All the best to you in mastering this great challenge in your life! I wish you and your wife very well.

You seem to be doing very well in terms of your vibration work- putting yourself in a good place vibrationally, and using all the tools that you know to improve your feelings. Circumstances don't matter- state of being matters! You're living that, and it doesn't really matter that you can't always maintain the positivity- that is actually part of the process, and it is also good, because the rough feelings are such a clear demonstration where your habitual vibration is out of alignment with who you really are.

I encourage you to continue with your vibrational work. The worst bouts of negative feelings are also the greatest opportunities to use Bashar's method, in that they allow you to say to yourself: What would I have to believe in order to feel this? And then you can uncover the belief, and when you do, and it appears nonsensical, it is gone- and since the circumstances have thrown you into your own greatest vibrational turmoil, you have the opportunity to use Bashar's method to uncover some of your greatest fears.

What also helps very much is to imagine your preferred relationship, and spend a lot of time doing that in your creative workshop, and allow that imagination to satisfy your craving for closeness. It can be very vivid, and it will bring much needed positive energy.

So far so good.

As for how to act, my instinct is to put your wife on the spot and demand to know what is going on. Her behavior is perfectly consistent with someone in a monogamous relationship who had a fling and is now feeling so guilty she would sooner completely withdraw from her relationship rather than face herself- let alone her partner. It could be something else, but I can't really think of anything that would explain it so well.

I had my experiences with those situations, and boy it's not fun at all, but it's also so understandable, so human. It's like we're born emotional schizophrenics, and then we have all that church baggage culturally laid on top that all but prevents us being honest about it. I think it would be perfectly fair, and actually quite downstream, to demand to know what caused her sudden change of behavior, in detail. Regardless of whether my guess is true or there is something else going on, this can start a process of more openness and forgiveness, and your relationship may end up stronger than before, because you can become more confident, and build greater trust where both of you may have thought none was possible, in these fringe areas of human experience that are so defining yet so rarely honestly spoken of.

Thinking more about it, the behavior you describe is also consistent with the idea that she still loves you, and doesn't really want to leave- if she's like most women she wouldn't have a problem finding a friend's couch to crash on if she truly felt she needed to go- and if it truly were downstream for her to go, someone would offer her a large city mansion with a pool to house-sit. Financial reasons, shminancial reasons- when you are emotionally clear that you want to go, you go. It's when you don't really want to go but see no alternative, that's when you say you want to go and make excuses why you can't, catching yourself in a kind of unbearable limbo situation.

So I can only encourage you to embark on what will probably be the greatest adventure of your life- discover with great care and with great honesty what is going on, make your feelings heard, make it known that you do not agree with the way that things are going, and how you feel, and make sure she knows about all the things that you need to do vibrationally just to get through the day. I find in this situation it would be perfectly downstream to be very persistent in demanding such a talk, or even lots of them, regardless of any other consequences, to start a process of reconciliation.

This is probably the most challenging part, the paradox that in order to have your relationship, you must let it go. If the idea of your relationship ending is deeply unpleasant and undesired, now that's perfectly normal, as we are attaching creatures, us humans. If it goes so far, however, that you would be willing to completely bend yourself out of shape in order to maintain your relationship rather than go crazy, that would be a sign of holding a sweeping negative belief. And perhaps that belief, most likely something along the lines of considering it romantic not to be able to live without your partner, or something along those lines, is probably where your contribution to the creation of the current crisis lies. So I would direct all my effort specifically towards uncovering every last bit of the web of beliefs that are trying to tell you that your relationship ending is something that you need to be horrifically dreading. While in truth, you would want to do all you can for your relationship, because this is your partner after all- and you would take a lot of time to reorient if it would end, to be sure- but it would be, like all things, a new adventure.

Taking that perspective, and having a new, more eager and positive outlook, you will be ready to act. It is good not to act prematurely, but when you have modified your fear-of-end beliefs and made some good progress, you may feel it is time to act. I would recommend to ask, ask, ask, ask ask. What is going on? Do you really no longer love me or did you just say this when you were angry? If you don't, what are you still doing here? If I were to ask you to leave right now, could you do it? Why did things change so suddenly? You may be discovering whole realms that you may have not known about, both scary and inspiring, and it is quite possible that the experience will end up unambiguously positive for all the added depth.

In discussing these difficult things, I have found it magically life-saving to bring as much loving kind energy with me as I possibly can. In order to help this along in the situation itself I found it is good to use a spiritual technique from Huna. Explain to yourself that green symbolizes love, and bath both yourself and her beautiful, dynamic, powerful brightly glowing green clouds of love while you are doing your talking- and whenever you can. That alone has helped me very, very much in getting unstuck.

I wish you all the best of success, and that you might master yet another aspect of being a human. We do specialize on earth, most of us, and live this way, in oder to experience those things that can only be had here, in our limitations. This is good! It is all worthwhile, regardless of how things turn out. Do enjoy the adventure!