It's never a good idea to keep negative emotions bottled up. They will either find their way out with an explosion as you put it, or they will "eat" you from the inside out with disease. There are many effective ways to deal with them. I just did two searches on Google and YouTube for "How to deal with negative emotions" and found tons of stuff. You will probably want to do some research and experimentation to find the best way for yourself. However since I happened to be here, I'll give you one of my favorite ways that will be easy for you to learn and do very quickly because it's explained by many people who know of it's value. Go to You Tube and search "EFT". Many people will instruct you in how to do it. Then click on this link to tap on anger with Brad Yates, one of the experts in EFT... Click here for EFT. Just watch the video and others like it and you'll learn a very effective way to deal with anger in a very short time. There are also other ways that I'm sure other people will share with you so I won't hog it all up.

But learning EFT or any other modality is much like learning to play Chess. One can learn how the pieces move and the basics of the game very easily. But proficiency at the game comes from experience. So be patient with yourself as you apply the tools you will learn about from people here. Know that as you plumb the depths of your emotions that sometimes they may not easily give up their secrets. What seems like simple anger can be part of something called a "complex" where emotions come in layers where deeper emotions hide beneath the apparent ones. So one must be persistent in the pursuit of the source of the upset. Keep asking and focusing on the emotion and form your questions about it until you can apply the techniques and get true relief. Also, that you have asked your question shows that you are ready to find the answers. My best to you in your pursuit of emotional freedom.

Anger is a difficult emotion for most people. They don't like it. Your parents wouldn't have liked it which is why you will be trying to keep a lid on it.

You could try and get rid of it by using techniques such as EFT, deep breathing etc but that is the same thought pattern as putting a lid on it-( it is bad, I shouldn't be feeling this, etc).

I accepted that my anger was ok and wouldn't beat myself up about getting angry but this had limited success because I was still always angry. Then I got it. I realised that my anger was resentment because I was doing things that I didn't want to do.

So I started saying no. I kept asking myself, why am I doing this? If deep down I didn't want to I would refuse to do it. That made me very unpopular and I felt a lot of guilt.

Guilt is a very uselful emotion in recognising if you are being controlled. Guilt would have been used to control your actions as you grew up so tell it shut up.

Saying no, and being from my perspective very selfish, has really started to work in my life. I am no longer angry and I no longer, most of the time, do what I don't want to do.

Last point: this is a very hard thing to do and over the two years I have been doing it my children have had to leave the private school that they loved, I left my teaching job and didn't find anything else and I nearly lost my home. But then do you want to be remembered as an angry, resentful person. That's how my kids saw me. I was mean to them, shouting, narky.

So question everything you do. Do you want to do it? If not why are you doing it? Then say I am not doing it because I don't want to. No rational argument, no pros and cons just that you don't want to do it so why are you doing it.

• Release your need to be right.
• Realize that it's your thoughts that stimulate and cause emotion to arise within you.
• Change your thoughts about whatever it is that's upsetting you and making you feel anger.
• Go for a walk in nature. Take in all that you see, hear, smell, touch and feel - love all of it, absolutely.
• Thank yourself and the Universe, God or the Source of all creation for each moment of your existence ♥

bring the rage out from hiding
discern and define it,
then look at your need/s
for allowing it to feed on you

Yes Jai we can all understand hidden rage and the impression of extreme frustration, it is in such moments that we "make or break" ... rage is huge energy, try to canalize this energy into something constructive ... it's the moment to take that quantum step into an expanded dimension, it is in such moments that heroines are made

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take care :)

In the Michael Teachings they said the cause for anger was always due to expectations. So I guess a fundemental shift could take place if you could recognize why and how youve been disappointed.

When my anger is focused on a person, Ive had some great success in withdrawing it through a simple exercize: I write the offenders name on a piece of paper, put it in a baggie, fill it w water, freeze it for several days until I feel ready to finally discard it. The effect on the other person is often amazing as well. They often act as if theyre glad to see me. Refreshed, like an old burden has been lifted from their shoulders. If anybody can explain the reason for that Id like to hear it.

Do EFT, and afterward do Matrix Reimprinting. It will relieve you. Remember, it took time to build the anger, so, be patient in your healing path. Namaste-Peace.