If taken as just one single piece of a puzzle, I suppose it could be. Example: A friend tells me she is diagnosed with a late-stage cancer. I could tell her she attracted this into her life by all of the grudges and anger she holds within her, which I have often noticed. This may be true that she attracted it. But by my statement, she would feel more guilt and feel even worse. Or I could see the big picture and be supportive. I could tell her that I love it when she is forgiving and I love it when she lets go of anger. I could tell her it feels so good to let go of grievances at any stage of life. I could offer her love and comfort, which is what we are supposed to do for one another. The practice of LOA depends on the practitioner. Anger, blame and reproach are never a positive thing, whether in the name of LOA or anything else.

Is it just me or does this law of attraction seem like it could send you round in a self loathing/blaming circle

It could do to you all kind of things. But there is an important point. The law doesn't do anything. You do!

It is just a law. You are responsible for your own results.

In the same way the law of gravity can be dangerous if you use it in a wrong way. So I will apply your question to the law of gravity first.

Is it just me or does this law of gravity seem like it could kill people.

Yes, you will die if you don't understand the law of gravity intuitively or logically.

If you never fell as a kid, you probably never learned intuitively that falling means hurting yourself.

So usually you understand how the law of gravity works by experiencing things yourself. You don't need a physicist telling you the gravity formula to understand this law.

After falling a few times as a kid you usually assume that for instance falling from a cliff could hurt even more.

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So normally you don't fight the law of gravity intuitively. You welcome it and use it to your advantage. You don't hurt yourself intentionally using the law of gravity as a kid (assuming you weren't a depressiv and suicidal kid :).

But what happens if you don't understand the law of gravity intuitively?

Usually your parents tell you that it hurts to fall and that the law of gravity can be dangerous. They explain to you on a logical level how the law of gravity works. So ultimately you understand the law of gravity logically if you can't figure it out intuitively yourself.

Eventually you take this inuitive and logical knowledge and go even further as a grownup. For example you invent a watermill or a hydroelectric facility using your knowledge about the law of gravity to your advantage.

So the point is that

• the law of gravity is not responsible for your results...but you are!
• the law of attraction is not responsible for your results...but you are!

"With great power, comes great responsibility." Uncle Ben in Spiderman :)

Just one thing about being a sceptic regarding the law of attraction and its practicality.

I've always been the greatest skepctic in general. And I don't think actually that this a problem. Many great thinkers in history have recommended to test things first before believing someone else blindly.

This kind of philosophy led to something that we all know today as science. Testing and measuring are totally valid tools.

Just give the law of attraction a try for 30 days. Find ways to feel good or even amazing for 30 days and watch good stuff coming to you almost magically.

If you don't test it for yourself, you will never know if it works. Because the law of attraction works all the time and if you don't believe in it, it will give you "fake evidence" that it doesn't work. That's why you can't believe a scientist when he talks about the LOA. His beliefs will proof the LOA wrong (or not). You must test it for yourself. You must be your own scientist.

If you actually think and notice about it, the people who often jump and say that "LOA doesnt work" and "LOA is a scam" are usually those who have always been blaming everything else except themselves for the current plight they are in. Originally I was open to listening people who claim that LOA is a scam to hear their side of the story, but as I got to know them better, I found that this was usually the case most of the time.

If you are worried that this LOA thing could send you into a negative loop and cycle, that is partially true, especially if you have to constantly watch your thoughts. It's just too difficult for anyone to do so, especially when they have been auto-piloting their thoughts for 20-40years or more.

If you want to believe in the LOA but currently can't, the better way would be to take it one step at a time. Start by being more positive in your own life and becoming more happy, before deciding whether you want to take further steps to use manifesting tools.

As the saying goes, if the knife kills a person, don't blame the knife. The knife can be good or bad depending on how the wielder actually uses it !

The main reason we are taught to think and feel better thoughts is cause thoughts and feelings take on a life of their own if we don't foucus and be deliberate. So if I have a thought of lack, then I might also be tempted to have a shaming or blaming thought quickly after that cause after all I attracted it. So the sooner I end the downward spiral the better, then I can start being a magnet for a better feelking life. I found that changing my old habits took a bit , and yes I found myself beating myself up along the way when I couldn't fix it right away. That was just part of the negative spiral, and it's so much better to live life with a positive spiral and checking my emotions frequently so I know what path I'm allowing. It's up to me to determine who or what I listen to. If it feels bad I move to another teacher.

