and feels like it is important though

I have not tried it, but I just want to tell you, let go of that measurement. Importance is an illusion created to keep us going in a certain direction. Or shall I say leash preventing us from going anywhere.

My opinion is that if you try it - presumably you have someone to try it with :) - and you like it then carry on doing it.

If you try it and don't like it then don't do it any more.

Beyond that, what anyone else thinks of it (including me) is really quite irrelevant :)

All good sex is Tantric sex. Joining two becomes One. The kundalini energy rises up the spine and joins with the other person's energy. There are many techniques. Yab Yum. Read the Kama Sutra for some good ideas. http://www.thekarma-sutra.com/members/tiks.pdf

Seeing the other person as God, and / or your Higher Self, and joining.

The concept has long intrigued me. Male and female joining. Harmony of opposites that become One. A very powerful draw. Something that goes far beyond procreation.

a penny for my thoughts,

the spiritual material balance has a fulcrum or a mid point tantric sex for gender may be far from it