I have had instances in dreams that where things arn't fun or pleasant not quite a nightmare but I know that in the dream that is a dream and have waken from it. As far as how goes I know do sometimes think as I prepare to sleep that I will have great dreams and that I can be present in them.
Here is a nice guide to Lucid dreaming
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At first it took effort, because that was my first belief. I read about lucid dreaming and the more I read the more my faith that I can do this built up. We increase faith by reading about others that have done things that we want to do.

This gives us the courage to try ourselves, to say if others can I should be able to too. Now as we try we tend to feel that it is hard to do because we tend to have a built in belief that anything we have never tried takes time to learn. This is of course a belief that is influencing how fast we learn to be able to do something.

But here is the thing the more we apply what we learn the more easy we believe it is until we find it is very easy to change our dreams at will.

I have been doing this for years, I remember a dream I was trying to convince the people in my dream that this is a dream. I walked up a wall and onto the ceiling looking down at them to prove it.

When you go to bed, decide that you want to be aware in your dreams and even decide what you would like to experience. I don't remember dreaming every night, so it only happens sometimes. For me, usually I will be dreaming and realize that I am dreaming and then consciously take control of the dream.

Sometimes I have to jump off a cliff or building to fly, so if I become lucid at that time, I pinch myself to make sure I am really dreaming before I jump. Also I can decide not to fight if I become lucid in a battle. Then I examine what the real conflict is and with whom.

It has evolved over the years. At first, I would indulge myself in things I wouldn't do in my wake life. I learned that by changing the way I behave in my dreams, I could change things in my wake life.

It can also be a practice arena for training yourself to take control. I noticed a common idea in mine and Wade's answer, that is we decided what we wanted and it became so. The more I decided how the dream would go, and watching it happen in my dreams, the more I decide how I want things in life and watch them appear. Like it strengthens my faith in my ability to create my reality and attract what I want.

Hi Eldavo

I think you can influence anything by making simple Intentions while in a feel good state.

There is two exercises called Reality Checks I used to practise. You can do these periodicly throughout the day to increase your chance of Lucid Dreaming. If you build up a habit of doing these exercises you will start to do them automaticly while you dream.

Reality Checks

1.Gaze at an object in your field of view. Then turn away and look at it again.

2.Stare at your hand.

If you stare at your hand while your dreaming it usually starts to fade away or melt.You will instantly know your dreaming. If you look at an object and then turn to look at it again and it has changed you will know your dreaming.

yes when you sleep the spirit travel most of the time you are not aware of it, when you dream is when you are aware of it,the answer you are seeking is to be lucid or aware,has for dream there are many kind,dream where you are just observing,creation dream where you can create and modify your enviromment at will,dream where you can travel in this world (aka out of body experience),prophetic dream where you see the future as it is or will be or could happen(often you will get symbole because it is to much information for your mind to handle),dream where you are at different place at the same time(your conscience is split in different place and time yet you see all those place simultaneously),dream that are more real than this world where you meet other being etc.... experience and enjoy.

also do you know how to practice being aware? tips:did you find the water of the lake and make it calm?

i have decided to tell you a story to help you out: one day a children was seing everything around him becoming dark and did not see anny way to find some light to remove the darkness in this beautiful field,then he said god i will sit here each day until you tell me why you sent me here,then day after he was siting there looking straigth for ward fixing a point in front of him that was not there,after a fee day he started to get calm and started to see a light in the focus point in front of him he saw how what he saw in the field related to is mind and emotion and learned the truth a little more each day it went on for 7 week during those 7 week he believed that the light was is soul(mind and heart) until at the end of that learning he was very aware and focus,but the light was not out of him but was him then he lost earing and sight and then it came back again but something was different he started moving out of is flesh passed through a wall and saw a tunnel open in the sky and light was coming out of that tunnel then he went up above in that tunnel after a short travel he saw some small light every where with different form and colours and they where bathing in a golden light that golden light was serving for communication that is how the light talked together he talked with the small light that where happy to see him then he went to see the big light in the middle and talked with him,the big light told and show him that it was is choice to come experience this field before he came in the field,and told him that it was always is choice and that he can always return here. so since it was is choice he decided to come back to the field and experience and enjoy this world.but now he understand that the small light that he was seing was not is soul (mind and heart)but the reflection on the water of the mind of him self has spirit.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w6eTbhHE0jM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e7Qx9GyA1jw

you see it is the same has the sun that would look at the bothom of the sea and believe that it is the water because he cannot see him self and see only the bothom of the sea. but if the water get calm enuff he can see is own reflection on the water and learn the truth about him self.knowing the truth he know that he is a light shining on the water and the earth.

