Misery loves company, especially miserable company.

When people are miserable and sad, they just want you to listen to them and understand them. You don't have to show that you agree with their opinion, because that doesn't matter that much. The first thing we want to do is give advice, and this is wrong approach. Even if we are 100% right, we should refrain from doing that.

I've learned this from this book. Altough it concerns children, I found that it works equally great on adults. The strategy is to listen carefully, encourage your speaker to talk even more, and as your responses use what he's just told you (not in exact words) to describe his feelings about the matter he is speaking about. Very peculiar and weird to apply, when I used it on my miserable friend, she started speaking more and more and eventually she has wondered why she told me that much. After some time her mood went back to normal and she changed the subject.

This is just the tip of an iceberg so I recommend you the book, it's really great.

People seem to love to commiserate together. Perhaps that gives them a feeling of community. People also hate to be told they're wrong, which is essentially what you do when you tell them to be more positive.

Commiseration seems to happen more in environments that encourage it. In environments that do not encourage it (my church is one), not so much.

I think not as much we annoy people with our positive attitude but when we try to tell them to have a positive attitude like your "Look on the bright side" help when all your sister wanted to hear was the world's way of saying something like you should be mad maybe you should get even ect...

Where as the Christian way is to say well God is in control there must be a reason for this that is to my benefit someplace, I have no right to be mad unless I was to think I was in control. This way instantly releases the problem and the burden of the yoke of this problem to carry around as well, in other words it does not mess up the whole rest of your day or week like it does for everyone else. :-D

Islam says "In everything that happens there is God's will and He always knows what is best for us" Hindusism says "When something happens according to your desires thats good, when its doesn't that's even better as that means its God's desire and His desire is always for our ultimate good". All religions have similar beliefs but people only seem to use these things as quotations their actions are usually quite contrary to this, I think because when they are misearble or complaining and others are sympathetic to them they feel a kind of solace and the centre of attention. When we are positive with such people this cycle of misery, sympathy and feeling good is broken - that's not what they are used to and this is what annoys them. One of my cousins had a drug problem and he had lost his job, his wife became pregnant during this time and his family was quite worried about what would happen after the child was born and how he will be able to support his family. His wife miscarried and I heard the news from his sister, my instinctive response was "perhaps that's what God thinks is best" and she flipped! Even though this was something thet all kind of wanted deep in their hearts my saying so was against the tried and tested response she was expecting.

It annoys some people but not others. When I lived in a dorm at school, I would wake up and sing or humm or whistle while getting ready for school/work and doing my chores. I remember one girl who would get so irritated by it. I didn't understand this and made the mistake of wondering. In wondering, I attracted experiences that gave me some answers. I actually got sucked in to the negative side for awhile. It was actually while going to a UPC church, which has a 'holier than thou,' attitude. I noticed that since then, I have been trying to find myself again. On facebook, an old friend from elementary school kept posting stuff like, "life is good." I kept asking in my mind, why she could feel that way while others were complaining about this and that, but she always has a positive perspective. Meanwhile, I was studying, and participating here, and learning about EFT, and learning how it all works. So it all comes down to vibration. Similar vibrations can resonate, and harmonize and synchronize, but vibrations that are too different, create disharmony, etc... Like somebody banging on the piano can put some notes together that sound good, and some combinations that sound really bad together. So, when our vibration is in that different, it disturbs their vibration, harmonic dosonance for example. The trick is not to get sucked down when people respond negatively to possitive behavior. It is also important to be sensitive to others. Ideally you want to help their vibration to rise with yours, not bring yours down, or theirs down.

On the other hand, some people enjoy the music. One time I was whistling while shopping. I stopped for a momment to read a label, when this older man popped his head around the aisle and said, "Don't stop, I was enjoying that. I have been trying to keep in hearing distance to your whistling."

yes sometime it does people have free will and some see only the negative some are jealous and some cannot understand that other people can be positive when they are not able to be. so experience and enjoy.

I think its only "annoying" in so much as the person we are dealing with may not be conscious of these methods that everyone on here has generally been studying/aware of/practicing- such as law of attraction/manifestation, energy work etc. Most people generally just say its "nonsense" and are fairly closed minded about it- then they go on bitching about minute things that go wrong...and then more minute things that go wrong...and its no wonder we have nothing to talk to them about cause their focus is on things out of their control!

I'd say its not a matter of us annoying anyone- its more a matter of us either choosing to associate with more conscious people, or attracting in people with similar positive beliefs about how the world works. Instead of feeling sheepish around others who may not be receptive to those laws of the universe and the idea or practice of watching our thoughts, etc.etc. things like that... It helps to recognize our positivity sometimes brings fear out in others.

I'm a very practical person myself but I still refuse to read the news or listen to fear-based stories because I know everything is about vibrations and things happen for a reason, so I put alot of effort into innoculating myself from things other people say that are either trying to get me to join in on their bitching or lower vibrations or other unconstructive things...

Things go much smoother for me (and even better- I'm not self-conscious or worse, "guilty") for being polyannish around anyone- because I know that LOA and like is actually much more predictable and common sense than the populist definition of 'common-sense' which is actually fear based...

hope this helps!