I was about to post this question: Do we base our decisions on what is happening in the Now, or our expectations of possible futures?

Looks like that question fits in here.

My supposition is that, for the most part, we can be content with what we are experiencing. For example a difficult relationship. I have heard people say, "He has been hard to deal with, I could handle that, but when I saw he was getting worse, I decided I had to bail."

I am beginning to change my perspective on this. If what I am experiencing right now does not make me happy, right now, I am more and more moving toward something that makes me happy.

It is an interesting conundrum that people say to me, you are successful, therefore you can do what makes you happy. I believe that the happiness, which I have always felt, is the primary agent for making my life successful.

An ex once said to me, "You don't do ANYTHING you don't like to do!" I said, "Wow! You FINALLY understand me!"

Let's keep it in the Now.

The future is created in the now hence all plans and expectations for the future must be created in the now. The output of the expectation is future based but the thought of the expectation can only exist in the now.

Yes and Yes.

Dichotomy says one does not have to be false for the other to remain true. Looks like we live in a more of an "and" universe than a "but" one.

We only have now and need to learn an acceptance of it. That does not mean we should not plan for our future, for that is a very important process to navigate our creations. Past present future all happen now. For time is just an illusion any way. When relating to the future, which is needed often, can be very helpful as long as you leave out worry fear and anxiety.

Cake and eat it too? Yes please.

Michael