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I have asked this question to pair with Dollar Bill's question about competition. I have always had stage-fright. I do not know why. But it really messed with my mind as a kid- but as I have gotten older, it doesn't seem as bad as it was- but it is still there. Any advice? Peace, Jai |
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Hi Jai I do not think you want it to be gone completely away. Every performer, entertainer, and even motivational speakers experience some stage fright before they go on. In my limited experience of public speaking I found that preparation and preparation and more preparation is the best cure for my stage fright. If I have to speak to a group, I never prepare in sentences. I always prepare on the content of the information using cue cards and I try to hit the right sequence of my prepared cues. Therefore, each time I practice my speech, it is different from the previous practice, because I am not interested in the sentence, but only in conveying the point. And I also have the habit of over preparing more information than I want to deliver, just so that If I forget one of my points I still have two or three more that I didn't plan to use, but can choose from, in an emergency. Contrary to popular advice, I always tell my audience that I am nervous as hell right when I start. Also, practice and keep a reasonable collection of socially acceptable jokes that you can pull out of your mind in an emergency. If this is regarding public speaking, it does help to practice loud and know your material inside out. If you have 1 week to prepare, (assuming it is public speaking), you should really start right away and have at-least 4-5 days of practicing your entire speech. I used to perform Magic until my late teens. The stage fright I experienced then was far less than what I experience when I speak. I tried to use LOA to fix my fear of speaking but it has not worked. Only Preparation seems to fix the fear after I begin, but even preparation cannot fix the anticipation before the start of the speech. The fear is part of the experience, and I do enjoy it. It keeps me "alive" and on the edge. You are so right! Preparation is the KEY!!! I worked on my musical piece for a YEAR- and I got a first on it...I just wished I knew the trick of icing my hands before I played so they would simulate stage-fright...LOL! I also have done Public Speaking...for some reason, as long as I am prepared, it usually goes fine, as you said! Thanks for a great answer! Love, Jai
(11 Apr '12, 16:46)
Jaianniah
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Hi! I believe too that the preparation is the key but not the only thing. I am a musician and saying from my experiences, I believe you must prepare really good to feel more comfortable on the stage. When practising, I try to push (my)limits or limits of my instrument so that I can dare more on the stage. Then I can really go with the flow when playing, being creative and send emotions and energy to the audience. I had some bad experiences at some music competitions, I somehow knew that it will not go well. Well it was awful.I was not sure in my capabilities and skills, and this doubt stabbed me in my back. It was two years ago. Now I think different. I am there to GIVE something to the audience. They are there because of ME. They want to receive something good. I try to think more of giving them, to play for them, and not being stucked inside of me, wondering what might happen wrong. They will not judge me if something goes wrong. Or even though they would ... Would they remember your mistakes for the rest of their lives? Are you so worried with other people's opinions? Well, there will always be someone who does not agree with you or who dislikes you. There is nothing to do about. So, I guess my answer would be ... Preparation and the intention ... Why are you there? What message are you sending. These are my thoughts :) hehe, Today I have a performance. I am not 100% prepared but I do not worry, everything will be fine or else At least I will enjoy ... Tomorrow is a new day :) Have fun and good luck :) Jasmina Great answer, Jasmina! Thank you! Love, Jai
(11 Apr '12, 16:47)
Jaianniah
:) any time
(11 Apr '12, 16:55)
Jasmina 1
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maybe you do not like the judgement that you receive. try to see it as something that you most do in truth. and just do it in truth with love. and i know what you are talking about because i also do not like to stand in people judgement. so i try to stay away from big group of people. i also discover that one on one is more easy to have less judgement. often with big group of people they act like a collective to try to assimilate you to their judgement. but who can judge another? "Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. http://bible.cc/luke/6-37.htm You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. http://bible.cc/romans/2-1.htm "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? http://bible.cc/matthew/7-3.htm You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye. http://bible.cc/matthew/7-5.htm so use your free will be the light that you can be let your light shine and the darkness will go hide it self where it came from. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ajdulzZIA9c experience and enjoy. |
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The afore statements are all so true. We all share fear of the judgment as we all are judge-mental. Fear diminishes after surviving confrontation. Repetition of this event equates to mastery. Even though mastery is obtainable, one cannot kill fear. In saying, the master is not the man, but the fear that drives the man to mastery. You are right- fear drives us to master something that we are going to perform! TY! Jai
(11 Apr '12, 16:48)
Jaianniah
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