It doesn't matter how much someone loves you, it matters how much you love them.

You can love someone no matter how they see you. You are allowed to think beautiful things and remember the great times you had. I don't know if that helps, but I found a great amount of peace in learning that.

There are many, many, many people in this world. There are so many new opportunities for better relationships and experiences. The thing is, it's very hard to see if you are letting your thoughts circle around the misery of rejection. I used to let my thoughts run wild and made no effort to change it.... until I realized the only thing that kept those nasty feelings alive was my mind. I actually hadn't seen the person in a year or even heard from them.

But it is hard sometimes.... the good news is, you have plenty of time to figure this out for yourself. Every situation can benefit you, no matter how bad it seems to be.

Also... think about what you really want. You know you don't want to be left or to be heart broken again. You have already felt enough pain over this and are ready to move on... so, what's next for you?

Heartbreak is the hardest thing I've ever gone through. But what I've realized is that it's strictly mental... because we only continue to suffer because of the things we say in our heads. "They didn't love me, ill never find anybody, what did I do wrong in life"

These things are not true and only bring you down. You will love again and you can be happy.

If you think about it... is any relationship supposed to last forever? Perhaps some can last a lifetime, but we all pass on eventually. But looking at it differently... can you love someone forever? What if you could love several forever? What if everyone loved everyone else?

Love truly is everywhere... you can find it in anything. You just have to let it in. Do things you enjoy and be with people you enjoy. Try new things, travel, and meet new people. Wear things that make you feel good and eat food that makes you feel energized.

Whenever the painful thoughts tried to creep in, I would say "I love (name), but we didnt work out, and thats okay" And I would let it go.

I am wishing you all the best... good luck!!

First off, I have to tell you that there are probably three things in the world that are the pinnacle of the worst possible human experiences you can go through:

• Death of a loved one
• Rejection from others, be they male or female, friends or strangers (umbrella term, but let's not worry about this one)
• Heart break

Each of these experiences has their own nasty, sad, unique feeling to them. So if someone were to ask if heartbreak is the worst thing they can go through, I'd reply with a confident "yes."

Unfortunantly, @Blesslordy, I don't hold the cure for this one. But there are four things I've tested and proven to myself that will help. And these are things you can actually do.

1. Get busy with your life. Create passion, even if in tiny doses, for random things. Hobbies, friends, new sports or physical activity, what can you do with work?...
2. Kick your man out of your head. He hasn't payed enough rent $$ to stay in your mind, so whenever he frequents your thoughts, it is especially important to distract yourself and think of something totally different.
3. Cry when you have to. When you give yourself 'cry time,' give yourself permission to think about your ex, as, obviously, this is the focus source of your sadness. 10- 15 minutes later, you will feel slightly better with a mini emotional reset.
4. Humour. Whilst all of the above are in some style designed to just distract yourself, laughing hard is a timeless trick that may work better than the rest. A+ for this one.

Hang in there darl. Life can only go up, up and away from here.

Be honest with yourself and answer following question for yourself?

What do you want from him? What do you still hold your ex-boyfriend accountable for?

Deep inside you there's a debt he made. Or better to say you feel there is a debt of some sort (most probably of emotional nature). And you feel that unless it is settled you cannot seem to let go.

You loved him a lot, he obvious didn't love you the same way, so subconsciously you think he still owes you. But when you decided to love him, it wasn't because you wanted to be loved back. It was because you wanted to love him. Period.

When you help someone, you do it because you want to help, not because you want to have an upper hand and claim a favor back when the time arises, right?

That's all there is to letting go - forgetting imaginary debts we created in our minds and now hold others accountable for.

And just a personal remark, you shouldn't jump into another relationship before you fix the remains of your past. It does do no good, I should know. But I'm not here to judge, it's just a friendly advice.

"We learn far more from our apparent failures, than we ever do from our supposed successes. Sometimes, though, it takes us a while. When we make a mistake, we can't immediately absorb all it has taught us because it pains us to dwell on the disappointment. Also, instinctively, we know that if we analyse the past too deeply, we risk getting stuck in it." - Jonathan Cainer

Listen, or your tongue will keep you deaf - Native American proverb.

@Blesslordy, be gentle on yourself. You have nothing to gain by being harsh and judgmental towards anyone, least of all yourself. Give yourself some time. Breathe. You will definatly get through this. You will definately be ok.