I've paid a lot of money for a coaching programme based partly on the law of attraction and hypnosis/meditation to help me with meeting a man and hopefully getting married one day. The coach tells me that who I'm attracting online is a reflection of my own mind. It may be true. I don't know. But the fact is that at my age, the kind of person I'm looking for is not commonly to be found on or offline. I've tried to think in terms of abundance and that there are many men out there who could be right (despite outer appearances). I've also tried to think in terms of the qualities I really want in a man. But I'm still not not getting many people interested in me whom I am interested in. I have basically been trying this for the past couple of years but trying harder to get my mindset right in the past few months. Is who you attract on online dating really a reflection of your mind? And if so how can I work on my mind so I can get better quality men at my age - mid-4o's never married? asked 11 Dec '13, 16:05 Inner Beauty |
I don't know if this article answers your question directly but it contains a few valuable insights. Hope it helps.
http://www.realitycreation.org/how-to-attract-a-new-relationship.html
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answered 12 Dec '13, 08:39 Satori 1
Dear Satori, what a wonderful article! I'm truly not desperate. I just feel I should focus on finding a partner which I haven't done for a lot of my life. There is lots of great advice here especially about increasing connection and friendships. I do have a tendency to be very independent and isolate myself emotionally from people so it is good advice. Thank you so much for sharing this.
(12 Dec '13, 15:04)
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yes @Inner Beauty, here's the conflict ... from the positive angle; emotional independence and isolation reflects a personality having plenty of patience and capable of giving good advice and guidance ... from the negative angle; a personality tending to be obstinate, suspicious, fearful, excessive or even overbearing ... join the two and allow the inner beauty to shine through :)
(13 Dec '13, 00:40)
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It's all a reflection of your mind including online dating, offline dating or any other dating ... in my experience the best way to find a good partner is to forget those dating agencies and set your aims on having a healthy and lively social life ... this way you're showing the world how confident and happy you are which in turn will automatically adjust your vibes and attract the man of your dreams, and with all those social contacts it won't be long before he turns up ... happy hunting :) answered 12 Dec '13, 04:05 jaz Jaz, this is great advice! :)
(12 Dec '13, 06:16)
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Thanks Jaz! That is good advice. The thing is that with online dating I seem to be attracting all the wrong people but with socialising I meet hardly anyone my age single let alone suitable. I think that is why people turn to online dating. But yes you are right I should socialise more. At least that way I'll actually have a better time then looking up depressing Internet sites!
(12 Dec '13, 14:52)
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