Hi everybody!

This is a very simple process, still, I was wondering...

The "Wouldn't It Be Nice If?..." Process

When to Use This Process:

  • When you find yourself leaning toward the negative, and therefore offering resistance, and you want to turn it around to something more positive.

  • When you are already feeling good, and you want to focus more specifically on certain areas of your life to make them even better.

  • When you want to gently guide a negative, or potentially negative, conversation to a more positive place for your benefit or to gently guide someone else.

This Wouldn’t It Be Nice If...? Process will be of the most value to you when your Emotional Set-Point is ranging somewhere between:

  • (4) Positive Expectation/Belief and
  • (16) Discouragement.

When you say, “I want this thing to happen that hasn’t happened yet,” you are not only activating the vibration of your desire, but you are also activating a vibration of the absence of your desire—so nothing changes for you.

And often, even when you do not speak the second part of the sentence and you say only, “I want this to happen,” there is an unspoken vibration within you that continues to hold you in a state of not allowing your desire.

But when you say, “Wouldn’t it be nice if this desire would come to me?” you achieve a different sort of expectation that is much less resistant in nature.

Your question to yourself naturally elicits from you a more positive, expectant response.

And so, this simple but powerful game will cause a raising of your vibration and an improvement in your point of attraction because it naturally orients you toward the things that you want.

The Wouldn’t It Be Nice If...? Process will help you let in the things that you have been asking for, on all subjects.

-- Source: Abraham, from the book Ask & It Is Given

My questions:

  1. How does something so simple as asking: Wouldn't it be nice if...? help you release resistance? I know we're not supposed to be asking about the 'how to's' but it sounds so simple...

  2. Can I do it for someone else, say: "Wouldn't it be nice if my mother were feeling better today?" Would it work for her?

  3. Should I do it for one topic at a time or I can mix up topics making a looong list of things that are actually bothering me/making me uneasy?

  4. Mentally or written down?

  5. For how long would it more fit to keep on doing it?

Sorry I ask so many questions, but releasing resistance is my major problem in the manifestation process. I am always shifting towards Feeling Bad...

Thanks in advance!


PS: I have more questions on the processes, that I'll be posting separately. Later on, I'll add all the links here for people who are also interested.

asked 30 Jul '10, 15:04

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edited 06 Nov '10, 18:19

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Barry Allen ♦♦

Wouldn't it be nice is an underrated process in my view. I've used it quite effectively on occasion but, for me, the "Big 3 Processes" of Focus Wheels/Blocks, Positive Aspects and Rampages of Appreciation work so well and effectively together to cover the entire vibrational/emotional spectrum that I often don't bother with it.

I think Wouldn't It Be Nice falls into the category of one of those processes that seems too easy to do that many people don't even try it.

The times when it works best (I think) are those times when you find yourself a bit stuck in a particular belief and don't know where to go with it.

The process allows you to give yourself permission to be free in the moment, since we are much less resistant to questions than to statements.

1) How does something so simple as asking: Wouldn't it be nice if...? help you release resistance? I know we're not supposed to be asking about the 'how to's' but it sounds so simple...

I believe the way it works is that it tricks you (consciously) into releasing resistance through the form of a question rather than a head-on statement.

For example, if you said to someone Clean up your room! then doesn't that seem like it would generate resistance from the other person if they resented you telling them to clean up their room.

But, if instead, you said Wouldn't it nice to have a clean, open, fresh room? then doesn't that just make things much lighter. It's like you are presenting them with a gentle choice rather than a stern command...even if it really amounts to the same thing :)

The other person I am talking about in this case is that aspect of you that is holding on to a limiting belief that you are trying to mold into a better-feeling place.

In fact, this idea of asking questions (instead of making statements) to release resistance has already been turned into a success approach by one enterprising individual. He has called the process Afformations. I guess it's worth a look if you like the idea but it's not really much more than a repackaged version of the Wouldn't It Be Nice If? process and I would still use the other Abraham processes too.

2) Can I do it for someone else, say: "Wouldn't it be nice if my mother were feeling better today?" Would it work for her?

Yes, you can. You attract the behavior out of other people that is consistent with your vibrational view of them. So if you feel better about them, you will also attract behavior out of them that will be consistent with that.

However, you cannot assert her to feel better, only influence her. See Where is the line drawn between “Law of Attraction” and the non-existent “Law of Assertion”?

3) Should I do it for one topic at a time or I can mix up topics making a looong list of things that are actually bothering me/making me uneasy?

Whatever you like. The key with all the Abraham processes (including Focus Blocks, which is just a variation of Focus Wheels) is that you should feel an immediate shift in your vibration. If you don't, try another approach until something works.

Never be afraid to experiment with the processes. That's all I do. I keep playing with them and then get inspired to try different things from time to time. Some of the ideas work and some don't. But I'm not sitting here channelling some ultimate truth regarding any of my own ideas with the processes. I'm just a vibrational experimenter and I wholeheartedly encourage you (or anyone else reading this) to also go down that route...you will learn so much more from putting the processes to the test yourself in unusual ways than you will from the opinions/ideas of others.

4) Mentally or written down?

Whatever you like, and whatever is convenient. Writing down (or even typing) is usually more powerful than mentally because the words give you a point of focus when your mind starts to drift.

But it is still better to do the process mentally than not do it at all, if the circumstances are not convenient to write/type things. e.g. while driving your car

5) For how long would it more fit to keep on doing it?

It's the same as Focus Blocks. Keep using it until you no longer feel bad about the subject.


answered 01 Aug '10, 14:15

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edited 01 Aug '10, 21:21

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Thanks Stingray, Haven't been to LOA group in a long time. I am so happy to find out change doesn't have to be a grind and can even be fun. I can't remember if I know about the big three. Might have a look at them.

