In other words @RYXON how to rid yourself of negativity that prevents your desires from manifesting?

Karim Hajee has a few words to say on this subject

"The present moment is all that matters. Everything starts at this moment.The past is done with. The future has yet to arrive.

All that matters is this present moment.

When you focus on the present moment, when you appreciate it and enjoy it you give yourself tremendous power, the kind of power that will create and bring you what you want.

Your subconscious only lives in this present moment. Everything you think and believe at this moment is what your subconscious creates and brings into your life. And so you have tremendous power in this present moment, because right now, at this time, you can direct your subconscious to create and bring you what you want.

So think about what you want and not what you don't want, believe you can have what you want. Sure you'll get some negative thoughts and negative beliefs that say you can't or that it's difficult or that you don't know how.

These negative thoughts and negative beliefs are based on past experiences, but the past doesn't matter, your subconscious, your power does not know the past, it only lives in the present. At this present moment you can do and achieve anything you want.

So give your subconscious the right instructions, give it the right directions, start living in the present and let your subconscious create what you want.

When you're not living and enjoying the present moment, when you think about the past, or what went wrong, or about how things didn't work out or when you worry you give your subconscious the wrong instructions, you prevent it from creating and bringing you what you really want.

Your subconscious can't re-create the past, your subconscious can't go into the past, it only knows the present.

And so when you think about the past, when you worry about what went wrong or what didn't work out you handcuff your subconscious mind, it can't work for you, it will try to create the past by creating more negative situations.

It's only working with your present thoughts and beliefs, if those thoughts and beliefs are negative or stuck in the past it will keep creating more negative situations today and you'll continue to have a negative life, one that has more struggle, more pain and more hardships. It happens because your subconscious keeps following those negative thoughts and beliefs.

So today you live in the present moment, you think about what you want, you think about what is positive in your life, you think about having a better life and achieving your goals."

Soothing yourself, in any way you can. The outside things that "speak to the opposite" - they speak to you, showing you where your focus is.

You're working here against a momentum, so don't demand of yourself to go strictly to what you want and imagine it and hold it in your mind - if you're not at that vibrational level, it will be very heavy lifting.

Partly I described in these topic answers what to do:

What to do when life hits rock bottom?
How does one escape negativity when one is surrounded by it daily?
how do i find out what my vibrational energy level is?
Can people absorb/take away your goodness or luck from you?

You can also use LifeFlow to easier meditate and concentrate on what you do want.

You can download a pdf I use to soothe me; you can print it out and stick to a wall to see it often:

All is well.
All is well.
Everything is working out for my highest good.
Out of THIS experience only good will come,
and I am safe.

The secret to "The Secret" is 
really just being willing to be yourself, your full self.
And act like this, and behave like this, and know,
and KNOW,
that it's always in your best interests to do so.
Always. 

...As you reach for what feels better - you're on your way,
because if it feels better to you, it's never a mistake,
if it feels better to you, it's not the wrong way, 
if it feels better to you, it's Source calling you to completion
of that which you are.

Your guidance system will continue to call you forward,
and the path will become clearer and brighter and more obvious to you, 
the more downstream turns you take.

Your path feels like relief from where you are.

Your Point of Power is in the Present.

There're some more of such downloads here.

And you can also use these self-coaching processes:

Focus delight (general)
3-3-3 clean form
Having fun with timelines - an unusual approach
What's in it for you
State of being (works as a reset)
for developing your mastery: And it's wonderful!

etc. Find more there at the blog :)

if one learns that the desire
shifts or your focus of why
you are here follow it up,
perhaps a part of you grows