As a kid growing up, I was taught how to hate everything about myself. My skin color. My smile. My accomplishments. All from someone I called mother. I am overweight and I am not comfortable in my body or having anyone see it. For my weight and for my scars that were caused from self harm. I am 27 and have only been with 2 partners sexually. My current partner is beyond amazing and is so patient with me. I feel like I am not enough for her because I am scared to let her see all of me. We are long distance and I don't even like sending nude photos. I am so uncomfortable with my body that when we have sex I am always in my head. Idk how to be confident in something I was taught to hate. Something I was taught to hide. How do you learn how to love yourself when the person who birthed you is giving you all the tools not to? I fear of being rejected because of the way I look. Inside and out. It's different when someone tells you you're beautiful, but how do you believe it when you've been hearing how ugly you are for so long?
asked 11 Oct '21, 14:19
hi, you can start with:
1.you can start by forgiving your mother, with compassion (she must have learned it some place...)
2.listen to YOU\YOU ARE affirmations of self love (in apposed to I AM affirmations) and you can imagine that an mother angel or your real mother from the sky is speaking.
4.get knowledge about mirrors, they are just reflections of what inside. feel bad - mirror show you ugly. feel good - you look hot. so just avoid as mush as you can interactions with mirror until you feel better.
answered 11 Oct '21, 15:55
I am assuming you are a male. If I am wrong correct me.
There is a reference I can link you of a man who is super attractive to me, despite that I am a straight man. Attractive or, magnetising.
He is so to speak, 'conventionally not handsome.' I find him to be one of the coolest dudes ever.
We got Tom Cruise, who, I have never found to be remotely attractive.
.....The more you learn of yourself, the faster you will see you are actually more handsome than you think.
I will await a few days to see if I am allowed to post a video going into detail. I have gotten into Tiktok recently and I find the speaking and visual format useful. I love writing, but in this phase of life I am on the bias for audio.....Whatever....
I give one idea.
When you wake up. Go into mirror. Stand up straight, and say, "I am here. I am alive. I am the man. Let's go."
Existence doesn't make mistakes (Bashar and Osho).
Go and be you. Go and do you. You are here, let's rumble.
God bless. Narizrovye. Nikulasz x
answered 11 Dec '22, 01:32
This answer will only help if you fully accept the idea of reincarnation.
The following is a quoted response by psychic medium and reiki master Bonnie Page when asked if she believed in reincarnation:
That pretty much sums it up. Only you can figure out why you chose this life and the body that came with it. All of your past experiences have molded you into the person you are right here right now. If you truly want to love your self, you must begin by accepting yourself as you are. Letting go of the past will go a long way in helping you to that.
For more in depth information about life between lives:
And/or any other books by Micheal Newton
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