This is a tricky topic. I am wondering the best approach to the answer. I think you can tell whether another person's vibration matches with yours, but not if it is high or low. With me for example, At times I sound wise and enlightened. Other times doubtful or egotistical. I decide to write in the flow and I try not to judge what I am writing. I know that words will always fail to reveal the full energy intended in the response. Judge not others because when you judge another it is really a judgement of the self. It is best to reflect on what annoys you about this person for the things that trigger you in word or deed are nuggets of gold for healing.

It is good that you knew not to stay with a person you did not resonate with. Also you know not to take advice that does not resonate with you. Even if it is the post I am writing now. If it does not resonate, ignore it. If it makes you angry, why? What I was suggesting was a technique used to process suppressed emotions.

Learn from your reactions to others, but you will be unable to fully understand the other. From studying those others often label as 'high vibration' you notice how they treat others especially when they being hit with negativity by another. Yet, only judge the self and do that only to heal. Do not judge the self for judging others, but know that your judgements are perceptions.

Than again, If a stove is hot you remove your hand. You naturally think ouch that was hot! And you learn to be careful around the stove to protect from burn. You see every idea of advice I give can be misunderstood and misused. No words stand on their own.

What I am trying to say is in this case I think there is a wrong focus involved. In this case the answer is not found outside of you, but in inward reflection.

I have come across a surprising number of people in the spirituality community who are still very much ruled by their ego. We all have our issues, of course, and I am definitely still ruled by my ego sometimes, so I try not to judge. But I think there are people that fall into the power-hunger traps in the spiritual community, especially those who are drawn to being in the public eye. So it's important to feel people out by how their energy feels to you on an intuitive level, and not just look at their actions.

But most importantly, how did this experience affect you and how can you learn from it? Forget about the other person - we all have our challenges and battles and they are clearly going through their own. But people can't push buttons that we don't have, so if I were in this situation I'd take a look at those buttons, and at what fears and resistances they are covering.