Mary said to Jesus, "What are your disciples like?"

He said, "They are like little children living in a field that is not theirs. When the owners of the field come, they will say, 'Give us back our field.' They take off their clothes in front of them in order to give it back to them, and they return their field to them.

For this reason I say, if the owners of a house know that a thief is coming, they will be on guard before the thief arrives and will not let the thief break into their house (their domain) and steal their possessions.

As for you, then, be on guard against the world. Prepare yourselves with great strength, so the robbers can't find a way to get to you, for the trouble you expect will come.

Let there be among you a person who understands.

When the crop ripened, he came quickly carrying a sickle and harvested it. Anyone here with two good ears had better listen!"

His disciples said, "Show us the place where you are, for we must seek it."

He said to them, "Anyone here with two ears had better listen! There is light within a person of light, and it shines on the whole world. If it does not shine, it is dark."

Jesus said, "Images are visible to people, but the light within them is hidden in the image of the Father's light. He will be disclosed, but his image is hidden by his light." Jesus said, "If your leaders say to you, 'Look, the (Father's) kingdom is in the sky,' then the birds of the sky will precede you. If they say to you, 'It is in the sea,' then the fish will precede you. Rather, the (Father's) kingdom is within you and it is outside you.

When you know yourselves, then you will be known, and you will understand that you are children of the living Father. But if you do not know yourselves, then you live in poverty, and you are the poverty."

Jesus said, "Congratulations to the one who came into being before coming into being.

If you become my disciples and pay attention to my sayings, these stones will serve you.

For there are five trees in Paradise for you; they do not change, summer or winter, and their leaves do not fall. Whoever knows them will not taste death."

Jesus saw some babies nursing. He said to his disciples, "These nursing babies are like those who enter the (Father's) kingdom."

They said to him, "Then shall we enter the (Father's) kingdom as babies?"

Jesus said to them, "When you make the two into one, and when you make the inner like the outer and the outer like the inner, and the upper like the lower, and when you make male and female into a single one, so that the male will not be male nor the female be female, when you make eyes in place of an eye, a hand in place of a hand, a foot in place of a foot, an image in place of an image, then you will enter [the kingdom]."

Jesus said, "From Adam to John the Baptist, among those born of women, no one is so much greater than John the Baptist that his eyes should not be averted.

But I have said that whoever among you becomes a child will recognize the (Father's) kingdom and will become greater than John."

Jesus said, "If they say to you, 'Where have you come from?' say to them, 'We have come from the light, from the place where the light came into being by itself, established [itself], and appeared in their image.'

If they say to you, 'Is it you?' say, 'We are its children, and we are the chosen of the living Father.'

If they ask you, 'What is the evidence of your Father in you?' say to them, 'It is motion and rest.'" Jesus said, "Those who know all, but are lacking in themselves, are utterly lacking."

1. Jesus said, "Congratulations to you when you are hated and persecuted; and no place will be found, wherever you have been persecuted."

2. Jesus said, "Congratulations to those who have been persecuted in their hearts: they are the ones who have truly come to know the Father.

Congratulations to those who go hungry, so the stomach of the one in want may be filled."

Jesus said, "If you bring forth what is within you, what you have will save you. If you do not have that within you, what you do not have within you [will] kill you." Jesus said, "There are many standing at the door, but those who are alone will enter the bridal suite." Jesus said, "I am the light that is over all things. I am all: from me all came forth, and to me all attained.

Split a piece of wood; I am there.

Lift up the stone, and you will find me there."

Jesus said, "When you see your likeness, you are happy. But when you see your images that came into being before you and that neither die nor become visible, how much you will have to bear!" Jesus said, "Why do you wash the outside of the cup? Don't you understand that the one who made the inside is also the one who made the outside?" They said to him, "Tell us who you are so that we may believe in you."

He said to them, "You examine the face of heaven and earth, but you have not come to know the one who is in your presence, and you do not know how to examine the present moment."

Jesus said, "Whoever drinks from my mouth will become like me; I myself shall become that person, and the hidden things will be revealed to him."

http://gnosis.org/naghamm/gosthom.html

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TJ2pYmKIOOg