measurements also known as ego, are a terrible way to see one's life through. Terrible because egos provide nothing but distorted picture of reality. They don't allow you to see the things as they really are, but only as they seemingly appear to be. And according to our own distorted images of reality we live. You could spend a thousand years trying to find set of rules or clues that would help you see things as they truly are while still using the measurements to live by. It's like trying to find the glasses that will display reality as it is. And we often get so into looking for those right glasses, trying pair after pair that we rarely realize that to see things as they are all that's needed is to take the glasses off. 1
Hi CalonLan the more one gives love the more one evolves and the less others will influance you in a negative way.
(17 Mar '12, 04:54)
Paulina 1
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We experience what we believe. We tend to observe something and place a judgement on it. "This person treated me poorly he must hate me." The next time we get treated poorly we add to the last time. Right there is a big mistake, this time is not last time it is separate from last time! Now worse the next gets added to and a new thought forms, "This is the third time I have been treated like this! Why do people hate me?" Now we have a new thought and a new expectation that people will not like us because others don't. The circle goes around and around constantly proving the belief and thus constantly building the belief. I believe because and because I believe. It is a terrible circle and the only way out is to realize who chooses what you believe. We need to separate every bad thing as if it is happening for the first time and has absolutely nothing to do with and is in no way associated with anything prior in experience. The good we can build on like the "Checks coming in the mail" example but the bad, No, do not associate and build on that, but release it like, "That was weird but has nothing to do with me." Hi Wade! It's a shame that your answer went on to the 2nd page and is not immediately obvious. The observation you make here is very consistent with explanations from ancient Indian Vedic texts on how one creates their own personal hell upon this otherwise heavenly earth.
(19 Mar '12, 09:43)
The Traveller
@The Traveller Thank you so much Traveller, my answer is very much based in my Avatar studies Avatarepc.com I have most their books and I have the tape collection. Someday I may actually take the seminars but for now I feel I have learned a lot about how our thoughts create our experiences though contemplating the stories and the quotes plus doing the exercises. I find it interesting it is in the Indian Vedic text. Harry Palmer found it in a sensory deprivation tank. Yes check page 2! lol :-)
(19 Mar '12, 11:08)
Wade Casaldi
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We've now altered the way the IQ software works so that all answers are kept on one (long) page only. This should solve the problem of answers not being seen because they are on separate pages.
(30 Mar '12, 08:46)
Simon Templeton ♦♦
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Hi Simon! Thank you from the very bottom of my heart for taking the time to address this issue. There were many great answers that were being missed because it was difficult to notice that there was more on a 2nd page. You response gives us all the assurance that, although you are not visibly participating here, you are very much involved in the day-to-activities on this forum.
(30 Mar '12, 09:29)
The Traveller
You are welcome, The Traveller.
(31 Mar '12, 05:11)
Simon Templeton ♦♦
Love your answer Wade it is very helpful and true.
(31 Mar '12, 05:35)
Paulina 1
Thanks Simon much appreciated! :-)
(31 Mar '12, 13:26)
Wade Casaldi
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Expectation is a driving force for intention. We reflect in this world how we interpret this world. Be who you are. Not your interpretation. People can tell when you are telling the truth or when you are faking. Be yourself, your real self, and you will find that people will be attracted to you. And your life will be more manageable. |
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Dear marathisend, You are not hated here so you can now start to feel loved and that will change the way you feel about yourself. I don't know why you feel that others hate you but if that is what you think than it probably is so. What I can tell you is how to change this and be loved instead. Do some form of good for others even if it is small stuff like helping someone with simple things like carrying groceries. Once you start helping people you will start to feel good about yourself and will attract more good feelings. Your view of yourself will change for the better and so will others view of you also change for the better. You see to get love instead of hate from others you must first give love and then you will have it in abundance. Do yourself a big favor and get yourself the book "THE GREATEST SALESMAN IN THE WORLD" by OG MANDINO and read the second scroll over and over again and you will be surprised what difference this will make in your life. I am going to take the liberty and give you the beginning of chapter 9 which is where the second scroll begins. It goes something like this... I will greet this day with love in my heart. For this is the greatest secret of success in all ventures. Muscle can split a shield and even destroy life but only the unseen power of love can open the hearts of men...... Maybe the book can be found on Psi Tek for they have many free books to read. If you do this and read the book or even just the chapter I described than your whole life will change like magic. I wish you love @Paulina 1 "You are not hated here so you can now start to feel loved and that will change the way you feel about yourself." But this is not remedy to marathisend's issue. Whether somebody hits you or tenderly strokes you makes no difference if the greatest pain springs from actual fact of others having influence over your state of being. He's not hated here, but feels like hated somewhere else. That will only put even more limits to his life.
