Just 4 years? I seem to have had this situation most of my life, with one difference I "get" the person I feel I'm currently in love with and then things fizzle out. I realized that I was in love with love and even though I would like to have a partner at some point in my life I'm actually quite OK with being alone.

When we are desperate for something to happen - it doesn't. I should know that more than anyone here and most people at inwardquest are a witness to it:-) But honestly just ask yourself why you want a romantic partner? If it is just to make you feel good and happy about yourself then the Universe is trying to teach you to be first happy about yourself on a take-it-or-leave it terms.

Get to know yourself first. I used to try and change myself for others, but it is only recently that I have discovered who the real me is and, despite my depressions and problems, I really do love myself. Knowing myself has helped me to identify the kind of person I would be able to live the rest of my life with if he comes my way - if not what's the big deal? Although you should compromise in a relationship you should never live your entire life as a compromise.

Just as it is with money, it is the great paradox of romance that you will find the "real thing" once you realize you don't really need it to be happy.

Consequently, your best approach is to focus on the things that will make you a better person. By doing so, you will eventually attract someone who is consistent with these ideals.

I am going to recommend a movie to you. It's called "Waitress." I saw it over the weekend with low expectations, but it surprised me by being one of the best films I've seen in a long time. It is an extraordinary movie about happiness, and the choices we make to achieve it.

Hi milanz, Both Vesuvius and Stingray are absolutely right. The important thing is to focus on the feeling. Visualize yourself in whatever you consider to be a perfect relationship and hold onto that feeling. Whenever you loose the feeling bring the picture back. At the very least you will feel good but you will also be creating the vibrational match that you so desire.

The interesting thing about the law of attraction is that we tend to focus on what we dont want instead of what we want. It is a bad habit that most of us have. I am making a conscious effort to change this in my life. Whenever you find yourself thinking that you do not have romance in your life you will attract more of the same. It is easy or it can be hard to do depending on your attitude. Good Luck.

Milan, here is an advise from a person who always had a special someone in her life. It is nice to have another sharing your path; however, for me, having been a teen bride twice, I feel the most growth I've had was the 3 years in which my husband worked at a separate continent. I got to decide even the simple things like what to have for dinner, how to wear my hair...I think you should truly take advantage of this time alone and make the most of it! I mean savor it! Because once you get that special someone, you'll be too busy with them to fully realize all your potential. Have fun and never mind the rest, it'll happen when you least expect it for you'll be ready by then.

Thank you, namaste

Like Vesuvius has said, you will have to reach a state where you do not 'need' the relationship to be happy to actually manifest the relationship in your physical reality.

Your 'need' for the relationship is introducing the feeling of 'lack' of a relationship and all the negative emotions that comes with this feeling of 'lack'.

These negative emotions which I refer to as 'resistance' is what is stopping the relationship from manifesting in your physical reality.

We are all non-physical beings at the core although we have decided to manifest in these physical bodies on earth to experience physical reality. And whenever we have a desire (like your desire for a relationship), the universe automatically manifests this desire in your non-physical reality. This is the way the universe is designed to work.

It is then up to us to release all resistance (negative emotions) in relation to that desire and the desire will then manifest in the physical reality. The universe manifests in physical reality the exact match of what we are giving our attention to. If you are giving your attention to the lack of relationship, then the universe has to manifest exactly that in your physical reality even though the relationship you want has already been created in the non-physical and is waiting for you to align with it.

You need to be happy and make peace with your current reality before the relationship manifests in your life. Attain that happy state by always trying to feel good about every little thing in life. Even when looking at the 'issue' we are having, we can always find something good about it (Maybe something you have learned and as a result grown as a person which made you so much better and more confident as a person). As long as you hold negative emotions with regards to the desire, it cannot manifest.

Milanz, I was just reading the master Key Part 9, came across this paragraph and thought of you:

1. If you require Love try to realize that the only way to get love is by giving it, that the more you give the more you will get, and the only way in which you can give it, is to fill yourself with it, until you become a magnet. The method was explained in another lesson.

http://www.psitek.net/pages/PsiTekTMKS19.html

Write out your Wish List, and do not leave out any details of your ideal partner, and the life style you want to share, and remember to put it into your Wish Box! Now that you have created your Wish List, allow the LOA to manifest your desire in the correct order of time for you.

Believe it, and you will see it! Good Luck.

I wrote an answer here that very well applies to this too http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/17364/how-do-i-eliminate-the-vibration-of-loneliness/61627