@Evolutionary High, welcome to IQ:) Your question is so pure and honest, it really touched my heart. That itself is a very rare quality my friend (not the touching my heart bit, the honest and pure part:). Here at IQ you'll interact with lots of non-judgmental, open minded friends so you already have a good start on friendships:)

Let me try to articulate an honest answer for manifesting friends in physical World. Let me put a disclaimer that I am by no means an expert at manifesting and/or LOA. So take from it what you want.

Friendships are a thing of Physical World, an element of social structure, made necessary by design, I think, so that an individual can share their joy, achievements, concerns as well as pain. So that this animal -the human being- does not feel lonely and/or alone. There is a very fine line between being alone and being lonely. Either of them inherently are not a bad thing but get rid of them and one's life can be fun, joyful and wholesome.

It seems to me that you have, maybe, started feeling lonely at this stage. You seek companionship. I think you don't feel alone because you have your visualization, positive mindset and you generally feel good. That is a great thing and you don't have to lose that. You just need to append that with more interactions with other human beings

The way human civilization has been set-up, we have to interact with other human beings for almost everything in our day-to-day life. Why not make them friends? Step out, interact and meet people without expectations and labels. A hello to the postman, a 'how are you doing today?' to the check-out girl at super-market...you get the idea. You are probably doing this anyways, but if you do it consciously and with a smile, soon you'll see that your circle of acquaintances will expand into friends. Maybe go two steps deeper into inquiry with the postman or someone who you see regularly. Don't label the friendship. And don't expect anything in return. If you become a tiny positive part of their day, they will become your friend. I am giving you these examples as they do not require you to do any extra effort. Every friend is necessary. There's a saying which goes 'Smile and the whole World smiles with you, cry and you cry alone'...step-out with this attitude and

...do step out Meet people for friendship but without labeling it what kind of friendship. Every stranger is a friend you just haven't met yet:) Don't dismiss anyone because of age either (One of my dad's friend is my mentor and one of my best friends) Basically don't target people to make them a 'best friend, a 'girlfriend', a 'gym friend', a 'work friend' etc. Don't expect them to consider you as their friend yet, but you be their friend. Soon enough the worthy ones will recognize your honesty and genuineness while others may fall away. That's fine. You are not expecting anything as it is. This will expand your social circle. And trust me, soon enough you'll have friends of all kinds, even a girlfriend, even a girl friend with whom you can have lots of....good times:)) You may even find a soul mate ( a highest form of friendship) in the process.

At the risk of repetition, I would again want to point out not to categorize people you meet. Some of my friends (Cable guy, Newspaper guy, Yoga buddy, Hobby buddy - labels used just to distinguish their function to me)are not my best-est friends, but it is in my nature to always interact/enquire little more than they would about me. I walk away feeling good about myself. Little effort, bigger payoff.

Some of my own friends are my bouncing boards, some my critics, some are my confession box, childhood friends see me as me, beyond my professional position (on incline or decline), they have been part of joys and miseries, Some are colleagues, some are friends because of common concern (neighbors, activists etc.)...in short, collectively, they are my best support system. I have come to realize that there are certain things I cannot share with anyone but my friends and that includes my parents, siblings and spouse. Some of my best and some of my most embarrassing memories are with my friends.

Hope this helps somewhat. Just felt like putting my two cents after reading your question. I think you'll soon have tons of friends. Good luck:)

As a side note: As I was writing this, I got the news that one of my favorite film-makers has passed away. Nora Ephron has always made films about friendships disguised as rom-coms. She the one who brought us 'Sleepless In Seattle', ' You Got Mail', and probably the best film on subject of friendship 'When harry Met Sally'....RIP Nora. Sorry, I just felt like including that here.

Reading this question, I get the inspired feeling that this question is coming from an honest, thoughtful and harmonious natured man :)

And reading this question, I don't know why, but I also get the impression that is screaming "Help me! I just want happiness and to not be so rejected!!"

Here on inward quest, you could relate 'our' answers as sort of ropes we would toss to a man drowning in an ocean- even though the ropes are there, it's up to you to grab on so we can lift you up...And I finally get the impression you'd be willing to do that too :) So here's my answer, and I hope this 'rope' helps:

I love the movie Forrest Gump. Even if you don't analyse it philosophically, it just appears to be about a simple human whom effortlessly does nothing and goes nowhere....And ends up with something and somewhere! No political views, no ideals, acceptance of what is, going with the flow........And all he does is enjoy his life as best as he can.

My answer is very plain, but has miraculous (very good word to fit this) and sometimes unbelievable effects; just live your life as Forrest Gump. God/ the universe, has already lined up your friends, your amazing hot girlfriend, that cool lifestyle, that heavenly life situation.

It's already done.

It's complete.

No work for Mr Evolutionary High to do.

