I think the best way to think of your subconscious and it's effect upon your immediate reality is to imagine it as a mirror you are using to reflect sunlight upon a wall.

Let's say that you are holding a mirror in your hand and this mirror is the representation of your subconscious.

Now let's imagine that this mirror is not a perfect surface. It has many cracks, defects, problems, as well as beautifully reflective sections.

You cannot see your own mirror for it is not available to your immediate examination. In fact, a more appropriate description is to say that you cannot see your own face except in a reflection upon a mirror or a description by another.

now you catch and reflect the incoming sunlight (unlimited potential) against a blank wall in order to see an image created by your mirror.

Through this reflection upon the wall you can study the nature of the surface of your mirror

What ever features you have acquired upon this one-time perfect and innocent mirror are now reflected upon the wall with all of its complexity of beauty & blemishes.

Your subconscious is having the same effect upon your reality that surrounds you.

So you can examine the reflection upon the wall by studying the details of events that exist in your day-to-day existance, for that is your reflected image upon the wall of physical reality.

What is in your subconscious?.........well, that's what is being reflected back to you as circumstances within your physical reality.

So to say "How do I become more responsible for my subconscious" hints at the idea that somehow, you are NOT, right now, responsible for it and it's resulting effect upon your reality.

I know that this is not what you mean by asking the question.

You are probably asking "How do I fix my subconscious so that only what I prefer to attract exists within my subconscious"

So the first step to discovering what is within your subconscious is to take an honest assesment of your life, warts and all.

As things happen to you, that you do not prefer to experience, examine your own set of beliefs and accepted truths for a corresponding reference point.

Somewhere within your past memories there is an idea that was born that you accepted as the "truth" about yourself.

every movement of your own consciousness that runs on autopilot has a corresponding counterpart in your subconscious as an accepted "truth"

If you are accident prone, you probably have a counterpart of accepted truth "I am accident prone" within your self. If you constantly worry about not having enough money, you probably have a subconscious idea "I want to be rich" or "I hope I have enough for this month's bills",

So identify what you do not want in your life and find the corresponding counterpart within your subcionscious.

ONCE YOU IDENTIFY THE COUNTERPART WITHIN YOU, THEN YOU CAN TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR IT.

You can acknowledge that holding on to the counterpart in your subconscious was the cause of your current attraction within reality.

This in essence is exactly what "taking responsibility for it" means.

It is to notice that "I now understand what idea within me caused that experience to be attracted into my life"

Most people don't want to acknowledge that what happens to them has a counterpart within their subconscious, therefore the need to "take responsibility for it"

Understand, that many things happen to you because you want it to NOT happen to you.

In other words, things happen to you because you are trying to avoid them, like trying to avoid being in an accident.

Once it exists in your mind, wether you want it or not, it will exist in your reality.

IF YOU DO NOT WANT IT, IT WILL EXIST IN THE FORM IN WHICH YOU DO NOT WANT IT TO HAPPEN.

Read the above statement one more time and try to really comprehend it.

If you get the paradox and the truth within that statement, you will break free from the trap and take responsibility for your reality by taking responsibility for your subconscious.