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Hi Inward Questers! I am currently working on setting up my own online business(es) related to creativity and the LOA. I find myself getting inspired and excited about this on a daily basis, and I have so many ideas about all of it. I feel like I am at the beginning of a path that will not only transform my career and get me the life I really desire, but will also transform me on a deep and profound level. The past years since I graduated from uni, I have been trying to think of what to do with my life, and now I feel like I have finally found my path, my life's mission even. But my big problem is that when it actually comes down to doing stuff, I struggle to find the motivation. I work a 9-6 job that I find quite tedious, so this tends to deplete my energy - when I get home in the evenings, I don't feel like doing much. For Easter break, I have had 4 days off. I had big plans of productivity, thinking I was going to get loads of things done. One problem is that I set myself goals that are way too high, and then feel frustrated and disappointed in myself when I fail to reach them. I do get things done, just at a slower pace than I wish to. So I've gotten a few things done over the break, but not nearly as much as I had hoped. I am feeling really lazy today as well, and am mentally chastising myself for it. So it's a vicious circle: inactivity leads me to being negative about myself, which makes me feel anxious, which makes me even less inclined to do anything. I guess, from a lifetime of being hard on myself for not doing all the things I should, my mental to-do list puts me in a state of mild anxiety almost immediately, and it gets worse the longer I put things off. I really like the idea of taking inspired action. These past few months I have tried to be easier on myself, and not stress myself to do things if I don't feel inspired to. This has led to some small success. But, I've still got resistance to "work", and I think this blocks me from feeling inspired to take action too. I really want to get moving with my online business, but I'm stuck. Any insights or advice?
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This is a familiar situation that I'm sure many people have come up against. I've been there myself many times :) I think you'll find that your issues are not about getting stuff done but about getting stuff started. Once you've managed to overcome the resistance to starting a task, you'll very likely find that the inspiration inherent within you for your goals will come flooding back into you and you may have problems stopping instead :) But how to overcome that resistance to starting? The most effective method I know of is incrementally-increasing time bursts. I've previously outlined the full method in How do I control my mind and concentrate on what I am doing? Once you've overcome your resistance to starting and have become habitually used to longer time bursts, you can switch over to longer time-burst systems such as The Pomodoro Technique (free) to provide you with sustained periods of focus and concentration. 1
@cassiopeia Especially since you're working online, I just wanted to point out this site for you if you follow Stingray's advice - http://www.online-stopwatch.com/interval-timer/ It is very easy to set up the whole string of tasks beforehand and then just do them without thinking.
(01 Apr '13, 18:59)
Liam
@Stingray- "resistance to starting.- just clarifying, but would a focus block be useless in comparison to this timed bursts method? (of which I practically live my life around after reading this, it works!). I just want to know what the deal is with alignment first in this situation. I start the task, and usually within a minute or so of doing it my alignment automaticlly sets in. Is this an example of taking action for the purpose of alignment?
(01 Apr '13, 19:48)
Nikulas
@Nikulas - "Is this an example of taking action for the purpose of alignment?" - Yes, that's exactly what it is...as in Bashar's Time Management approach: http://goo.gl/9i6B9 or Abraham's Segment Intending approach: http://goo.gl/ms5SR . Action-first approaches are highly effective when you clearly believe you need to take a certain action in order to move you towards what you want. Alignment-first approaches (like Focus Blocks) are highly effective when you are not sure what to do...
(01 Apr '13, 23:18)
Stingray
@Nikulas - ...or don't really believe that the actions available to you are what you should be doing. Neither approach is right or wrong and both have plenty of overlaps. For example, if after starting a "timed burst" (also referred to as Timeboxing), you then feel this is not what you should continue doing, or you feel inspired towards a different action instead, it is more effective to pursue your new inspiration even though that is not the action you originally started off doing.
(01 Apr '13, 23:22)
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@Stingray- I see. That last sentence of yours I guess has much relevance with Ken and The Guys and their whole speech on making a decision; decisions elaborate on energy and once energy is in motion it's easier to see the best routes in where to re-direct it if necessary. I loved his example of the woman who became an accountant for 4 years, figured it wasn't for her, and went on to be a rock star VS the woman who still didnt know what to do, 4 years later.
(02 Apr '13, 01:18)
Nikulas
@Nikulas - Yes, well said :) An action is a physically manifested decision. It's not the action that's important so much as the energy it sets into motion.
(02 Apr '13, 01:25)
Stingray
Sounds like a really good way to tackle a long list of tasks that I have been putting off. Thanks Stingray.
(09 Apr '13, 08:55)
Pink Diamond
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I downlaoded this book from Robin Sharmas website for free It's a nice little read! |
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I am lazy myself, and I have been fighting it all my life- and I mean all my life! I remember as a kid that I could not clean my room myself- I just couldn't. I used to fight to do my home work- and still have to fight to do the bills (same feeling, I guess...). I have analyzed this a lot, and I have decided that when I am really engaged in what I am doing, I don't seem to have the problem. One thing I have discovered is that timelines do NOT work!!! A timeline, or plan, just guarantees failure, which compounds my problem. I have a new project: I am making curtains for the kitchen. I decided to try something i have never tried before. It's called: ABSOLUTELY NO PRESSURE. Since we have a den, and I can leave things out as I please, I decided to just go at it when I feel like it. That is the only criteria: When I feel like it!. So what is happening is that I do a bit only when I feel like it, and I am now to the point of cutting the fabric. The only pressure I feel is the pressure I put on myself! That is a big realization. All of this stems from being too pressured as a child to achieve. I think the only way I could rebel was to be lazy. Think about it. Also think about who you really are rebelling against. With hope, Jai |
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@cassiopeia You do not take inspired action, inspired action takes you. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jnh3cfERLhc
@cassiopeia In more practical language: you do what comes naturally to the person you assume yourself to be. A mother doesn't think "Oh, I'm not in the mood to feed my baby". Procrastination is merely looking at what you want instead of claiming it, it's like window shopping. The solution is to recreate your concept of self so that action flows from that concept automatically.