If you want to be in the next town there are two things you can do.

1. You can complain because you are not in the next town, and blame yourself for not driving.

2. You can take your keys and drive there yourself and be happy when you get there.

We are given the understanding of The Law Of Attraction to give us understanding that we have choices to how our future works out for us.

The LOA is like your car keys, you need to push them in and start the engine going. Once you do there is the driving part, that means the motivation and the steering. In other words your action part, are you looking for opportunities in the road less bumpy road, short cuts etc...

Look at what you do not want, as Mike Kemski would say imagine a rebel genie. He pops out of a bottle. He says, "Alright I'm giving you 30 seconds to write everything you want gone from your life!" Do it, you have 30 seconds!

Now he yells at you again, "Done, now you have 30 second to write everything you want in life, go!" Again do it!

You now know what you do not want and you do want. Let what you do not want make you angry to the point of that you change. You have to get that disgusted to totally switch what you are doing and not look back.

If we keep doing what we are doing, we keep getting what we are getting.

Look forwards, don't look back. Don't get into thinking, "What happened?" Think, "What do I want to happen?" If we keep asking "Why", we'll never get time to ask, "Why not?" Time has no interest in the past, it cares not about where it was, only where it is going.

Well it is true that we all make our own reality. yet we are not alone in this world. And if she cares more about money and material stuff then people it is her problem.If she judges and blame it is also her problem. You have free will and are responsible of it.If you do something bad to someone else and it comes back to you who can you blame?You reap what you sow. Maybe she will have to ajust and align her self better with the universe afterward.LOA as this problem that many see it as doing nothing to obtain desire. As long as someone is trap in their desire they do not see the mystery.And nothing is really obtain for nothing,usely it is a trade you work and get money you give money and buy something.You help people and people help you.So thinking that just using LOA will give you everything and there is nothing to do is not really in truth. And if LOA is what you stopped at well experience and enjoy it but there is much more to experience and enjoy.

No its not just you, i believe LOA could do this to you.

It could send you in a downward spiral and destroy your 3 dimensional life. Absolutely right.

I must explain that i dont particularly like the phrase LOA, personally i prefer the phrase LOC,Law of Consciousness. As a man thinks in his "heart" so is he.There is some debate as to weather things are attracted or drawn to someone, or perhaps they themselves are drawn to a different reality track, with differing situations and things in them.

However you decipher the mechanics of it, your creating or perhaps moving yourself to differing realities. Either way your getting what you PREDOMINANTLY and CONSISTENTLY ,REALLY believe .

So by the same law...however you decipher this law...you could also end up in an upward spiral that leads to pretty much the opposite scenario that youve listed in your question.

Now i know its not pleasant to be told that YOUR responsible for your own thoughts and beliefs,and ultimately the reality track your now on .It feels kinda nice to blame the devil, Obama,Cameron, the tax man etc etc for all our problems. Nice...but rubbish.

You may choose to dis believe Esther, disbelieve the bible,Bashar,Neville,Zeland .

But your completely subject to the laws they talk about. You may think Esthers the biggest lier in the universe..but you cant "opt out" of the cause and effect system she teaches.

Your in it up to your neck, you decided to be in it, and as much as you fight against it your subject to these laws. End off.

They are always working for you, they bring you what you believe they will. Percieved good or bad...it makes no difference.

Its up to you, your choice. But you cant put yourself in neutral here. Your going up or down.

Choose up

M

I notice from your profile that you joined I.Q. just four days ago - i know from experience that it can be quite an ordeal for newcomers to be exposed to deep explications of how we function and put their belief systems under pressure - and the deeper the belief, the stronger the resistance and greater is the pressure ... in fact in the beginning as blubird i felt so routed and became so troublesome on IQ that Barry Allen closed my account with IQ ... the bit about self loathing/blaming resonates in me and reflects my own similar feelings coming back to surface ... it is a sign of making progress. I.Q. didn't invent the law of attraction, it is the basis of our physical world and has been in action since the beginning of time :)