how do you do it when you feel guilty for taking decisions in the past which were responsible to bring you where you are - like you have no career a the moment, you dont know where you would end up, no relationships?

I know this may be a little hard to comprehend in our human terminology of past, present, and future, but every decision you make comes from a brand new and fresh Right Now. There is no past and no future. You get a fresh start in each and every single moment. Our habitual and repetitive vibration of living in our heads instead of our feeling place produces the illusion of the past holding us back.

Just think about a so called past event for a moment. When and where is that particular thought in existence? It is in existence right now. You are simply continuing to tune into that unique frequency (of the illusionary past event) and manifesting unwanted repercussions over and over and over again.

When we take our now moment and loop it over and over again with frequencies from our "past events" we produce similar manifestations right now, that are essentially from stuff that is old news and doesn't need to ever be dug back up again.

Accepting what is right now, is simply surrendering to any negative resistance that you hold within you. Once the grip on that resistance (or negative past event) is released, you will no longer attract a similar frequency that you don't prefer. Focusing on what you don't want just gives you more of what you don't want. Surrender the need and obligation of feeling like you have to focus on things that you really don't want in your life.

I need help especially with this issue, most of my life i felt that my parents did not love me, but now when i look back i can remember all the times they were so loving and wonderful to me. I then feel guilty for having felt that they did not love me and also for the hurt this knowledge has brought them. I am unable to make peace with this? could you please help me with this like giving me an example how you yourselves would proceed with it if it were your issue?

Energy flows where your focus goes.

Focus on the good things in your life. Think about how much your parents loved you and let go of the rest. Release the heavy burden of guilt and the things that you do not prefer. You don't need them anymore.

Start creating your life right now in this moment and focus on what makes you feel good. You are literally...Literally a new person in every single moment. Focus, think about, ponder, visualize, feel, contemplate all the things you want to exist in your reality now, now, now.

Have fun with it. Make believe like when you were a child. Look at yourself in the mirror everyday and say "I accept myself for who I am and I live in the present moment at all times." Do anything you can to live for the now, because the now is all there really is. Everything is just either visible or non-visible on different vibrational frequencies.

The past is happening now. You can never ever think of the past in the past. You can only think of it and anything else right now.

Just decide you want something new in life and...Make peace with where you are.

Abraham Hicks - Accepting What Is and Making The Best of It

EDIT ADDED 1/6/2013

This in in response to @dreamersmiles question about how to surrender.

Here are a few links could be helpful in answering your question that have already been discussed.

When you surrender, does it feel as if you don't care?

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be aware accept the truth for what it is.remove those division that bring disharmony in you,inside and outside. be righteous with wisdom knowledge and truth,you are growing and are seing what you did not see before,if you have sin and did stuff that you regret, repent and do what is right for your self and other.only when this will be done will you find back the inner peace that you are lacking right now. so let there be light,Be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy.

so. who cares? in order for one to experience sympathy there needs to be apathy in the world. children starve everyday to enable others sympathy. you make decisions that you later regret to experience regret. it is only when you measure one as unequal to one that you form a paradox of feeling.