Zero stress. Full enjoyment. You're on this ride to nowhere, and on this journey your ideal desires are awaiting. To get there, do nothing. To get to this heavenly somewhere, go nowhere. In other words, fully embrace life with love and a smile, and you watch how in just maybe two weeks I won't be surprised to see an engagement ring on someone's finger hehe :)

Empty your mind- the thinking is what destroys life. "And that's all I have to say about that."

9th August 2013, Update

If I were to offer myself some advise, it would be to read and apply the concept outlines in How to Win Friends and Influence People. IQ is a metaphysical ideas website, this book has little to do with the spiritual realms, yet I can confidently say my life has drastically improved since improving my relationships with others (and the relationship with myself eg: have confidence to 'be yourself'). If I could offer one book of all time to help anybodys life, I would be striking this out to all without thought. It really paints a recipe for success, via being successful with people.

In my experience, the most 'successful' and happiest people I know are the ones that have the most friends and strongest connections. I don't think I've ever met a person who is happy and did not have lots of friends and was popular (though people are drawn to positive energy, so maybe there is a flaw in my statement...)

Helps with the opposite sex as well (in terms of attracting a partner). People are drawn to people who can establish comfort and trust in others. This book really emphasises to develop empathy, something I have lacked most of my life and recently kindling with a smile. It brings results. Even the contemporary sub-culture of pick up artists highlight how you can improve your entire life by mastering empathy.

If anything to get out of this: become a good listener.

Keep at it, for sure :-) Just think: anything could happen at any moment. It could all change in an instant.

And you will find those friends. I know exactly what it's like to be in your position and it's going to be exhilarating for you when you suddenly find yourself surrounded by people who adore you. :)

What is outside of us is the extension of what is created inwardly (with your thoughts, emotions). Once you change the roots, the rest will shift accordingly. It may or may not immediate, but it will shift and change. Like the roots of a plant- you may not see them but they are the reason the plant exists. When you change something from it's roots, you change the entire framework.

So whatever you're currently seeing outside of you is irrelevant at the moment. If you are feeling good, you are on the right track. Just keep at it. :) Use your feelings as an indicator of your progress as opposed to what you're physically seeing. The "outside" is constantly shifting and changing in response to "inside". I think this is the reason why things can get so "messy" or out of balance.

&Welcome to IQ!:)

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Hi Evolutionary High - Firstly thank you so much for posting your question.

You are on the right track and doing really well but of course you are noticing that what you want hasn't happened yet. I think that is what is getting in the way of you making friends. My suggestion is really about distracting yourself from it a little bit.

Think about what subjects really interest you - what inspires or excites you and then see if you could join a group of like minded people. A great website is Meetup.com - the idea behind Meetup.com is that the web helps you find people in your local area who share your interests. Any group on the website has to pay to be on it and has to commit to organising face-to-face meet ups. The key thing here is to think about what really interests YOU because people who are switched on and passionate about a subject are more attractive anyway. I once joined a sailing club because I thought I might meet eligible men - the thing is I'm not keen on boats and hate getting wet! Needless to say, it was just a waste of time. If you don't find a group then ask the Universe to lead you to one.

The idea here is that you distract yourself from actually "making friends" and you move more towards just hanging out with like minded people who then may or may not become friends. Tell yourself that even if it doesn't work out you will have spent time on something that you enjoy anyway.

In the meantime check out the various manifesting experiments - I've been doing Manifesting Experiment 1 and have asked for a local friend who is interested in the types of subjects we discuss here. She hasn't appeared yet but last night I dreamt about it and that is a positive sign that things are lining up.

Good luck

PS: You could always join a Law of Attraction group as you say you have been reading Abe.

I was always taught that to have friends,

one must first be a friend!

This has always worked for me!

Love and Welcome,

Jaianniah

It is simply,simply, simply ,just a time for us all to relax and feel ,really feel how Spirit moves us. Truly Amazing. Love and Light.

Dear Evolutionary High, I feel you because I've been in a similar position with you. My suggestions are:

• try to find friends with same interests from the internet (facebook, forums, chat, other social sites etc) that live in your region. After some time that you have checked eachother, you can arrange a meeting in the real world.
• try to enroll in classes, gym, seminars, volunteering groups, extreme sport groups, participate to a group excursion of a local club etc.
• encourage others to bring their friends. This is a good way to enlarge your circle. Sometimes we find our mate through others, my friend's friend may be my future soul mate!
• do not try to restore acquaintances from your past that are forgotten long ago. Past is past for a good reason. Do not push anybody in general, and try not to seem desparate for friendship because people may be scared or they may misunderstand your motives.
• try not to attempt any group activity by yourself alone. Do not go unaccompanied to a bar or to a concert or to a sport event etc. This will remind you your loneliness and it may cause you bad feelings when you see pairs or groups of friends in the place around you.

I wish you good results coming soon!