When you surrender you still care but you don't mind. Actually you care much more than when you where in the state of resistance. When you surrender to what is, you still feel compassion, love, etc towards people and situations in ways you never experienced before which means that you care even more, but you no longer judge and think about these feelings and people and you are not concerned about the outcome of the situations that you face.

The sign of being in the state of surrender is no suffering. You may be in challenging situations, situations that are considered dreadful and unbearable by the world, but you do not suffer. You just face them peacefully.

I get what you are saying about the word surrender. This can conjure up a lot of different definitions to different people. For example in people who are very action-orientated this surrendering could be interpreted as accepting defeat. 

Once you understand and have belief in how the Universe truly works the concept of surrender takes on a new positive meaning:)

The act of true surrender for me always feels empowering.You stop trying to making something happen in a certain way or in a certain time-frame. You just let go and accept the Isness of the present moment.

When you surrender your effectively getting out of your own way and trusting and allowing the Universe to deliver what you want when the time is right for you. Most times in people this letting go just happens automatically, because the resistance they hold towards not having what they desire becomes too much.

I would say if surrendering doesn't feel good to you then you are still holding on to something. 

Surrender is to surrender to this moment, not to a story through which you interpret this moment and then try to resign yourself to it.

Eckhart Tolle

When I "surrender", I feel better because I have given my troubles to God. If I haven't done that truly- truly surrendered- then I feel like you say: a "whatever" kind of feeling. It is more like a stalemate than a surrender in that case. I think that surrendering should be a freeing process. I guess I learned this when I quit drinking long ago- I surrendered my alcoholism to God, and in surrendering, won great things. I guess you should look at whether you truly have surrendered or if you just have given up.

Blessings,

Jaianniah

When we are in such a depressed state of mind that we do not have the energy and basically feel we don't have the energy to deal with it anymore, we feel like, "I don't care, whatever. I could be hit by a truck; I don't care, leave me alone." We cannot give up and must keep up the fight!

If we give in, Satan wins, we feel turn away from God and feel what is the point, everything sucks whatever. You could be told your neighbor's house is burning down and say, "Fine, whatever, I don't care." That is a deep state of depression!

Don't give up, keep praying, as it says in Luke 11:9 Keep asking and keep seeking, keep knocking in other words don't give up! Turn it over to God, that is how you should surrender, surrender to God not the world, not to the problem. We don't want to say the problem won it has beat me, I give up whatever.

To totally surrender, is to release the emotions attached to it. Everything is vibration. We attract by tuning in to the vibration of what we want. As long as we are in the vibration of wanting, we are not in the vibration of receiving. Our natural vibration is in alignment with everything we want. It is our beliefs, which are emotions about our thoughts, that create the resistance to being in vibration with what we want.

For example, it is the natural state for a cork to float on water. If we tie a bunch of weights to it, it will sink. If we put enough weights, limiting beliefs, it will sink to the bottom. As we remove the weights or limiting beliefs, the cork begins to rise. It will only rise as much as the weights we take off. As we get closer to the surface of the water, we have access to better and better things, depending on the beliefs we dropped and the beliefs we still have.

When we release the limiting beliefs and we move up, we begin experincing things like excitement and expectancy. These don't need to be attached to particular desires, just a vibration that expects good things, and is excited just because.

The weights are hooked to the cork with a hook. Pockets of air in the cork is what gives it it's bouyancy. We don't have to know what the limiting beliefs are to release them. We just inject the cork with possitive supporting beliefs. The air pockets expand and the hook has nothing to hang on to, so it just falls off.

How do we inject possitive beliefs so the limiting beliefs will fall off? This is the age old question. People have been seeking this answer forever. People have also been finding ways to do it, but sharing answers has been difficult. Now with the internet, people can share their discoveries with people all over the world. So more people have access to more help. Ideas can grow faster with more input available at the touch of a button, or a click of a mouse. I have been able to study different modalities and combine ideas and concepts in a short period of time. There are many great methods out there that help many people. I personally found them lacking in some way. So I combined everything I learned and came up with what I call Two Hands Touching. I have found it to be helpful for many things.

When I use THT with affirmations, it install new possitive beliefs.

Surrender and whatever In my LIFE is..... Letting go! Letting GOD! LEt THY WILL BE DONE! Let the weak say IAMSTROOOOONNNNNGGGG! And then GOODNESS and LOVE manifest along with Faith, hope mercy ect xo

To me, "surrender" has to be defined as several people have so well said. It is not waving a white flag and turning yourself over to enemy forces.

It means giving up the idea that you can, through struggle, MAKE something happen.

It means walking in consciousness with your complete Self (Source, God, Allah, Brahma, Universal Mind, whatever), and allowing that partnership to simply and easily guide you to your greatest Joy.

My first car was a "straight shift". I could put it in gear, take my foot off the clutch, engage the starter motor. It would not start, but it would creep slowly, arduously along, until the battery went dead in few feet. Struggle.

Or I could push down on the clutch, start the engine with the starter motor, and go faster and easier. But I needed to 'surrender' the idea of using the starter motor for propulsion and engage the higher power. A small effort with the starter motor leading to a much more powerful result.

Since there are so many incredible answers here that are worth their weight in contemplation I am going to keep this answer as short as possible (and also because my angle is slightly different).

I believe that surrender is the opposite of karmic contemplation (LOA reference).

Therefore, with time, surrender can be measured by examining if the need for surrender occurs before or after the fact.