For me first it is physical attraction then for it to go any further (long term) it's all about the vibe. Sometimes I ignore the not great vibe and stick with the looks ...then get burned ha ha.

I never wanted to get married so I have a lot of experience with this. Woo Hoo.

Michael

Lust is not love. Infatuation is not love.

So be careful of what you wish for.

It may not be love. It may not be lust. It may not be infatuation. But, it may very well be a downer.

So be careful Now!

Well Miles3, Back2Basics gives a very good answer for normal female to male attraction. But for some reason this does not seem normal to me. Men that radiate charisma, power, sexual appeal, not necessarily handsomeness, but body communication, total complete confidence in themselves and their capabilities are some how able to send all of this to every and anyone who sees or pays attention to them. So, it seems you would have felt this at the beginning if this is what this is all about not several weeks later.

I think you are old enough to know about your self if it was just lust you would know this your self and you would understand this but you don't seem to know this nor understand what is going on at all. So it seems like something else is at play.

First of all you said you were around him for several weeks and there was absolutely nothing than all of a certain there was something there and it was so powerful that you did not trust your self to be in the same room with him for wanting to touch or hug him.

Don't that in it self just seem a little odd to you especially when he is not coming up to you with his come on lines and body language. I have heard of a few people having the power, mental power I guess, to bend you to their will. I have also heard of people being able to manipulate your energies to have you to forcible against your will to like them without you wanting to.

It sounds like you might need to put up a psychic shield at least for the time being until you fully understand what is really going on. Plus I would stay as much as possible away from this person until you better understand your self and what is really happening. You also need to put up a mental block so if he is also entering your mind to stop the invasion of your privacy and him laying some lusted thoughts within your mind so you are thinking and feeling them as though you were the one thinking them instead of it being planted in there by maybe him. This is just hypothetical of what could be going on. I honestly don't know but it does sound very odd to me.

Does he seem to like you at all and trying to get your attention? Does he even know that you exist, does he stare at you and try to hold your eye contact or he just go around handling his business?

There are a lot of wonderful ideas on this site one of them will be able to help you resolve this issue I hope.

I just finished watching this movie and it feels it may have something to do with this http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1179794/

Notice animals or dogs. Right away one is dominant and one submissive, the are going to get along right away or not. This usually has little to do with size and other obvious factors. It's about the energy that one puts out. My wife and I say that rocks in my head fit the wholes in hers or vice versa. Also I believe there is a certain amount of mind reading that goes at a subliminal level. As far a containing yourself, I can't say. I would be somewhat careful about getting involved with a fellow worker. Usually someone has to leave, that may be part of the plan if it's worth it. Again be careful.

Mile3,
I have actually studied attraction in females for years! I do not have a enough details to address your exact situation but here are some things you may find helpful.

One thing to know is the difference between someone being attractive and someone who creates attraction in you.

Attraction has to do with the way he makes you feel and the chain of thoughts, emotions and chemicals that you create based on his attraction level.

This is why many times "nice" guys are over looked. They don't have that element of mystery or slight danger. Many times women will stay in abusive relationships with bad boys, just for this reason. Hence, why bad boys usually get more girls. Now I know nothing about how this guy you like is or how you perceive him but he must have something that pushes your "I like him button".

Going for the sensible thing is not the most fun in the now, although it could be regretted in the future if passes over.

So the man who is very handsome with lots of experience man be dull to you, presents a lack of excitement and may even be a nice guy!

There is a lot more to it but I have seen similar situations over and over and over...etc.

Attraction is what females are actually geared closer to where men are geared closer to attractiveness, looks - genetically.

You may also want something he has or that is a part of him, for yourself. I have seen that one many times too.

Just remember, you probably do not know as much as you think, about either person. Get to know both of them on a much deeper level, then see where it goes.

Also, it is important to know exactly what you are looking for. A fling, long term relationship, friend, kids, etc.