Have you read any of Ekhart Tolle's books? They might not be your cup of tea, but they do have a lot of great information on addiction to suffering and how to rise above it. It's quite fascinating to realise that part of you actually likes or enjoys suffering. Once you recognise it in this way it's pretty easy to see it for the madness it is and let it go.

The others are right though, you just have to stick it out and the good times will increase in frequency and suddenly you'll look around and the world will look different, and you'll feel a happiness inside that you have never felt before. It will feel like coming home and all the dark moments will be a small price in comparison to what you have discovered and created. It just takes time and faith, as frustrating as that answer is.

As others have said, this is a necessary stage and it will pass. The good news is that this happens only when you are changing gear - so it's not a bad thing. You are advancing.

A slightly disconcerting fact (at least in my experience) is that this will happen EVERY TIME you change gear. But that's the price to pay for spiritual advancement.

For the time being consider curling up in a dark cave until the storm has passed :-)

I think we can all relate to this in some form or other. Basically, there are two levels of getting out of the drama-suffering cycle.One is to be so fed up and tired of drama with people and/or situations that you decide to take a new direction in life and shift your vibrations. The reason drama occurs is that we are judgemental beings and are of the opinion that we need some kind of justification to give us the excuse and motivation to change and shift. Of course, that is exhausting - and dramatic. If we are able to allow ourselves without further justification and reason to want what we want and not just say so and then, out of feelings of unworthiness and limiting beliefs, sabotage ourselves or at least create drama to a point that provides us with the justification why we cannot possibly remain in the old patterns. It is a lot easier and more peaceful to not give energy to drama, not create it to use it as a tool for ourselves, but instead sit down, think about what we really, really want and use Creation Formula to create it. (You can read about this technique, or better formula in "Creation Formula" by Marilyn Holzmann. It's totally easy and straight forward.) The formula is very simple: Emotion + Label = Experience Emotion means energy in motion, the highest of which are love, peace and joy (not to be confused with feelings!), then you decide on the label, which is, for example, owning a new car. The experience is how you want this to come about. Easy, free of debt, perfect car for my needs, etc. That's the easiest way that brings the fastest results - guaranteed drama-free. :D Life really doesn't have to be hard and things don't have to come with a big sacrifice and suffering. I hope that helps! Much love and enjoy creating with ease and speed! <3

There is still some residual negative energy and momentum that needs to be cleared or dissolved, and it can get very uncomfortable and overwhelming, this is known as the spiritual detoxing phase or chemicalizing, As there may possibly be many layers of limiting beliefs to uncover and change, there may be periods of intense negative emotions or the need for solitude and even isolation, everybody's experience is different depending on how long they've held on to their limiting beliefs, fears, or suffering. The good news is you're pointed in the right direction as persistence and perseverance are paramount to success, this period of darkness is necessary so that you can blast through to the other side stronger and more fearless, it truly IS only temporary. How this is done [clearing/changing] will be entirely up to you, [techniques, processes, methods] as what works or resonates best with you will ensure your success. This can be a very uncomfortable process so be as easy on yourself as much as possible, you may try very hard to suppress the negative emotions, or even fight [resist] them, but just know that they are surfacing for a reason, so that they can be cleared or dissolved for changing. Once the process of clearing/dissolving the negative/limiting beliefs has been completed, you can begin to focus on your intents [desires] with little to no resistance, more purer and positive emotion, over time gaining positive momentum, then your physical reality will begin to reflect your newfound positivity back to you in the form of vibrational matches, [physical manifestations] You have much to look forward to my friend, Godspeed!

In bluebells answer a couple of phrases with reference to Ekhart Tolle

"part of you actually likes or enjoys suffering" ... "great information on addiction to suffering and how to rise above it" ... spacemetalfantasy says "it seems to me that I am addicted to suffering"... hmm ... very interesting :)

Who is bluebell, Ekhart Tolle, spacemetalfantasy ? They're in my story space, they're outside of me, they're nothing to do with me. I'm in here in my inner space.

So what do I think about suffering? well I don't like suffering. What do I feel about suffering? a little bit's ok even pleasureable, a lot is painful and it's disageable.

then there's "creation formula" by Marilyn Holzmann, "emotion + label = experience emotion" ... I'm not familiar with her writings, and in any case again the works of Marilyn Holzmann are in my story space.

In my experience I have the original energy experience which I like to describe as raw energy ...

perhaps past decisions play
a role here, if made in a
hurry out of fear it comes
back as mental anguish