Keep your spirits high and leave the door open, not only to the possibility of her coming back, but also to the possibility of someone completely new coming into your life.

I don't believe we can pull someone back to us if its not what they also truly want. It could be, for you and her, but it might not be, at the same time. So, I would definitely imagine being with her, being happy- there's no harm in that, just know it could be someone totally new that shows up. Either way, you will have many great experiences before you.

Just relax, trust in your self and the universe, and you will receive what you're looking for, whether its this girl and your relationship with her, or if its just another surprise waiting to pop up. :) Good luck!

How do you know if she’s the one??

This exact subject has been on my mind for some time now. 2 times in my life I have “fallen madly in Love.” I’ve been studying, checking journals, and just trying to remember what were the processes that brought these women into my life? I've always had women in my life but these 2 (so far) were above and beyond the rest.....why?

I don’t have any information on how I got my first love and that was 15 years ago, only memory. All I remember is living in a house with my buddies, all who had serious girlfriends, and I started desiring to have a girlfriend of my own. Then one day our landlord came to our door and asked if myself, and one of my roommates, could help him with a job at one of his other rental buildings on the other side of the city? Once there, we were having fun laughing while working, and making noise for about 2 hours. The girl in the next apartment came over wondering what all the commotion was? As soon as I saw her there was “SOMETHING” about her and I was instantly attracted to her. We only said “Hi” to each other as she walked right past me and over to the landlord. The landlord talked to her for a minute then she left, I figured I would never see her again.

Strangely, a month or so later, that exact roommate, who helped with the job that day, moved into that exact rental building with his girlfriend and they got to know this girl in the next apartment and found out she was looking for a boyfriend and they made the arrangements for me and the girl next door to get together. The rest is history and Liz was my first love. I would spend the next 6 years with her (and 3 years more trying to get over her). I still think of her to this day. Liz and I remembered back on that first day, she said there was “SOMETHING” about me that she was instantly attracted to, but was put off because I wouldn’t talk to her. (LOL)

My second love was attracted with a “mindmovie” (look up examples on youtube) which I made myself, with Windows Moviemaker, and using images that had meaning to me, and music that made me feel good. The timeframe was about 3 months from starting the mindmovie to meeting my second love.

I transferred to a new town with my job and 2 weeks later I met her. As soon as I met her, there was a comforting feeling as we talked and there was just “SOMETHING” about her?? It wasn’t: “THIS IS HER,” WITH FIREWORKS!! It was a “feeling.” I didn’t even know I was going to fall for her. It grew over the next few months.

I did notice there were “ALOT” of coincidences, proving to me that “something higher” was influencing this. I remember when she told me June 9 was her birthday, my eye’s almost popped out of my head!!! Because “my” birthday is June 9. Many things like this were happening.

About 6 months after meeting her, I was cleaning junk off my computer and came across the old mindmovie, which I had long since forgotten about, and said to myself “Oh, there’s that old mindmovie I use to play every day. I forgot about that! Let’s take another look at it before I delete it.” My jaw was hanging wide open!! The movie was about her!! It still gives me goose bumps!! I didn’t even know her when I made the movie. Also, some of the music I put in the mindmovie had been playing in the background at some of our get-togethers, which caught my attention right away.

BUT!!.....

I didn’t make it clear enough what I wanted “after” I met and got to know her!! All I knew was that I wanted to be in love again. That I did get, and she has been good for me. But I didn’t focus on long-term.

Where do I go from here?

I’ve started following my emotional guidance system! If it feels good, then that’s the right direction to go. If it doesn’t feel good, then that’s what I avoid. I won’t let things just drift in any general direction anymore and expect/hope things will work out well.

Since starting this I’m noticing things are starting to change......in a good way!!

As I am learning, and as Phillip Moffitt in "Dancing with Life" puts it so eloquently:

"Craving (anything) creates an illusion, a misperception, a deluded mental reaction, which causes the mind to contract into stress and anxiety. If this state is avoided or released, the mind is naturally calm and luminous."

Do you best to relax and allow the process to unfold without (mentally) grasping too much. Having a relaxed mind equal less resistance, and less resistance to what you are wanting, makes way for the things you desire. The more you relax and allow, the easier (everything) appears in your life. Relationships included. It really is sort of like magic :)

I have not had a lot of experience with men, but I can tell you what attracted me to Wade. Specifically:

1. He is scrupulously honest!
2. He is neat and smells clean. That really matters a LOT to me, at least!
3. He is so caring and puts on no airs. He is always helpful and always kind.
4. He went out of his way to teach me anything at all that he knew; For example, he introduced me to this crazy website called "Inward Quest" back in 2009...
5. He laughs easily and we share jokes, both private and public...For example: This guy calls 911 (the emergency number) and says, "I think my wife is dead!" The operator says, "Why do you think this, sir?" "Well, the sex is the same, but the ironing and dishes are really piling up!"
6. Perhaps I should have put this first, not last...But the best thing is that we have so much in common! I could make a list a mile long about all the interests we share. Christianity is first and foremost. I was married once to a non-believer, and the Bible is right- it says that both people in a marriage should be "equally yoked". I very nearly died, and Wade brought me back from a living Hell on Earth...back into The Light. For this alone, I shall always be grateful.

Who is to say what makes a couple tick??? I am not sure....But when you find yourself on the phone, long distance, for eight hours a night, perhaps you ought to move...I did, and have found new Life and New Love in Wade.

I thank God every night for the Gift of Salvation, and the Gift of Wade.

Blessings,

Jaianniah

P.S. Wade, I love you lots!

our life force, consciousness and physical being
all seeking awareness
does the law of attraction
and repulsion govern all three

do vibrations from their opposites
satisfy this curiosity
the life force seeking to
for completion in unity