hi..kanda

 almost a year from now i was in such confusing situation.. of "what to do n what not to do? "..

`` i stayed away from home, having no privacy, few friends, was happy but not so much as i am today..., so, i made a decision ...i moved back to my home.., i have a dad who is now "excellent dad in the world ,i would say..n mom ..she is super-dupper awesome.."..,but its present situation i am telling u..,

but about an year ago..,my dad was realy critical to deal with, same like you dad..,no one talked to my dad..,me n my dad's relationship was realy bad..,we didn't talked for months with each other.., but then..i thought its of no use in running from the problem, instead face it n change it. after all we have the power to change our circumstances.

here, along with my dad..,i have a relative n evn she is critical like him..,so..if i had to move home back ..-i had to deal with too critical family memebers. its my mom who has always been good to me but,sometimes she too gets annoyed. but..about an year ago-i made a decision that i have to change this no matter what, i am not going to run away,i m gonna face it. so,i moved home.

i took it as a challenge to change my circumstances. so..i practised LOA a lot, i did all i could do to be positive, i meditated,i practised gratitude,visualization..everything...

n now i l tell you the results...- just in a month i started seeing the awesome results. my dad n my relationship improved a lot. even,he himself changed cos what he needed all of his life was simply...LOVE..LOVE..N LOVE...,COMPASION.,.ATTENSION , which i gave him.now, not only me but, each n everyone talks to him n he is completely improved without any medication.

the best thing i l tell u..is "USE POSITIVE ASPECTS..", the people which i found difficult to deal with i practised this..,i wrote positive aspects of them..,though in the beginning its difficult to write positive about such people but, with practise u can make it also possible..cos u know every person has atleast one positive aspect of their personality. u must be knowing that "a single positive thought is very strong against million negative thoughts. n if u keep in mind that odd person's even a single positive aspect for the whole day in ur mind..he is sure to change towards you..positively.

today- i tell u..i feel that i am the most happiest n most luckiest person on the whole planet earth. i n my dad..,we are best friends now n our relationship is getting stronger day by day. he shares with me everything. we laugh together,he even cracks jokes, we prepare our dinner's together on holidays n he alwayz stands by my side when ever i need him..that too guaranted. even people around us says-he is so changed,doesn't seems to be the same person we used to know a year before. we both take care of my mom together.now he is indeed more fallen in love with my mom..just cos she has even,started giving him more n more love ..than she used to give a year ago.my mom is also happy all the time now . we all are damn happy together.i feel so blessed to have such wonderful parents n family.

u see...LOVE IS THE ANSWER OF EVERY PROBLEM...", give love more than hatred n complaints n i guarantee u that u will definately receive nothing but simply...LOVE,LOVE N LOVE.

so,don't run away , face them, instead of moving from here n there..., relax urself,meditate n ask ur higher self which is the best place for me to get settled. n u l get all the answers., or my suggestion would be..if ur parents are settled at good place..why don't u thnk to start ur work there..its good when u have ur family n work at the same place..,family is a great support to you..

i hope my answer helps you..,n remember dear..we are gifted by God with such an incredible mind,that has all the powers to win over any sort of circumstance,,the only condition is..., u should know how TO PLAY WITH THIS TOY (MIND POWERS) .use that Godly Gift within u properly.i hope ur issues get solved as soon as possible. i l pray for u...n may u live with peace, love n happiness.

love,light n blessings ur way..kanda

supergirl.. :)))

too many variables by your intellect,
so find a more user friendly guiding force
you may be a guest on earth
instead of an entitled being

well from what i read your main concern is finding a place,each place you go is not the right place,bad landlord bad room mate your father want to help you and it is not the right place,because you still have stuff to fix in that relation ship. and probably in the other relationship as well. and since your sister and mother do not want to have you with them it might be the same there again. maybe the point of all this is to stop running away and solve what needs to be solved. yes those people might have problem and are not perfect but no one is. if you are looking for perfection it does not exist in this world of duality,it is still a work in progress. as for helping your father it is only normal did he not pay for you when you where a kid? did he not put a roof on your head? did he not pay you some stuff? and give you a hand? you will eventually be in the same position that your father is in right now. put your self in is shoe, would you take it if your son would say this?My dad has been convincing me to move home "for my own wellbeing" But I really know its because he has no friends or life and LOTS of health problems. He abused me emotionally as a kid and has narcisstic personality disorder which really wants me to avoid him at all costs. No one else in my family talks to him if they can help it and I try to uphold the same but my sister nor my mom will let me stay with them. if your father has problem to fix help him if you can. maybe you both are ready to have a good talk and solve problem in your relationship? he as made the offer to help you i think it is a step in the right direction now it is your turn. the ball is in your camp. yes i know you want privacy,individuality,freedom etc.... you can still have all of those with who ever you are staying. talk put your limit explain to the person why it is not working and find a common ground,so it will work for both of you. has for the business you said it your self it is going to die soon. so onlest you have something to try to turn that around you know what will happen. so did it solve many variables? will also say this if it might help you in your life. he who does not honour the son does not honour the father, and he who does not honour the father does not honour the son. know the truth and it will set you free.has for the place that you need to stay in first is in you.if there is conflict and unsolved thing in you where ever you go the same will be there.if you can solve conflict in you you can also solve conflict outside of you. why do you wash the outside of the cup? do you not know that the one that made the inside is also the one that made the outside? so let there be light,Be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy.