Thank you @MagicalUniverse :) I am putting this in answer section as I feel the two points raised by MagicalUniverse needs to be addressed properly. And also, realized that I tend to write long posts:)

The spoon bending dialogue basically tells two things: (a) This physical World is an illusion. There is no spoon - the spoon exists only in illusion , which really means it doesn't exist as a physical object. Manipulating the World (meaning bringing about your desires) isn't about focusing on an object and trying to change it (attract it even). The object doesn't exist, so I have to change myself. Metaphorically, it's all in my head - I have to look inside to exact any control, to bring about even the smallest change. Let me give you specific example: Way, way back...there was no Ferrari right? I mean before it was designed and manufactured there was no Ferrari! So it did not exist then, it may not exist again, say in 300 years. SO it is existing when you and me are living in this physical World (our life time). That is so transitory! Same thing applies to Honda or any other physical thing. It is all transitory! So if I consider and love my Honda as if it is MY FERRARI, there is not a single soul on this planet who can convince me otherwise. (Note: The question of which is better/good has been rendered irrelevant) Technically, for all practical purposes I converted my Honda into MY Ferrari sitting at home in my boxers. With my thinking!

This is also called as living in gratitude. I changed myself so that the spoon (its existence and bending it) doesn't exist. It comforts me to know that all I have to do is bring upon a change in my thinking and I can do anything. Anything! More so because I believe that's all there is to it. Why do I believe that? Because I want it to be that easy that's why (ref: MY Ferrari analogy) and because I believe it, it comes true and in circle it goes. And when it doesn't, I move on. Why, because...

...our own existence here is transitory, so it is already in a sense, a toy-train moving on a real train. Going from point A to B. (Elaborated in point b)

Physical reality is lust, Maya, illusion, non-permanent, attachment. And realities change rapidly. My 6 year old nephew doesn't even know what VHS tape format is. I grew up watching stuff on VHS. That's his reality. Him and myself, we both co-exist in the now with our truths. Apart from his and my thoughts, everything else is going to change tangibly. Transitory.

As it relates to original question, I for myself decided that the if the 'first thought' that comes to my mind is of negative nature, I don't consider it negative or pessimist or counter productive. These are language labels right? It sounds more naive than profound and maybe it is, but it works for me. With time even these thoughts become my 'friends', they are no longer on the opposing team:) I have nullified them. Because, I have come to believe in the larger scheme of life (beyond the spoon doesn't exist)

(b) There are say 6 billion or so human beings on this planet now. Before us, at least 6 billion came and are gone! And many billions will come (hopefully:) and the human race will thrive. That's lots of people.

But really what are we doing here? Forget the human race, what am I doing here? It seems I am running in circles, chasing things, trying to make 'life'. I acquire one thing (material and non-material like love, happiness etc.) but then I find myself wanting something else or more of what I have. Some of them are even needs. After I get them, more things crop up. I can count the number of days I truly, honestly felt happy and I have had a jolly-good, care-free life! Most of the days, I feel good, I feel blessed, I take it a day at a time and don't go to sleep angry or with extensive worries.

That's a good deal right? It is for me! But it took me a while to look at it from that perspective and little more time to accept it. But once I did, It almost felt like I am looking down to myself from 50,000 ft. From there I could see that if today was a shitty day, there is tomorrow. I found myself DETACHED with everything and everyone.

I went through a very bad phase in my life- the kind for which people use phrases like 'rock-bottom' 'point of no return' 'done with'. That was mere two years ago. Today I don't feel any of that. This is where I got the breakthrough about detachment. I realized what used to give me pleasure or put mojo in me is a big burden on me after some time. Like the number of days I truly/honestly felt happy were few, they also passed. Transitory again. Everything is transitory. Good, bad, ugly. Everything is transitory.

So I asked, what would make me happy and allow me to stay happy? Then, do I really want to be happy? What would I do all day if I was in happy zone all the time? FOR ME-AND I AM ONLY TALKING ABOUT MYSELF HERE- I would be bored! And I don't want to be bored! Doesn't mean being happy is bad. I just removed that label. It is a state of mind after-all! So I removed seeking happiness from my goal. Believe me, this further liberated me! Let me clarify, I was not trying to be 'not-happy', I was only not consciously chasing it. Yeah, suddenly I felt that little rose in that garden, taste of fruits, the sun. But yeah, they were there again. I didn't make a 'poetic big deal' about them. I could even make a sour fruit taste sweet because I kept telling myself it is sweet. Sounds stupid right? But I actually did this on many occasions, because I knew sour or sweet my mouth will be normal again (transitory). I became okay with everything, I mean everything.

This didn't sound like any book/material which mostly tells you to live life passionately, full of happiness, content, full-filled etc. I was okay with that as well. I was okay with no-expectations, no-outcomes, outcomes either-way and any other combination of outcomes for everything I was doing/thinking. Some would say this is what 'Let Go and let God' is, but at the time I didn't even say/ask for that. I had not even known about 'let go and let God' at the time.

NOTE: Please read the following with context in mind. I am sharing here what I believe in metaphysically and am NOT suggesting any means to come to those beliefs.

At one point I detached myself so much that I was okay with dying. But then I thought, if I am okay with dying, let me be okay with living. Let me live till I reach point B (natural death), my birth being Point A.

Now, if I am going to go from point A to point B, like say a road trip, I might as well have fun and enjoy it. Regardless of how it pans out, I am detached from it as is. In this context, I am a real train going from point A to B and everything that I desire/want/need in this trip is in itself transitory (VHS, Ferrari, Honda, my good-bad phase) so all these things are like a toy-train on a real train.

Once I so called cracked this thought and embraced it, I found myself kinder, gentler, tolerant, less angry and all the good stuff. I don't sweat the small stuff. And its all small stuff in the larger context.

Admittedly, this takes some work and continuous time investment and one must understand that one should not aim to perpetually exist like that. There's so much to see, so much to eat (different cuisines), so much to love, so much to learn, so much to do whatever right? I mean if God/Universe has given you the keys to the Ferrari (sorry with the Ferrari analogy again and again. And no, I am not obsessed with it. Just wanted a continuous example for this post :)) might as well, crank up the A/C, put on the music, fill up the tank and take the longest route possible. But be okay with it as well if it doesn't work out that way. You might discover many things, including yourself:)

I am not a saint or some evolved being and I do have ambitions that are going to be fulfilled soon. . In fact, I am new to this and there is certain naivete to my approach and I am aware of it. In fact, I would want to be a little naive. It shows faith and it works for me. I do my morning affirmations for my 'asks' and my night meditation of 'thank-you's'. I do my manifestation box and that's it.

If I am going to go from point A to point B (simplified in the crude way:) I am going to take the least resistible road, pick-up low-hanging fruits, enjoy whatever scenery comes my way:) And this really works for me.

Oh man, I feel nervous posting this(I know, this too shall pass) and hope you guys get something out of this as I enjoyed putting my thoughts into words.

Thank you all who make this wonderful platform possible:)

Thanks for your complimentary reply. It makes me feel good. In fact, writing down those thoughts brought further clarity in my own thinking. So if it identified with you and you with it, run with it:) It's all Universe' plan. Right place, right question, right response:) So there....all positive:)

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