(16 Mar '12, 05:41)
CalonLan
http://kathypilcher.files.wordpress.com/2010/09/og-mandino-scrolls.pdf The Ten scrolls on line
(20 Mar '12, 04:34)
ursixx
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"Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. http://bible.cc/matthew/5-11.htm Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you. http://bible.cc/matthew/5-12.htm so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe http://bible.cc/philippians/2-15.htm
With many other words he warned them; and he pleaded with them, "Save yourselves from this corrupt generation." you are a sheep amongs the wolf. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dNo1wVbDOR8&feature=endscreen&NR=1 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s3gfMakdlHo many will judge you: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2k0RzhVJSxE&feature=related but if you judge are you not doing the same. have i condemned you? then go and sin no more. verily verily I tell you in this world many are blind they do bad stuff to them self and other. they are lead by false self praise. even to people that are good to them and tell them the truth and help them. they cannot accept that they are not perfect yet and that some other people are better then them. that is why they try to make division. blind guides. they strain out a gnat but swallow a camel. they make darkness to them self and other, for their little ego and self praise. do not be like them become better then them do not conform to the world. renew your mind. Let there be light, be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy. |
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I don't know why you are hated by others. Are you sure? I was once told by a fortune teller that I will have enemies, but it is nothing to worry about. Years later I found myself with some enemies and it was nothing to worry about. How did she know? Where did she get her information from? Are you going through some kind of test from God? Is it the devil? The devil will do anything to wreck your life. Could we in a way we don't understand manifest our enemies? My advice to you is this: Believe it isn't anything to worry about. Develop an invisible bubble of protection. ( not too big so the devil carn't get in ) Carry on as a nice guy. Trust me, you will win. Take care Chris most enemy you will find in this world act from ignorance ,self righteous, false pride, being control by their desire. they are blind guide that want to be praise they pass judgement on other calling them names. in fact their is nothing to be proud about they are blind, miserable, pitiful, poor and naked. they do not know them self and they live in poverty and are that poverty. keep your enemy close and have mercy on them because they are the one that need the most help. -
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white tiger
some enemy will become your friend and some friend will become your enemy. be at peace with every one. do not be surprise at my saying.
(08 Apr '16, 21:04)
white tiger
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Look at all the votes you got marathisend, you're not hated here...
I thank whole heartedly and greatly indebted to all my responsive meta physical contributors in rectifying my -ve thoughts in my mind, particulary to Eddie sir for his views. It is really awsesome and astounding to go through each valuable content and view for which i have to thank IQ and all the repliers to took their precious time to respond my query. I am bit new here in awarding points...Next time i will fair enough by distributing / awarding point to all. Once again I thanks lot for all them and felt atleast i am loved in IQ.
I am happy to have helped you Marathisend. This was a good question and brought up a lot of good answers. Since you are new here there the numbers next to each reply there are triangles one over and one under. Those are for up vote (like it) and down vote (don't like it), it is not often the down vote needs to be used on anyone and is so used very sparingly. Under that you will see unlit check marks, this is for choosing best answer. Another thing is when you get to the end go to page 2.
Weclome to IQ, I hope to see more great questions coming our way from you... :-) Traveller gave me a wonderful comment on my answer that it matched the Indian Vedic scripts. I really don't know the Indian Vedic scripts but that feels wonderful for the confirmation.
You are extremely welcome marathisend :)
Hi @marathisend, why do people hate others? here's an article that certainly makes good sense to me, perhaps you'd find it useful too
http://www.2knowmyself.com/hatred_toward_another_person/why_do_they_hate_me
@jaz "certainly makes good sense to me" - me too ! In fact I had every single one of those thoughts last year when I was on another forum. I think this is why some people get discouraged & turn away from LOA thinking it's their fault or view it as a disempowering belief system. Thanks, you read me right and thank you for the rescue :) Now I know the 'reason' why ignoring didn't work either. Sincere compliments made things worse also - never disingenuous.