@Satori - I love that bit about loving ourselves enough to feel the resonance of a feeling of lack about something. I'm reading and listening to Eckhart Tolle and there are a lot of similarities between their teachings. Have you read Alchemy of the Heart by MB?

@Satori - trying to find the bit you mention above in the PP and came across on P 257 in the POSSIBILITY section an interesting piece about deja vu. I guess you have probably read it by now but just thought I would mention it.

@Satori, very well put especially the last line:) I am beginning to notice that I am more and more getting detached from eventual outcome. I feel that it's making me fearless! A great way to live, I believe:)

@Xoomaville-Thanks,yes manifestations can be an anti-climax sometimes.For me at least.I suppose the journey is really what its all about;-)

@Catherine-Thank you,as i understand it, Alchemy of the Heart is a follow up to TPP,I have it on my bookshelf and intend reading it.I read that quote about deja vu,thanks for the reminder,very thoughtful:).

@Grace-Good for you Grace and thanks,happy for you that your finding stuff that resonates.;)

@Fred 1-Thank you,point taken;)

Good point!

Not a good point! The best one. To expand through a directed effort of experiencing whatever it is we love.

Your key to happiness has two parts. Identify what you love doing, then find a purpose for it. If you love riding car, but has no desired destination to go to. You'll probably never leave the parking lot. But watch the bomb go off when you work towards a thing in the way that you love.

The way never goes away, riding car can be done all the time. But the purpose does. Once you reach one

find another. And then another. And keep riding towards them.

It is those purposes that will provide you with a unique experience of living the way you love. And you will see places and meet people.

Do what you love and do it with a purpose!

I know @Fairy Princess you wish for happiness to be unconditional, but that's just so not me. :) My point of view I just shared here, makes it conditional. But on the other hand, it can't fail.

@CalonLan Your choice. I choose unconditional happiness. I enjoy it way more than not being happy untill I get what I want. That sounds like a two year old. I am going to not be happy untill I get what I want.

@CalonLan you are taking it to an extreme. That is your creation, your interpretation of reality. However, when I was a child, I grew up in Colorado where it was very cold in the winter. We had no running water and had to haul our water. We didn't have a car most of the time, so we had to hitch rides to haul water to drink, cook, clean, bathe, etc... We were very poor and got our clothes from the Free Store or other second hand venues. It was a tiny town with barely any resources. No real stores

So to get groceries, we had to hitch rides to the store 30 miles away. My mom was a single mom with two little girls. There weren't jobs, so my mom made crafts to sell so she could be home with us. Some of the houses we lived in had electricity. We lived in a bread van with a stove and bunk beds, we lived in a tent/yurt (not in Colorado), we lived in a two room adobe shack with no electricity and no running water. Just to give you a taste of what my childhood was like. So I reconnected with an

old childhood friend a few years ago. We were talking about old times and she said that I was alway so positive and happy. Even when things were crappy I would say things like, "Well at least we have the fresh mountain air."

My sister and I didn't have much in the way of toys. We joke that our toys were sticks and rocks. I spent a lot of time exploring the hills or forrest, or whatever nature was our back yard. I miss that since I moved to the city. But walks are beautiful here too. Just different.

I learned recently not to create 'what if things go wrong' plans, and scenarios, but to create a 'what if things are great' reality. If you don't want to go there physically, don't go there mentally.

@CalonLan Don't be rediculous, nobody can be happy without air to breathe. No air to breathe means no life. Can you be happy just to be alive? Yes, that is a condition, but without it there is no unhappiness either. We are talking about being alive and breathing as a prerequisite to even have this conversation. Unless someone here is a nonphysical being communicating with us through this website. So unless you are a computer virus or nonphysical being, you must meet the condition of being alive.

I for one have something I want badly that will make me very happy. I am, however, thoroughly enjoying the chase. ;)

@Fairy Princess, only wanted to illustrate that unhappiness is your friend in bad and unwanted situations. If you sit in a room, the air is running out, and you're happy for no reason despite facing a certain death if you continue doing so. Then you'd die. The moment you get unhappy with where you are and what's happening to you, you go and make a change. Perhaps a thought of death makes you unhappy and a thought of life makes you happy. Just saying there's always a reason to find. ;)

But that's only what I think, I don't want you to agree with me, just my 2 cents. And more or less a point of view for others, who haven't become stubborn in their ways as we two are yet, to choose from the options and decide for themselves. =)

p.s. and I see nothing wrong with examples of extremes situations. After all, they're just another version of moderate situations of the same kind.

@CalonLan - "I see nothing wrong with examples of extremes situations. After all, they're just another version of moderate situations of the same kind." - Indeed, if a general principle that is being suggested doesn't apply in all situations then it's not a general principle :)

@CalonLan Go ahead and create that reality if that's what makes you happy. I don't want to. I have been there and done that. Now on to a better way.

@Fairy Princess, "better" is an illusion :) And totally dependent on a point of view. But if the reality is stripped of point of views, we all know there's no better or worse =)

@Fairy Princess-Thanks for sharing your story,makes me think twice about what I write here on IQ, and my limited perspective of reality.;)

Have you ever thought you should have appreciated something more while you had it? Well NOW is that time again.

@CalonLan If you really understood reality creation, you wouldn't create undesirable whatif situations to be happy or unhappy in. You can just decide to be happy. Or you can create all sorts of scenarios where you would find it hard to remain happy in to prove that you can or cannot be happy. I have gone both routes and they both create the corresponding realities. Fear is the little voice that says, "What if this or that?" Either way, it still boils down to your choice.

It's not things you have, but in how you live with yourself everyday.

Happiness is not a thing, it's a way. And I'm aware I used judgement in my example calling my friend's life pathetic. Which was to only illustrate the difference between what is and what could be, if he wanted.