I was reading an essay for my college class which was about gender differences and the role of women in the society from the perspective of several 19th century thinkers and writers. It was a clearly anti-feminist stuff that vexed me and felt utterly "wrong". My first thought about it was that those ideas did not resonate with me; therefore, they are not true. Then I realized that the ideas proposed there might have felt "wrong", because they threatened my ego, making it feel unworthy.

I would like to bring another such example from a couple of years ago. Back then I was new to all this spiritual/metaphysical knowledge and experience; and in addition, I was suffering from suicidal depression. The mere thought of our immortality felt soo "wrong" to me and made me even more depressed. My egoistic self which had me believing that I was completely tired of life, could not bear the thought of eternal existence that implied eternal suffering. Nevertheless, I still believed it to be true, because hundreds of sources claimed it to be that way. But I could not understand why the idea of our immortality was not resonating with me, if it was true. One day, when my ego's self torture had gone through the roof, it suddenly annihilated, freeing me from all its negativity. An immediate realization came that my depressed self was simply threatened by the idea of eternal existence because it had mistaken my ego for my real self and thought that it would exist forever along with its negativity.

So, my question is how can I know something to be true by seeing whether it resonates with me or not without the intervention of the ego.