Hi supergirl,

I may be the last person you want to hear from on this subject :) but I think I may have turned a corner in these last several days, and I felt that I may have some insight to share with you. So for what it's worth, I think if you are enjoying manifesting these very specific situations, then you should keep doing it, to your heart's content. But are you enjoying it? This is where I have come to at the moment, thanks to the great advice I have received from people here. If you are not enjoying yourself, you are not manifesting anything you are going to want. It seems that may be where you are, because you have not been happy with the result?

I don't know if many people are like me, but it has taken me while to make this my own. I have good reason to trust what I am reading on this site, so I believe what has been suggested to me in so many ways will help me, but when it comes right down to it, it has to become mine before it will work to effect real change. As to what mechanism trips to allow me to make something my own, I really don't know what that is, I only know that I can clearly feel a sort of a "click" inside when it happens. I felt that click just recently about wanting to manifest a relationship for myself, among other things. The end result is, I don't particular mind any more, either way. :) Keeping myself happy is my first concern, as our @Stingray has always told me. One big problem for me has been that I believed that getting what I wanted would make me happy.

I realize Now that there is no one and no thing that can take my pain away, or make me happy, except me. I would only bring that unhappiness to another person if I show up in a relationship like that, and I have absolutely no desire to inflict pain on anyone.

I think it may have been my turning point, when I saw that. It isn't as if dozens of people haven't told me basically the same thing many times, but I could not fully apply it to myself and my own feelings, until Now. My job is to please myself. For someone who used to believe that that is far too selfish even to seriously consider, this was a very new, very foreign concept that is only Now really getting into my head. There was a lot that I have needed to rid myself of, beliefs that hold me back. I know I'm not done, I can feel more is there, but I knew there should be a tipping point somewhere, and I think I may have reached it. In fact, my thinking is changing so fast, its a bit difficult to figure out the way my mind was working just last week!

I can see Now that being alone, I have the time and opportunity to take excellent care of myself, because there is very little that is needed from me by other people. Now, I indulge myself with any little whim that I feel like indulging in - I have no one to explain myself to. I do what I like to make myself happy. :) But here's the kicker: It needs to stay that way.

I Now see that I need to be making myself happy inside whether I am in a relationship or I'm single - It doesn't make any difference.

I have to be full of my own light. Full and flowing and radiantly Me, single or not, or I won't be able to achieve anything worth having. Another important thing I can see Now, is that I have not have been interested in taking good care of myself, before I learned to, here. Maybe that was my true starting point. Maybe there were many of them...

@Stingray also once told me that he just keeps giving out the same truth over and over again, in different words for different people and situations, because he knows this will eventually happen, the truth will sink in when we are ready for it.

When I was told again recently that there are things being orchestrated for me outside of my conscious awareness, it just finally stuck with me.

When read again that my manifestations are truly 100% all about what is going on inside me, what I think and feel, it finally made sense.

When I tried again to see that I need to let go, I finally saw it.

When I saw the truth again that I will get home, sooner or later, it stayed in my heart.

If you someday see that I need to hear this all again, I am no longer embarrassed by that. It happens to the best of us, so please don't hesitate to remind me. Whatever works. :)

I feel great. I am aware that feeling great will bring me what I want, so up til Now that knowledge had been keeping me on the hamster wheel, always wanting, then stopping, getting unhappy, renewing my hope, wanting again. But not this time - I've jumped off. :) Our @Pink Diamond pointed out to me (again) that just my feeling new desire is a request to the Universe, the rest is up to me to keep myself vibrationally aligned with my desires. So I figured I have launched enough rockets of desire up to this point to fill my life with joy for quite a while. No more needed for the moment. I am only concerned with being happy with where and with what I am. That means keeping negative feeling away from this subject, in fact all subjects as much as I possibly can, because that lack of feeling of lack will allow the manifestation to flow to me freely. So I just let go. I think it's about trust. Already, my physical world is showing change. It is so much fun to watch.

I guess I just wanted to encourage you (and everyone who feels this keenly) to keep on trying. Use whatever methods feel right to you to find and clear all the resistance you have inside, because if you're like me, it will take how ever long it will take to let these truths take root inside you, but they can't do that if you don't keep on trying. Don't be embarrassed to keep asking, keep poking around at it, keep talking about it. That's what these friends are here for. As always, if you can treat it lightly, as a fun game, all the better. :)

I really hope this helps in some way. It is amazingly hard to describe the feeling of "Oh! I get it Now!" I feel so much better, and I am so grateful to everyone here, I am bursting to share it.

:)

I think its fine to re write the list of things you imagine or picture doing with your soulmate, or in fact to keep it the same. The imagining, picturing in your mind and the thoughts you run thru can be similar or the same, or a mixture of the two.

As for re writing a list with a specific NAME attached, i wouldnt bother. Your higher self will inevitably outperform your lower minds wildest expectations. Your higher mind has access to knowledge that your carnal mind simply isnt CAPABLE of understanding fully.

Also the timing on this is a wonderfull thing, your situation could in one way be viewed as negative ie no guy! BUT on the other side of the coin it could be your higher self working towards a far better outcome than your imagination could even picture.

Either of the above ways of thinking are possible. I would always chose the latter. It will serve you better.

A lot of what ive just written is partially inspired by Bashar so i must give him credit for reminding me about this, and explaining it so even i can understand it! The rest of what ive written is inspired by results ive enjoyed in my own experience. And an ounce of results is worth more to me than a tonne of theorizing.

Keep the list and leave the name blank, give your higher self the benefit of the doubt, and decide that the right person for you will appear in your life when there meant to. This set back is an opportunity, a blessing, a springboard for better things. IF you decide it is.

M

@Supergirl and @Grace , looking through my email boxes and guess what something obviously for me but thought you may appreciate the share , with appreciation to Abraham Hicks & their Daily Quotes

I Can Attract Relationships That Agree with My Desires... People are not finding it difficult to find the mate of their dreams because that person is not out there, but because of their own contradiction to their own desire in the thoughts they offer about the subject every day.

When you consistently offer thoughts about your future relationship that feel good while you think them, that means you are consistently matching the desires that you have discovered as you have lived life. And under those conditions, only someone in agreement with your desires could come to you. Under those conditions, no need for control is necessary.

Through each exposure to interacting with others, you launch continuous rockets of desires of what you prefer. And only when you are a Vibrational Match to the culmination of those desires will you allow your rendezvous with someone who matches those intentions that you have gathered along your physical trail"

--- Abraham

I personally think (at least for me) it is most advisable to avoid trying to influence any specific person at any given time unless they're directly involved in the process.

Instead I'd focus on making myself the kind of person who attracts and embraces the kind of situations I'm looking for, either by myself or with others, as well as focusing on making myself the kind of person who attracts and embraces the kind of person who also embraces situations I'm looking for.

If you already have an idea of what kind of person you're trying to attract, start by deciding if the kind of person THEY want to attract is a kind of person you can see and are OK with yourself being, then go from there.

Personally I'd say it's better to make yourself who you want first, then focus on someone who wants your wants and you as you are.

When we write lists of what we WANT instead of what we have to give, we are manifesting people that our Egos want, not our SoulMate. If you write a list of all the gifts, talents, experience and things you want to share with your soulmate, then you allow the universe to choose the right person for you.