(07 Nov '10, 01:31) Tom

I'm taking it slow to really get know the ones I am working with well. I feel so much better I don't won't look at anything else. Silly me, But change was such a relief. shish

(07 Nov '10, 01:35) Tom

@Stingray. I think that when you gave me the link to afformations I could see what were they like, but now the site's changed and now I have to sign up to see something. Am I wrong?

(29 Nov '10, 13:19) BridgetJones09

@BridgetJones09 - The Afformations process has always been a product you have to buy so now he's just getting you to sign up to his mailing list first

(29 Nov '10, 14:20) Stingray

@Stingray: My mistake, sorry. :)

(30 Nov '10, 00:03) BridgetJones09

@Stingray-May i ask a question here which relates to Manifesting Lab method?

(13 Apr, 14:03) Zee
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How does something so simple as asking: Wouldn't it be nice if...? help you release resistance?

It makes you change your mental focus.

Can I do it for someone else, say:

"Wouldn't it be nice if my mother were feeling better today?" Would it work for her?

Her thoughts are her own, but it will change your own mental attitude and energy, and that will have a positive influence on her.

Should I do it for one topic at a time or I can mix up topics making a looong list of things that are actually bothering me/making me uneasy?

Techniques like the Focus Blocks method and the Wouldn't it be Nice method seem to work best on one topic at a time, largely because human beings are really capable of focusing on only one topic at a time. But you can make your long list, and work on each topic individually.

Mentally or written down?

Writing things down is a powerful technique. It goes from the brain to hand to paper to eye, and back to the brain, reinforcing the mental concept being worked on.

For how long would it more fit to keep on doing it?

Until you feel better or feel a sense of relief/release, or when you no longer seem to get forward progress, at which point I would encourage you to work on something else for awhile.


answered 30 Jul '10, 15:49

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edited 30 Jul '10, 20:36

Stingray and Vesuvius have answered your questions nicely.

I just wanted to add something of my own.

The "Wouldn't It be nice if...?" process is excellent. If I am out and feel myself beginning to dip I catch myself and use it to maintain my state of feeling good...or even to pick myself up when I am feeling a bit down but am out and don't have lists for focus blocks available. It is my main "while living life" process.

That said, I rarely use it on any predefined unwanted subject of mine. I use it purely to feel good. And when you have the statement 'wouldn't it be nice if...?' this is easy to achieve. You can imagine the most 'ludicrous' things (according to your current beliefs) with it, that you wouldn't really expect.

For example, just earlier today I was getting a slight dip in my mood and I just started using this process to get my mood up.

For example I thought "wouldn't it be nice if when I got to my place, was cooking sausages and offered me some for lunch?"

"Wouldn't it be nice if I heard how such-and-such project went?"

"Wouldn't it be nice if was lying naked on my bed waiting for when I got home?"

(ok, those aren't particularly ludicrous examples, but I don't want to appear too crazy ;))

And so on. Those thoughts got me feeling really good...they were 'random' and their only intention was to have me feeling good. That's really important. Stingray says it so much, but I've only recently realized myself how important it is.

The first two of those examples actually manifested as soon as I got back to my place. Alas, the last one didn't. But no matter. :P


answered 10 Aug '10, 08:35

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edited 10 Aug '10, 08:47


Please, share some of the most ludicrous! :) I won't think you crazy...'crazy' is my middle name lol (You don't have to if you don't wanna). But thanks for this answer! I'll use this process more.

(10 Aug '10, 14:23) BridgetJones09

I'm ready to hear some more. Sounds like you are having a blast. So cool the ludicrous one came to pass. I really love it.

(07 Nov '10, 01:21) Tom

@Liam- I love the second example more than the first :P

(04 Jul '13, 02:12) Nikulas
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For those interested in this process I want to suggest a variation that I think is much more effective in some vibrational states.

As Stingray explained in his answer, this question bypasses resistance or "tricks you into releasing resistance". If you combine this "tricking effect" with the power of appreciation, you have a more powerful process. Usually true appreciation works only when fully in the vortex. But with this a slight change, appreciation is often possible in lower vibrational states.

I've tested this successfully many times and it seems to work best for me when I'm feeling at least neutral on the emotional scale (and I think it works smoother when feeling hopeful).

So the question goes like this:

"Wouldn't it be nice if I could wholeheartedly appreciate... such and such?"


answered 03 Jul '13, 22:16

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What a vast collaboration of helpful and honesty answers! This Inward Quest thing really rocks!

Here's my variation on it that I managed to apply today with feel good results.

I get out a word document and randomly begin the "wouldn't it be nice if..." with problems that are bothering me today. The phrases are all solutions my physical mind comes up with (no matter how unrealistic) to put my mind at som ease about them.

Today I was feeling bad about having no money until the next couple of days until I get paid, so I wrote down "Wouldn't it be nice if my dad were to just randomly give me $200?"

I use this in conjuction with Bashars definition of abundance: the ability to do what you need to do when you need to do it. I needed money to go to gymnastics, and my imagination really assits the process, "Wouldn't be nice if my friend shouted me at gym today?"

I get out a second word document, and put all of my inspired action onto that one. It goes from thoughts floating around of document 1 to proper solutions on document 2. I jazzed up the second document with cool font and pictures, sort of showing the power of my imagination and the bliss my higher mind gives me when in alignment with the physical!

Note, I don't try and get inspired action. It literally just pops into my head, about certain subjects. Some subjects I have absolutely zero imagination about whilst others I can transform and mould vibration easier. Personally this is my great alternative to focus blocks (I never 'got' focus blocks, I feel guilty saying that).

Afterwards I went through a Rampage of Appreciation and had inspired action to get busy and have fun with my life, as I always find a way to do!


answered 04 Jul '13, 02:10

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