Dear Susan,

It seems that the real issue here is your desire to stay in the country--and you feel that the only way you can do this is to manifest a "soul mate" who will marry you within a very, very short period of time.

Why not give the Universe a little more time for your soul-mate request, and concentrate instead on the issue that is bothering you the most--

Being able to stay in your country of choice.

I assure you, there are other ways the Universe can manifest your continued stay in your chosen country other than a rush marriage. Hundreds, possibly thousands of other ways. Possibly an infinite number of ways.

Don't worry yourself about what these ways might possibly be. Let the Universe figure it out, and take care of it for you. It does a better job at figuring this sort of stuff out than we could possibly do as individuals.

So first, I would completely let go of this belief that you "need to find your soul mate in 20 days" in order to stay in the country. This is adding an additional step that you seem to have a lot of anxiety about. Just get rid of this notion. Convince yourself fully that marrying immediately is just not neccessary to achieving your present object of staying in the country...and that there are plenty of other unforeseen ways to accomplish your most pressing objective.

So how can you manifest your goal of staying in the country?

I would first take a look at this post about How to Manifest Anything.

As you will read in this post, there are often difficulties in manifesting something when you are anxious about the outcome or feel you "need it really bad."

The best possible thing would be to forget about your request to stay in the country. Make the request to the Universe, let go your worries, and mentally-emotionally "go on vacation."

However, as you have expressed your present circumstances and feelings about them, this seems like it might be difficult for you to do.

So have a read on these posts about manifesting for a deadline, or "speeding" a manifestation:

http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/9098/how-can-i-release-the-how-and-trust-the-universe-will-deliver/9107

http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/2418/what-does-detachment-truly-mean-in-law-of-attraction/2424

If you are new to these techniques, this might be a lot to handle for you just starting out.

The truth is, this is advanced stuff even for me (having been at it for about six months now), so I'll keep my fingers crossed that someone with a little more experience out there can offer you some suggestions or advice...

Any takers out there?

EDIT 10/15/2012 9:40 PM

In response to Susan's comment, here are some links to help you with ridding yourself of anxiety about what you want to manifest:

The Focus Blocks Method

and

The Resistance Release Method

and...

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

This posting provides some links to several online Vortex Meditations which will be extremely helpful:

http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/60227/how-does-life-get-better-when-i-dont-know-how-to-be-positive?page=1&focusedAnswerId=60244#60244

Here is something else I use often...it's called a Rampage of Appreciation. Although the one posted here pertains specifically to finance, when there is something I want to feel good about, I tailor edit it to the subject I want to feel good about manifesting, and then I read it back to myself every day:

http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/52874/a-rampage-of-appreciation-what-does-it-for-you/52943

And here are a few more postings which might be helpful to your situation:

http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/7081/i-want-to-attract-a-new-job-should-i-create-a-focus-block-everyday-until-i-achieve-it

http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/5571/will-my-new-house-manifest#5575

http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/7040/is-it-possible-to-feel-relief-on-a-topic-from-a-point-that-is-not-your-trained-vibration#7077

Use whichever of the above techniques succeed in making you feel better about your situation and what you want to manifest. If only one of them works for you, then use that one. If three of them work for you, then use those three.

Hope these help!

I see you posted this over 2 years ago, so I hope you are with someone new. I seems from you posting that you wanted to find someone to get away from home and you were willing to enter a PhD program you weren't really interested in to do so.

In that case you are not being honest with yourself. The universe takes note of that. One way to manifest your soulmate is to live impeccably. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Then the universe can respond to your requests on it's own timeline, not yours. When you say you want to manifest a soulmate in 20 days, that is Ego speaking. If it's not in your highest and best good, the universe will not respond to give you want you want, but it will respond to give you what you need.

Note: I would also stop referring to the abusive man you were dating as "My boyfriend." If you want to get rid of him in your head too, switch to "my ex."