Liam and Catherine already gave very good answers. i have the very same issue with jealousy about my girlfriend. first i thought i got the root of it and did one focus block. it felt very good but every day i had to come back to it.

what the problem with questioning ( e.g. asking why don't i already have what i want) and hunting the root problem with words and the logical mind is you don't get always access to the root. your brain tricks you sometimes to protect you from the truth/root because it thinks that it could be too hurtful to find the underlying cause.

for example let's say you have a problem with not getting enough money in life.

you ask: why don't i have what i want (money) already?

you answer: because i don't have a good job

you ask again: why don't i have what i want (good job) already?

you answer: because i am too lazy

you ask: why don't i have what i want (beeing motivated to find a job) already?

you answer: because i don't eat well so my body has not enough nutritions to produce energy...

...

so you see you brain can come up with all sorts of "logical" answers. but turns out what the root issues with not having enough money are a few underlying beliefs. e.g. "rich people are bad and unloving", "money is the root of all evil in the world", "the most happy people are not the rich ones but the poor ones with a lovely attitude" etc.

so these believes keep yourself from getting money. but you are not aware of them. imo it is very hard to find the root by just asking "why" or "why don't i have what i want already?". but this is just my personal experience.

but fortunately i came across a very smooth technique a few days ago that finds the root problem without you having to do too much. this approach is called "focusing" by eugine gendlin. it focuses on emotions to get to all root issues within a few minutes instead of stressing the logical mind to find answers all day long.

here is a quick "how to" tutorial. but i would recommend the audio cds or the book.

if you find the root issues you can use focus blocks much more effectively. hope this helps.

It sounds as if you are doing really well Grace - the first thing is to know that many who have worked with these processes, particularly on a major issue will be familiar with this experience.

It could be that the issue is so deep that it can't be handled all at once so you are handling it in stages - integrating a bit, plateau - maybe lose a bit of ground, then back down into it for further integration. It takes a bit of nerve to not lose too much ground when things are ebbing rather than flowing but you can do it!

I find that doing the same Focus Wheel/Block does eventually lead to resistance or a feeling that I'm just writing down the words without feeling them - when this happens I just try to let that lie and then just concentrate on a more general feeling of well being for a while. I think Abraham talks about "going general". This is more effective than hammering away at the resistant major issue. This doesn't mean that you will never find resolution on the issue you are tackling with your focus block - it just means that for today you are just giving yourself a bit of break. I find appreciating nature and animals is particularly effective on the days when you feel things slipping a bit - virtually no resistance on either of those topics.

The only other thing to add is that if you find you are having to jump start yourself every morning into a happy place, it might be worth spending some time before you go to sleep just getting yourself into a good feeling place - again the trick here I find is to keep it general. I think Esther talks about just appreciating the pillow, your nice cosy bed etc - fairly neutral stuff.

I hope this helps.